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Please help calm. Facing prison sentence

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WienerDiva · 01/05/2019 22:41

I'm due in court tomorrow for attempting to pervert the course of justice.

It happened six months ago and I'm pleading guilty so no trial etc.

No previous and I'm a person "of good character". But my goodness I'm bloody petrified.

I probably won't sleep tonight and I'll I keep thinking about is my dd.

OP posts:
Icequeen01 · 02/05/2019 07:22

JapaneseNotWeed Exactly! I get that the Op was in a coercive relationship but I wonder how posters would feel if it was their DD or DS who was the police officer who got hurt.

WoogleCone · 02/05/2019 07:23

Good luck OP Flowers

MsMarvellous · 02/05/2019 07:24

@Icequeen01 my ire would be for the person who hurt them. Not the person pressured and coerced into telling the police a lie.

thegreylady · 02/05/2019 07:24

Wishing you luck today 🍀

zen1 · 02/05/2019 07:25

Fingers crossed for you today OP.

Dyrne · 02/05/2019 07:26

JapaneseNotWeed what a ridiculous thing to say. If the police officer or their partner were posting on here, or course they’d be the one getting discussed and getting support.

As it is, the OP has posted, so they are getting support.

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WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 07:27

I don't actually know what happened to the officer. All I know is that they were injured but what extent I have no idea.

I feel horrifically guilty that my lie meant an officer got hurt. I'm actually struggling with that quite a lot.

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ProjectGainsborough · 02/05/2019 07:28

Good luck today 💪

JapaneseNotWeed · 02/05/2019 07:29

I think you will get your justice OP and I hope you are home tonight.

Atalune · 02/05/2019 07:29

Really really good luck. I hope it goes well for you today.

I’m sure you’ve been given lots of tips about how to conduct yourself. But if you feel like you’re going to start crying and don’t want to. Try massaging the fatty part of your lower palm/thumb. It’s a natural stress reliever and will be indiscreet.

MancaroniCheese · 02/05/2019 07:29

Good luck today. Hope tonight you’re back home with your DD

FannyFifer · 02/05/2019 07:29

Hope all goes well today. X

NorthernRunner · 02/05/2019 07:32

Hoping for the best outcome for you and your dd today OP Flowers

FiremanKing · 02/05/2019 07:33

The op fully acknowledged the police officer that was injured and her remorse at her part in being involved.

JaponeseNotWeed - why don’t you red what the op has written before making silly comments?

The op felt pressure to comply with her then partners wishes and did not know he had lied to her about having a driving licence.

youarenotkiddingme · 02/05/2019 07:35

Good luck today.

My friend is a prosecutor for CPS and always says that any charge and sentence is handed down with the public interest in mind at all times.

You did wrong. But you know that, hold your hands up to that and have remorse.
I hope the judge takes this and your DD dependence on you into account.

Also second all those who say it's easy to judge - but some people don't understand the hold others can have over us through abuse and how that changes what we may say and do.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 02/05/2019 07:35

Just caught up with this thread and wishing you loads of luck.Flowers

StrongTea · 02/05/2019 07:36

Hope all goes well today.

JapaneseNotWeed · 02/05/2019 07:36

Nothing wrong with what I have posted here.

InceyWinceyette · 02/05/2019 07:37

“But really shouted at me and said if I didn't then he'd get me in trouble for allowing someone without a license to drive the vehicle. “

That is a threat.

OP I truly wish you well today and ongoing in your life, study, qualifications etc.

Once this is over, please please make your story anonymised but public in MN. I see so many women on here “oh, I took points for DH” etc.

Also get some counselling / support for emotional abuse, maybe the Freedom Programme.

Good luck.

GreenEyedDevil · 02/05/2019 07:39

Good Luck today! Flowers

downcasteyes · 02/05/2019 07:43

Good luck Wiener. I'm really hoping things go well for you today.

WaitrosePigeon · 02/05/2019 07:47

I am thinking do you today.

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WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 07:48

I would love nothing more than for at least one person to take from this what the start of an abusive relationship looks like.

The love bombing, unreal connection, intense sexual chemistry etc. And then as soon as you start divulging your weaknesses and what scares you, the praying on it.

This man never EVER laid a finger on me, the good moments were Hollywood film worthy though and you cling so so dearly on to those.

Because, quite frankly, how can someone who invested so much time and energy into you suddenly be so cold and mean?!

If nothing, this has made me quietly very strong. I'm grateful this happened really, because god knows where I'd have ended up.

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OnGoldenPond · 02/05/2019 07:49

Ignore AvengersAssemble, I've seen them post similar deliberately inflammatory and nasty remarks on other threads very recently which were completely at odds with other posters.

They just want to provoke a reaction.

I along with the vast majority of posters here feel for you in this awful situation, don't think you deserve prison for one second and really don't think you will get prison time for this.

Will be thinking of you Thanks

Rumbletum2 · 02/05/2019 07:49

Good luck OP xx

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