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Social services decisions

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user1485708720 · 09/06/2019 00:19

Can social services decisions be challenged?
I have recently had a decision made by my social worker meaning my partner can not see my children. Ex bad tried to block him and has started brain washing our kids against me and my partner. We've been told twice by SS that partner can set the

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TheBestNapIEverHad · 11/06/2019 21:04

Forgive me if I’m wrong, OP, but have you posted about this before?

HardAsSnails · 11/06/2019 21:05

Seriously OP, you have children and you're with a known convicted sex offender, your risk awareness is crap, ditch the bloke FFS.

FenellaVelour · 11/06/2019 21:10

a judge is the one that actually makes this decision & there is a very high threshold to be met for this to happen

In care proceedings yes, but if the children’s father has concerns about OP’s partner and brings private proceedings, that may be a different matter.

dreichuplands · 11/06/2019 21:10

What tinkety said is right.
But OP if social care think your DP is a bit enough risk they could stay involved in your families life for some time.
If you are asked to choose between your DP and your dc which would you choose?
(Why does your DP have a probation officer?)

lorribella · 11/06/2019 21:11

'Mental health issues'. Has he attempted suicide a number of times within this

Surfskatefamily · 11/06/2019 21:16

If i found out my partner had a sexual offence against a woman however long ago i wouldnt want them around my kids or myself even.

Sorry your in the middle now op but your ex has good reason to be shouting from the rooftops.

TheOrigFV45 · 11/06/2019 21:20

Having a MH nurse indicates quite a serious or long-term issue. I'm not saying this in itself is an issue, but it might be a contributor to the case.

TenDenierTights · 11/06/2019 21:21

What's his most recent crime, given that he has a probation officer? And how old is he?

expatinspain · 11/06/2019 21:24

Is this a wind up?

TheBestNapIEverHad · 11/06/2019 21:25

This man has a probation officer, serious mental health issues and a sexual offence conviction. Is he really someone you should be introducing in to your children’s lives?

If you are the same OP who has posted previously about this, you have also said that you have serious mental health issues and your children are on a CIN Plan. You really need to comply with SS and start putting your own recovery and crucially your children first, and I say that with kindness. This relationship is so obviously not right.

ReganSomerset · 11/06/2019 21:25

I see your ex's side here tbh.

youarenotkiddingme · 11/06/2019 21:29

You don't think he's a risk to your children as his crime was against an adult female?

What about the risk to you then?

Why are you fighting for this risk to join your family unit?

MamaOfBothTeams · 11/06/2019 21:38

How long have you been together?

HouseOfGoldandBones · 11/06/2019 21:40

OP, we read so much in the media & on MN about Social Services making the wrong decisions.

I have to be honest, it's nice to know they make the right decisions sometimes too.

Jonette · 11/06/2019 21:45

This is a difficult one.

snozzlemaid · 11/06/2019 21:49

What's difficult?

ChicCroissant · 11/06/2019 21:49

Seems this thread is going the same way that other, very similar threads have gone. No one would ever think it a good idea to have a convicted sex offender in contact with their children, so I'll be expecting another deletion message here shortly when the OP isn't happy that the thread isn't going her way Hmm

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user1485708720 · 11/06/2019 22:18

Nice to see mumsnet is still as judgemental as I remember.

Yes his crime was serious, he is on life license, he had personality disorder but had made so much progress he doesn't qualify anymore. He has a mh nurse because of the stress ss has caused us but he had coped tremendously well.
He will always be subject to probation but only on a yearly basis.

He is allowed a family life, he has paid for his crime and has rehabilitated.
I am a great parent to my kids and I do a brilliant job keeping them safe. He is no threat to me or my kids

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GileadWivesAreFashionIcons · 11/06/2019 22:23

Oh OP, you can’t know that he’s not a threat.

Bookworm4 · 11/06/2019 22:25

Judgemental? Life licence is for people who have been sentenced to a life sentence and released after serving minimum sentence but kept on licence for life. Yeah this guy sounds great, I’m thinking rape/attempted murder?
Any right thinking parent would run for the hills.

TenDenierTights · 11/06/2019 22:51

OP he'll still have personality disorder, it doesn't just go away. He might have more control over it or some of his problematic behaviours may diminish with age (usually past 50,s and 60's) but he'll never be totally recovered.

Jonette · 11/06/2019 22:54

I'm pretty strongly in favour of SS keeping out of peoples' lives, but are you off your rocker?

ThePerturbedPenguin · 11/06/2019 23:01

Are you winding us up for fun or something? I can't see how a mother would be TRYING to get a serious sex offender access to her kids!!!

thewinkingprawn · 11/06/2019 23:14

I would strongly suggest this is a wind up. If it is not then you need to get a very large grip otherwise social services will have every right to remove your children. Life sentences even if they are released on a life license are only given for the most serious crimes so it must have been serious rape and possibly more for him to have landed in jail. I can’t think you can be that thick though so my money is on wind up.

TheOrigFV45 · 11/06/2019 23:16

Life license does not mean he has paid for his crime, only that he has been deemed ok to be released from custody. He is still serving life sentence.