Unmarried separation and dispute on equity

[fabulous01]

Complicated case.
together 25 years
twin girls age 8

relationship broke down at the point he was arrested for images and children

charged and then sentenced to prison child abuse

sale of family home, I have to give up job and earning, already had to take a demotion for childcare

he is being funded by parents on promise of equity

equity £170 k

he is arguing through costly solicitors to 50/50

he will never have to do child care due to nature of offences

I need a home, for children and stability, no job. Children need to settle into new country

application required on childrens act schedule 1

any advice? I appreciate I need a good solicitor but it is costly …..

This is heartbreaking I am so very sorry op xxxx

Yes true

Full sympathy op xxx

Sorry to hear about your story and for your girls. U fortunately the English law doesn't care about children's welfare or rights despite what they say. In civilised countries you'd get the equity from the house and he would have to pay for damage to the girls. Once he is out of prison social services may even force the girls to stay with him! They have forced children of abusers to have contact with them before. You still have a chance to move as further away as you can from him and his family, the legal system is there to make money not to do what is fair. Sorry!

@cato40 that's utter nonsense BTW, the legal 'system' is governmental, its not there to make any money, it costs money and is for our benefit. It puts children's welfare at the forefront, not what the mother thinks is best for their welfare. Usually what's best for them is to have a relationship with their father, regardless of whether he's hurt their mothers feelings.

@Adelishious what about the children abused in Bradford, victims of abuse forced to have contact with their pawdoparents? News stories are full of cases of children forced to have contact with their abusers! It is not about what a mum think is right. The laws are not there to protect kids but to tick boxes that children have contact with abusers regardless. If the legal system wasn't there to make money it wouldn't cost an arm and a leg and force victims of abuse to choose between freedom or poverty.

Let me guess

you are something of a conspiratoralist?

@cato40 you've lost me there I'm not getting how you are connecting any of those dots. Just because there are injustices in the world doesn't mean the legal system is to blame. You can't see any legal system as a magic wand

@fabulous01 I didn’t want to read and run. I can’t advise you on your personal circumstances but you absolutely must get legal advice. A straightforward split of the equity is not necessarily appropriate in your case. Just so you’re fully aware of the possible options I’ve added a link to an article about the court’s discretionary powers under the Children Act including making provision for the children from the property.
www.weightmans.com/insights/what-is-schedule-1-children-act-1989-your-questions-answered/

I wouldn’t bother
it makes no sense on any level to anyone other than those who think along the lines that all the world governments came together to release covid in to society to stop the population growing so quickly.

No I am not a conspirationalist but I do believe there is a deep issue when the justice system in a so called civilised country forces children victim of abuse to spend time with their perpetrators. See the Bradford paedo gangs. It is a real story not a conspirator theory, uncomfortable but true. How many children in families where there is domestic abuse are forced to see their abusive parent? Better pretend that is not happening and believing your own story

The Bradford gangs you mention.

what the flipping heck does that have to do with your spurious point about forcing children to spend time with their abusers.

I am unaware that the “justice system” “forced” victims to spend time with their abusers

The child's welfare is the most important consideration for the family courts. No system is perfect so they will, of course, get it wrong sometimes. But the allegation that the English courts don't care about children's welfare or rights is completely untrue.

What utter utter rubbish