Am I Ms Mrs or Miss?

[Mymadlife]

I didn't change my surname when I got married. My maiden surname is Kaye and my husband's is Sanders. I'm a teacher and I want to keep my name as Kaye.....so should I be known as Mrs Kaye or Miss Kaye. If I use Mrs the Kaye is not my married name and if I use Miss then it implies I'm not married.....anyone ? Please help? Ps Ms.... just sounds secretive lol

Well hopefully you wouldn't assume that any more

Indeed Codename

I didn't Change my name when I got married but I was known as Mrs my maiden name.
Now I'm divorced I go with Ms or Miss (but at 39 Miss seems a bit young sounding). I don't really like Ms either-does it seem a bit pretentious?-but that's the best fit for my situation I guess.

Ms only seems pretentious because we are conditioned to find women standing up for ourselves or rejecting stereotypes as unseemly. BE pretentious. Choose your own title.

I've been married and also not married. Never changed my name and always used Ms.

I’ve known a few teachers who kept their maiden name when they got married and went from Miss X to Mrs X.

@CodenameVillanelle I’d still assume based on all the people I’ve known personally

I'm a teacher and I go by Ms + married surname. All my female colleagues use Ms too. It's important to make this the norm!

The point is not to assume, based on the people you don't know

As this thread has shown, there are many women who choose to use Ms who are single, married, not currently married or never married - and this has been the case for many years.

So it is rude to assume.

Maybe I should just assume that people who assume, despite having been told the contrary, are just rude . But I won't. I'll just think that they're ignorant (in the true sense of the word).

Just don't presume. Safest way.