school emailed round my car reg telling whole world i parked illegally

[verycrossandembarrassed]

is this okay for the school Headmistress to do this to me? they say i parked illegally this morning, took a photo of my car and have now emailed every single parent at my DS's school with all the information. nothing has been proved! i know i've probably annoyed a neighbour but is this fair how the Headmistress has acted? Surely I must have some rights too? It's just sooo embarrassing as I count lots of the mummies as my good friends. I don't think she should have been able to do this and would like to know my legal rights and complain about this treatment. Really awful for my DS too.

You probably won't do it again, job done.

You ask what else you could have done - not park illegally is the answer to that. Walk from a legal parking place.

The HT has my admiration, I wish the HT of the school near us did the same.

So what are the facts that are in need of consideration? You're not going to get considered replies until there is something to consider.

It wasn't for very long and I couldn't see what else I could do.

Well you could have parked somewhere safe, legal and considerate? HTH

Erm, this isn't vigilante justice! No one has sentenced you to a few years in prison (though I personally would like a bit of community service for inconsiderate drivers).
I am afraid my hackles always rise when people start flinging about their 'rights'. What about your responsibilities as a car driver to drive safely and park legally and considerately? Meet those, then you can start thinking about your rights.
And also, your number plate is publicly viewable to anyone who sees you and not private to you.

At the end of the day you messed go when it comes to parking. Schools up and down the country have a parking policy. Our school has massive signs saying don't park here.

You can't park over someone's drive way you're blocking their legal access to their property. Why did you think it was ok todo so? How would you react if someone did that to you?

Headteacher was well within their remit to point out your mistake/selfish behaviour. Best thing todo is apologise and never do it again.

You weren't being unhelpful, you were parked illegally.

And please don't refer to other parents as mummies, it's so cringe worthy.

Stop being so entitled and acting like a tit.

I live opposite our school gates. I have no issue with staff/visitors parking outside my house - there's no car park (old, Victorian building, old, narrow streets). The crossing and zig zags are a few metres up the street.
Every day, without fail, I see parents pull up at/on the crossing, as if the rules are only there for everyone else.
The gate is already very crowded, and it's only a matter of time until someone is hurt.
No one can claim to be unaware that the zig zags are to be kept clear - otherwise, why do they put their hazards on, if not to announce that they're knowingly causing a hazard?!?
Every newsletter pleads with selfish parents, not to park illegally/irresponsibly, but to no avail.
I will suggest to our head that she introduces the practice of photographing and shaming repeat offenders.
I would apologise, and park properly, in future, op.

So, as I read it from the OP, the issue is that she doesn't want her friends to know that she is inconsiderate, because that would be embarassing. So...it's ok to be inconsiderate, just not ok for other people to know about it. That's certainly what it sounds like!

What I wanted to know is are the school allowed to publish a statement that I parked illegally without any consideration of the facts.

what facts do you wish to consider? The fact it was your first time, you weren't long, you would have been late for school etc is totally irrelevant, did you park illegally? If you did that is all they stated so don't see the problem.

You seem more bothered about saving face than the problems you could have caused the homeowner with your illegal inconsiderate parking. I doubt your ds would be bothered, unless you make it into a big deal.

If you'd parked across my drive, I would have had your car towed.

It wasn't for very long

So what?

and I couldn't see what else I could do

Park somewhere else!

That's mumsnet for you verycross - you ought to known that you'd be flamed for a slight lapse of judgement. I know how you feel; the last time I posted on here, it took me days to get over it

God get a grip.

You did something inconsiderate and illegal for your own convenience.

You were caught, and embarrassed.

You really got what was coming to you.

And no, I dont' see anything illegal in what they did. They didn't name you. They took a photo of an illegally parked car and emailed it out.

Please complain - give the office staff a laugh and make sure the entire school knows who parking twat was

World of lolz at the vigilante justice. You had a photo taken and emailed round. It's not pitchforks and petrol bombs is it?

As someone said, there are no relevant facts other than whether you were properly parked and presumably that was clear in the photo.

Staggering lack of self awareness!

You made a mistake, you got caught, now you want to cry about it?

Awesome example of entitled behaviour to demonstrate to your DS.

I couldn't see what else I could do

Really? You can't think of one single alternative?

Frankly, if you can't, I don't think you should be driving.

Sounds to me like the headteacher was only reporting what truthfully happened.

No crime in that.

Really awful for my DS too.

Maybe you should have thought about that before parking there....

I was so glad to see the parent that regularly parks on the pavement on the corner (dangerous and obstructive) arguing with the traffic warden this morning, from what I could gather her argument was it wasn't her fault that she was late and there were no spaces left close to the school and it was only for 5 mins.... Except she does this 4 days out of 5 - why does she think her crapness should be allowed to endanger other people.
I can't see that the head has done anything wrong - all that has been done is point out that you have done something illegal, if you don't want that pointed out, then don't do it.
Many many people manage to park legally and considerately everyday on the school run.

Your sense of entitlement and litigious nature Are everything that's wrong with humans. Nasty.

I'm impressed that you are the only person who has ever parked badly at the school. Or do they regularly send round a list of registration numbers of cars that are poorly parked?

Either way - you sound embarrassed. And that sounds like the point of the email - public humiliation as a deterrent to bad parking.

Get all your venting out on here then email the school to apologise or pretend it wasn't you, buy a personal number plate and deny all knowledge.

This is not the time to argue about the correct or incorrect use of the word 'illegal'.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'consideration of the facts". Were there some extenuating circumstances that we aren't aware of that made it ok for you to park there (bearing in mind that being late for school doesn't count).

I appreciate you are looking for advice as to whether you have been unfairly treated but I really can't understand why you would want to complain? Lots of people wouldn't even know it was your car and making a fuss will just serve to highlight your mistake even further...

Just accept you messed up and move on...

Lots of schools do this. Did you park across someone's drive? If so you deserve to be named and shamed as that is a really, really twattish thing to do. I am not the most law-abiding citizen and will park on single yellows etc if I have to but I have never and would never block someone's drive. What if they had to get out in an emergency or were late for an appointment/interview? However, afaik it's not actually illegal so if she used that word you might be able to point out that you were parked inconsiderately and badly, not illegally.

Our school only publish repeat offenders so this is probably not the first time you have affected other people by your parking.