I’m teach in 3rd level education. The organisation I work in isn’t great . I have worked there 20 years as it suited geographically and fitted in well with my home/ family life. I have a rocky relationship with my manager going back a couple of years. I feel they have been unfair and not treated me equitably in comparison with every other member of my faculty. They have made what I consider sexist and ageist remarks in conversations about this. I have little to do with them on a daily basis but nearly every conversation with them has been difficult/ heated. They have put me very difficult situations recently to sign off on things I wasn’t happy with. They continually make remarks about me needing to upskill - which I’m more than happy to do. I was directed to find training courses. I found appropriate training which they said was suitable and they had approved. Recently I got notification that it had been approved by the appropriate dept. When I mentioned this to the manager within half an hour later I got another notication to say there had been a technical error and it wasn’t approved and not to proceed. My manager told me in writing that it had been blocked at senior management level. I suspected this wasn’t true. I bumped into the person who they said had blocked it and they told me that they hadn’t blocked it. I approached my union last year. The rep was very supportive and spoke to them on my behalf. Unfortunately the rep left last summer and I don’t feel the current reps will be much use, one has no experience and the other is friendly with my manager. I cannot see that the relationship can be repaired and I’m constantly looking over my shoulder which is having an impact on my physical and mental health. I have a youngish family and a self employed partner so I can’t not work. Has anyone any advice please?