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So Ex gets roasted for not knowing how much he earns. The judge then adjourns to send Ex to fill out the form with all his earnings and outgoings. My ex guesstimates everything saying He'd need to ask his accountant.
We return to judge. Basically ex cries and says he is in debt and owed money so he can't give me my money.
There was no demand by the judge to see his accounts. No demand to see bank statements.
Judge explained he could seize assets from Ex if he had property. If he had income from an employer then I could get my money at source.
But my ex is self employed. with no assets.
I got no money.
The judge said I could come back to court if my ex's circumstances change and I want to persue the money.
My ex said he was going to apply to vary the court order because he couldn't afford it. He hasn't.
I have found out today that my ex has been using my old address and hasn't paid his tax bill.
I can still return to court. Every month that passes my ex owes me more and more. But the judge can't give it to me.
Court itself was scary but totally do-able. Make sure you take evidence. Emails etc. Print outs of texts.
Have a nice orderly file and actually give the judge Evidence. Bullet point your argument and carefully slowly pick through it.
If your ex owes you money on a court order, and he has property or a Paid employment, then you'll get your money.
If he is a self employed layabout being paid in cash and hiding it, then you won't get a penny. If he deliberately leaves his assets inside his business and runs his bank accounts in the red, you won't get a penny
I doubt you'd get a penny with the hottest lawyer available to you in those circumstances and it is an absolute travesty of our legal system that men continuously get away with not paying for their children.
And my ex is a Professional in the health profession. Highly educated, high earning. It makes me cynical, it makes me angry and it makes me hate men even more. (even though I have an absolute gem of a man now in my life to compensate) but even so!!
Holler if you want more hand holding