Separation not married

[Coconutyellow05]

Hi has anyone remained in the family home after separation? We have a joint mortgage and my partner expects me to leave after he buys me out - I have been told I can legally stay until my youngest is 18 - I don’t want to add to the disruption in their lives and could afford to pay the bills and mortgage on my own

This is what the solicitor has just advised me - not all hope is lost x

I'd speak to another solicitor before proceeding. You could spend a lot of money to come out with only your original share of equity and child maintenance, if that's what this one is telling you.

OP you’d be better moving this thread to the legal section. Report any of your own posts and MN will move it for you

Good luck 💐

Thank you - I might be searching for a needle in a haystack but I’m just a mother in despair x

Could you take your equity and get a mortgage a buy a very small property in your area or close to it?

@DraigFach

A mesher order is a specific process that's requested as part of a divorce.

You're not divorcing, so unless the solicitor you instruct is shit hot at family law and can create precedence where there is none it's incredibly unlikely that one will be issued. Even in divorce it's something the courts try to avoid unless absolutely necessary.

I'm sorry but I think you need to prepare for the eventuality that you either need to buy out your soon to be ex partner or to accept him buying you out.

Spot on.

My colleague did this. She's just taken him
Off the mortgage and given him a lump sum. With one to follow when the children are 18. Or something like that.

I am now dealing with a solicitor who can hopefully give me some proper advice - thanks everyone for your input

What was their advice, @Coconutyellow05? Just out of interest

I'd be intrigued to know also.