Hello, don't know if this problem really has an answer, but here goes.
I have a friend whose mother died nearly six months ago. Her father died some years before.
Mum has left her entire estate equally to my friend and her brother. They are of similar age. It is quite a complicated and substantial estate. This is in England, by the way.
My friend has a few years to go to her retirement age, put back now to 67. She works as a carer, it's hard physical work at times. Her pay is MW and she has little savings. She would like to stop this work as she now has arthritis. Her Mother used to help her financially quite regularly, but of course that all stopped when Mum died.
For completely sexist reasons, only the brother was named as executor, along with a male finance professional who had been advising Mum. Women obviously can't do this kind of stuff.
The brother is living in the family home, (half of which goes to the sister) and has substantial separate financial resources, thanks to a previous legacy. He has retired.
The problem is this: brother has Aspergers/HFA (not officially diagosed, but beyond doubt).
He will obsessively trawl through every single piece of paper, of which there are thousands, that were left in the house. Mother was also on the Spectrum and was obsessive about certain projects, which amassed mountains of paperwork.
He refuses to let the professional help him, has no feelings of empathy towards his sister's situation, although they are on good terms and it is of no consequence to him if it takes the rest of his life to be able to apply for probate.
Meanwhile, his sister is really struggling- Is there anything she can do?