Help Neighbour Threatening Me and My Children Constantly

[Honeybee99]

Long time poster name changed, I need some wise words and legal guidance.
I moved a year ago with my two young daughters. An elderly man had lived their for the previous 40 years. We are out of the house 7-6pm and we are not loud.

I needed a party wall agreement, the neighbour a man was unwilling so I paid a party wall agreement company who managed the process. The company chap remarked that he was surprised they were being used as there was so little done. My neighbour made up things like a vase fell because of the noise?!! He complained to the council but to no avail as we had done nothing. We don't use the lovely garden as I need to get it done, its just mud. Because I wanted good relations I sent the builder to speak to the neighbour about his gripes and we agreed to pay half each, I did not get involved in the discussion and paid (July 2023) the builder contacted me in December and said my neighbour did not pay.

This morning I received this :
Front Fence Broken - caused by building material constantly propped up against. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HE MEANS
2. Front of house - damaged/stained paintwork caused by the scaffolding erected by the builder using our house as support without our permission??
3. Front of house - cracks and distortion to render. ?????
4. Chimney - A signification amount of rubble came down the chimney during building work while the builder was using prohibited machinery. We would normally use it during the winter to supplement our heating but have not done so since building work started as we are no longer sure if it is safe to use.
5. The hole made in the loft party wall by the builder was never fixed.
10. Roof - requires a complete overhaul to fix damage caused by the builder.
11. Internal - Noticed cracking around the lintel close to the party wall.
I have also been asked for a contribution to the cost of repairs which I have not paid.

My expectation is that:
All the damage to my home is fixed at no cost to me.
All work is carried out by specialist contractors.

I am broken he refuses to speak with me (sent via party wall company).
PLEASE HELP WHAT DO I DO?
CAN I REQUEST HE LEAVES ME ALONE?

Are they right about any of the damage listed?

Has a party wall surveyor assessed the property before the work and assessed it afterwards?

Have you sent this list to your contractors to comment on?

Your title says he is threatening you and your children constantly - is he?

Well, the big question is … Is he right about the damage?

Your title mentions constant threats, but your OP says nothing about this

So he sent this to the party wall company? Let them (or their insurance, more accurately) deal with it.

Are the issues listed the same as the ones provided previously? Are they the ones you agreed to pay half to rectify?
Am I understanding correctly that he hasn't provided this communication to you directly, but via the party wall professional?

Sorry OP the bloke sounds like a total loon.
I would hazard a guess he's pulling a fast one if he's elderly I would guess his house is in a bad way and in need of repair and maintenance through no fault of your own but has seen an opportunity to blame you for what needs to be repaired.

All that can be done is if you contact the original builder and ask them to come out and access damage.
Going forward I would take photographic evidence and getting everything in writing from this idiot before any work is carried out and then when he plays funny buggers fire back with a solicitors letter to him threatening him with legal action and to stop harassing you and your family.

You need to explain if there is any validity in his complaints?

This is why you have a party wall agreement, so that in the case of damage, there is a record of the condition of the property before and after the works and they can make a judgement on whether the works were responsible, and request a compensation award accordingly.

What do they say?

If the party wall company have sent this, I assume they've checked the validity of the complaints?

What does the party wall agreement say and is there validity in his claims?

Did the builder use machinery they shouldn't have? Can you see the external damage in the letter? If your building work genuinely caused damage then yes the neighbour is reasonable to expect it to be remedied in line with the party wall agreement and his legal rights. I would pass it along to the builder in the first instance and he may well contact to arrange a visit to assess. Builders have liability cover for this type of thing.

Can you elaborate on the constant threats in the title.

Because I wanted good relations I sent the builder to speak to the neighbour about his gripes and we agreed to pay half each, I did not get involved in the discussion and paid (July 2023) the builder contacted me in December and said my neighbour did not pay

also, you agree to pay half of what? What were his gripes at thus point?

What did the neighbour agree to pay half of?

Isn’t this for the party wall company to sort out?

Can you elaborate on the constant threats in the title.

I can’t work it out either, she says constant threats but also says he refuses to talk to her,

if indeed your builder caused the damage you can’t just ask him to leave you alone, the builder would be insured. They should pay for damage they caused

but you need to be clear, what did you agree to pay half off and is there any validity in the new claims?

It was the previous occupant of OP’s house who was elderly. We don’t know how old the grumpy neighbour is.

Its hard to know what the situation is without more information. What work needed to be paid for? Is there a hole in the loft? Why was it not fixed at the time? He may well be over exagerrating, which seems to be what you are saying, but when my neighbours had their chimney repointed the builders put the scaffolding outside my house (terraced) and blocked my tv signal for 2 weeks, and cracked a bunch of tiles walking over my roof to get to the chimney.

Hi sorry I've been at work.
He sent the email to the party wall company I assume because he ignores me.
The chap came from the party wall company at the time (last year) it was all fine and signed off.
The issues are all new to me and no there is no damage.
Threatening me because he won't communicate with me directly but constantly watches us. Threatening me now for finances and I don't know how to show he is lying. Ignores me but then calls the Council / Party wall company, nothing was ever proved or upheld, no professional has verified anything on his behalf.
I just want to peacefully live my life and I want my daughters to be safe.

What do I do to stop him contacting me and putting a stop to all his baseless allegations?

What did he agree to pay half of?

Everything he asked the builder to do last year was completed (this was 6-9 months ago). I didn't even get involved, the builder just sent me the half the bill.

I will check in later after homework and bath / bed
I appreciate you thanks

Just to explain the elderly guy died and I bought the house.
My neighbour is not elderly he is around 60ish

No machinery they did it by hand.

Watching you isn't 'threatening' you. Intimidating, maybe, at a push. But you'd have to be looking at him to notice him watching you surely? Your daughters are perfectly safe, he hasn't done anything to you

If he's communicating with the party wall company and council, let them deal with it. I don't understand the issue if he's not harrassing you directly?

Does the neighbour have any legal recourse?