Children lying to Cafcass

[Blacklight80]

We have just received the section 7 report prior to the next hearing. The children have been lying to the person interviewing them.

Without going into detail, one example is them saying they never get to do anything when they are within their DD, resulting in Cafcass making recommendations such as "do activities with DC". This is in no way true, but DC obviously feel the need to present a negative view of their DD.

This in only one example of many.

So, my question is, how to best address this with the court?

I wonder if any guidance was given in the hearing itself. If not, then I suppose it comes down to your partner's judgement.

i imagine they expect the father to know when things have improved - i.e when his elder kids show willingness and want to meet you and their half-siblings.

it means I'm on my own with a 2 year old and a 3 month old when he is with the older children
And? What is so difficult about that given you now have set times/days and can plan around that accordingly?
Are you saying you can't look after them on your own for that amount of time?

Helpful, Heebies.

I don't think anyone can possibly understand what it's like to be in this kind of situation until you're in it, Blacklight. Keep hanging on in there. If he's consistent and attuned to their needs, it will come right.

HeebieJeebies stop being so horrible. The OP didn't say it was difficult being with the two smaller children but presumably anyone can see that it is sad that a family of what should be two adults and five children has to be so polarised that the younger siblings have to be kept out of sight of their brothers and sisters. Op doesn't say where she goes during this contact time but presumably can't be in her own home when the other children are there. I think any of us would find that a bit difficult, no?

Christ HeebieJeebies why are you being such a bitch? OP is quite clearly facilitating the weekends by making herself and her children scarce.

Good Luck with it Blacklight, sounds like a difficult situation all around, hopefully the ex will lay off a bit and you can start to build a relationship with the kids.

@HeebieJeebies thank you for your helpful input. Not sure what you were hoping to achieve with that comment..?

In case it hasn't been clear from my previous posts, the older children have been subjected to parental alienation by their mother (recognised by Cafcass as well in the section 7 report) So unfortunately it's not so easy as to say "when they show willingness to meet us". Also this situation has been going on for many years so to undo the damage that's been done will not be easy.

As for your comment s to whether I can look after my children in my own; of course I can but you're welcome to come and try to juggle a toddler and a newborn on your own for a while weekend without access to your own home and see how easy it is.

@AliceTown, @unfortunateevents & @Travis1 thank you for your support. It's a really difficult situation but maybe maybe things can start to slowly improve when at least the dates are set so there's no need to debate over that anymore.