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Please help calm. Facing prison sentence

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WienerDiva · 01/05/2019 22:41

I'm due in court tomorrow for attempting to pervert the course of justice.

It happened six months ago and I'm pleading guilty so no trial etc.

No previous and I'm a person "of good character". But my goodness I'm bloody petrified.

I probably won't sleep tonight and I'll I keep thinking about is my dd.

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Slatkater · 02/05/2019 00:22

Best of luck tomorrow, you don’t deserve to go to prison. You were intimidated/coerced. I hope it goes well & you can start to put it behind you. 💐

TheInvestigator · 02/05/2019 00:23

You shouldn't have to speak. You confirm your name and address and your plea but your solicitor does all the talking for you. The judge may ask you a question or 2 if they have things they want to clarify, but you shouldn't be made to prostrate yourself to the court; you've said everything during the pre-sentence report. The judge also usually gives a wee speach when they do the sentencing, stuff like "you've cause a lot of trouble here and I hope you see that" etc so you might need to nod away during that. But don't get worked up over being made to give a speech because they shouldn't make you.

Itchyandscratchy01 · 02/05/2019 00:28

Oh OP, how very very worrying for you. I agree with previous posters, I really don't think you will get a custodial sentence.

Please know though that whatever happens you will be ok. I know it won't feel like that but people really do survive. You will get through this.

I hope you are able to rest a little. Thinking of you.

WalpurgisNight · 02/05/2019 00:32

Best wishes OP. Hoping you can find some peace tonight.

It sounds like whatever happens tomorrow, you've got the building blocks of a good future - work, friends, family, a lovely daughter and a good dp. You're going to be OK!

WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 00:36

I sincerely hope you're all right.

I'd be fine if it wasn't for dd. She doesn't need the negativity around her.

I'm prepared if I do need to say anything. However whether they will get anything coherent out of me I don't know.

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LilBoaty · 02/05/2019 00:39

Good luck OP

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FiremanKing · 02/05/2019 00:47

I do feel for you and I’m usually quite hard on people who break the law but I do understand your position and can see that you are genuinely remorseful and not a person prone to behaving recklessly.

I hope that you are given clemency and that you are not incarcerated.

Best wishes to you.

WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 00:48

@Aquamarine1029 no you're right he didn't "make". But at the time I felt like he had made me and I didn't feel I had a choice. On reflection I'm fully aware.

Hope you never have the misfortune of anyone like that coming into your life.

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Derpess · 02/05/2019 00:50

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and hope it goes well for you xx

SageYourResoluteOracle · 02/05/2019 00:50

From all that you've said and how you come across, there's something dreadfully wrong with the world if you are sent to prison tomorrow. You sound really decent, honest & level-headed and coercive control can make people do the oddest of things. This is not you, it's a manipulative bully. Thinking of you and hope you manage even a bit of sleep tonight.

WienerDiva · 02/05/2019 00:51

@FiremanKing thank you.

I know it all just spiralled out of control. I should have spoken with my parents as soon as I realised he had cocked everything up. But I didn't. I know why I didn't but that's another thread lol.

Ultimately I fucked up. I know that.

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LindsayDentonsCat · 02/05/2019 00:51

Thinking of you OP. I hope you can get some rest tonight and that this time tomorrow this is all behind you. Good luck, you don't deserve prison, not at all.

KaleidoscopeEyes · 02/05/2019 00:51

I'm sorry this has happened to you. What an awful situation. Will be keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow x

ScarlettSahara · 02/05/2019 01:01

It’s easy to judge but not so easy to put yourself in the shoes of someone who has a history of being conditioned to submit & I suspect aqua does not have experience of this.

Hope all goes well tomorrow OP. Glad you have found an understanding partner now.

NewYoiker · 02/05/2019 01:02

Im so sorry this happened to you. You sound like a lovely person who got dragged Into something bigger than them: I'm thinking of you xx

gluteustothemaximus · 02/05/2019 01:04

Good luck for tomorrow. I hope it's not custodial. There are plenty of people that belong behind bars, but you don't sound like one of them x

Justaboy · 02/05/2019 01:05

Gut feeling?. Suspended sentence of a year or therabouts.

If that even.

I can ask a QC/judge friend of mine but he's away at the momet.

Please let us know how it goes if you will.

Sleep well, I would!

DogHairEverywhere · 02/05/2019 01:07

Good luck tomorrow op.

SchrodingersBrexit · 02/05/2019 01:14

Good luck tomorrow, OP. Thanks

SneakyGremlins · 02/05/2019 01:20
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Jaspermcsween · 02/05/2019 01:36

Highly unlikely you’ll go to prison

Smellslikemiddleagespirit · 02/05/2019 01:36

I am sorry you encountered this person and were forced into a bad decision.

Good luck tomorrow Flowers

Emelene · 02/05/2019 02:00

Good luck OP. You sound like a really nice person who made a bad mistake. I hope the judge can see that and you can stay home to cuddle your daughter xxx

MummyParanoia101 · 02/05/2019 02:41

@Aquamarine1029 What a staggeringly naive thing to say!!!! You've clearly never been on an abusive relationship!

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