Not leaving estate to husband

[Ebananascroogey]

Just wondering if its possible to leave everything in my will to someone else? Every asset was mine bought before we got together, so can I leave them all to my brother, or will he have claim on it all because we are married?
Marriage is 8 years so far if that makes a difference.
Thanks for any help you can give

See a divorce lawyer immediately.

Contentment in the rest of your life is worth fighting for. As a pp said, the longer you leave it the more he’ll get. I would start divorce now.

I know but I would call them anyway. He’ is spending your money, which you don’t have control of and you’re scared to say anything.

I would at least talk to them, or you could use the National Domestic Helpline’s Chatbot

It sounds to me as though the only reason he isn’t abusive, is because you keep him sweet. I think he’s coercing you and financially abusing you.

M You don’t have control of your finances, you can’t spend and save the way you want to, and you can’t challenge him because he kicks off.

Take your time. Work out a plan. And don’t be afraid to name his abuse. You haven’t been stupid as you said earlier. You’ve been manipulated and conned.

You shouldn't given him full access nor this marriage works for you.

Another option is speak to your bank. They usually have specialist teams who can provide help & guidance for someone in your position & can setup safe accounts etc.

How are you ..

@Bathingforest I'm ok, thanks fir checking in. Just waiting for my leave from work & my solicitors appointment when I'll know more about my next steps

Could you impose a budget and deny access to your savings?