Please help. Proof of domestic abuse.

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Hello, I really need some help.

Who can I ask for help with a 'Proof of domestic abuse' form?

I've asked the GP, but I've never spoken to them previously about domestic abuse so they can't help.

I've asked
Women's aid,
Domestic abuse helpline,
Wellbeing cafe,
Social services.
All of those I've spoken to about the abuse previously, but they aren't able to help.

I've asked the police, who have sent me an email confirming previous contact, but I'm fairly certain that this won't be 'enough'. Waiting to have this confirmed.

I'm also waiting to hear back from my counsellor.

Is there anybody else who I can ask?
Having to try to 'prove' this, right now, is absolutely mentally destroying me.

Thank you.

If I don't get some help with some money, then I can't.

The situation is extremely serious & the 'evidence' is stacked against me.

Not a happy update.

2 letters from the GP now. Both not good enough.

All hope is gone

I’m really sorry OP

OP, please look on this link:
Sample letters to get evidence of domestic violence - GOV.UK

I'm in exactly the same position as you (trying to gather evidence of DV to help with Legal Aid application.

If you click on this link, it shows templates of letters you can fill in with your details (as well as details of your abuser) and send them off to the courts and whichever police force dealt with the incident(s). Given that these templates are actually a "thing", I'm sure the police/courts would be used to receiving such requests for information.

I sent off my letters (these template ones) to court and police almost 2 weeks ago. The police emailed me to acknowledge receipt, and asking me for proof of my ID and proof of address. I emailed this to them. Hopefully will hear something back from them soon.

Also, I made a "Subject Access Request" to the NHS trust who employed the midwives/health visitors I made DA disclosures to at the time. It took me a lot of digging around and several phone calls of being passed from pillar to post to even get in touch with the right department/team, but once I did find them they were really helpful. Phone conversation with them too. Just waiting to hear back with whatever relevant records they can find. I believe they have 28 days to respond after receiving the request.

No idea which part of the country you're in but I'm in the North West and my maternity services were provided by the Northern Care Alliance. If this matches your location, I'm happy to share the email address and phone number. In my case, it was mainly the midwives and health visitors who I shared details with, didn't approach my GP until after finally fleeing the marriage. So in my case, the midwives/HVs knew more about the ins and outs of my DA situation, as did the police.

Hope this helps you, please feel free to PM me if you have any questions. Good luck x

Thank you for taking the time to write this, santorinisunset but I didn't speak to the midwives or health visitors about things & the police only have records of my son being violent to me. Apart from that one time when they spoke to my ex but that wasn't a caution or anything so doesn't count.

I have nobody to ask.

I have all of my SAR's from contact with children's services throughout the years, it's mentioned on there through the years of me telling them about my ex being abusive but when I contacted one of those workers she said that since she's not working with us now, she cannot help, but she's asked our current SW to help... Current SW says she isn't able to help.

I really hope that you have a good outcome

Unfortunately for me, all that getting all of these SAR reports has done, is give me hours & hours of hell, reading how much everybody is working against me behind the scenes

Thank you Mrsttcno1 too.