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Divorcing a narcissist

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rougeroses · 09/11/2023 10:04

Could anyone give me some advice please?

Need to file for divorce.

Been separated for 2 years and been claiming universal credit ever since.

I am a carer for my autistic child (not his) and have 2 other children.

When we separated, we split the savings 50/50

We have no joint finances

We have no mortgage

I am in a housing association home which I got after we separated.

We have a child together which just lately, he hasn't seen much of at all. Nothing set in stone in terms of contact. It's just been a couple of hours here and there.

He is in quite a bit of debt, none of it is in my name. He is a gambling addict.

He pays no maintenance (going to cms if he hasn't paid this by tomorrow)

Called the police twice now regarding his abusive behaviour.

A couple of things:

• when we separated, I took the car. The loan is in his name but the car is in mine. He has added to this loan since but there is only about 9 months left on the car part of the loan. I have told him I am not paying for this.

• He pays for the sofa that's in my house. I have set up a standing order to pay him for this monthly

• he says he wants to take me to court so as he wants me to pay him for some work he did on the house. Although I have proof he was doing this to help me out and never wanted paying.

Can anyone tell me if I am best to just apply online or should I get a solicitor with him being abusive? I know I will get help with fees.

It should be easy as there is nothing to sort but I am scared of him and how difficult he could make this.

I want the process to be as easy and straight forward as possible but I don't want to make the wrong move because he is an absolute nightmare to deal with.

Thank you.

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