school emailed round my car reg telling whole world i parked illegally

[verycrossandembarrassed]

is this okay for the school Headmistress to do this to me? they say i parked illegally this morning, took a photo of my car and have now emailed every single parent at my DS's school with all the information. nothing has been proved! i know i've probably annoyed a neighbour but is this fair how the Headmistress has acted? Surely I must have some rights too? It's just sooo embarrassing as I count lots of the mummies as my good friends. I don't think she should have been able to do this and would like to know my legal rights and complain about this treatment. Really awful for my DS too.

You've been named and shamed for doing something you shouldn't have - what do you think the Head has done wrong, exactly? Apart from embarrass you for parking illegally, which she couldn't have done if you hadn't parked badly.

What do you think the outcome will be apart from your embarrassment? It's not like the Head has told people to key your car, is it. Hopefully it will stop you parking badly in future, which is no doubt what the Head hoped to achieve!

our school also name and shame and we dont

What is bloody wrong with a huge amount of people that they feel entitled to park outside, or as near as they can get even if it's causing a gigantic pain in the arse for everyone else? Haven't you people got feet? Just walk a few minutes! Lazy fuckers

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Weirdly, in the UAE this would be illegal what the head did.
A woman in Dubai took a photo of a car parked illegally across two disabled places in her apartment carpark and put it on Facebook with the number plate blanked out. The car owner saw it though, informed the police and the woman was jailed, fined and deported
But yes, you are presumably in the UK and it's perfectly legal what the head did.

If it only happened once then I think it was perhaps a bit harsh.

They are probably very fed up (and the neighbours!) of either people doing it over and over, or else of someone different doing it most days. So they probably go for a severe reaction because others have done it, not only you.

Marmite - that is interesting - what was the reasoning behind the photographer's "crime"?

Unfortunately i see it every single day! lazy parents to bone idle to walk, parking on the zig zag lines right outside school, what makes these people better than everyone else that they can break the rules?

I haven't read through all the replies but if the head sent a picture of your car and said it was parked illegally then I can't see she did anything wrong, if it was indeed parked illegally.

Whether or not you have been charged with a crime is irrelevant. I've been over the speed limit before and haven't been convicted- this doesn't make it any less illegal.

If she specifically named you as driver in the email without evidence of you driving the car I would be unhappy about that. I wouldn't make a big deal of it/ demand an apology in case she had the proof that you were the driver that day though!

I think you just have to accept that it is done and that it has taught you a lesson, which was her intention.

I've been the person accused of parking poorly in the past, I didn't adhere to the reverse parking only rule in the tiny school car park (which I find silly but that's not the point) and just had to accept my telling off in front of other parents. Embarrassing but I make sure to reverse park now, whether or not it's the easier/ safer option at the time.

If it's anything like my DCs' school, the HT will have tried everything to stop parents parking like twats illegally, is at the end of their rope, has threatened to do this many times and has finally cracked and done it. Good for them I say.

Suck it up OP

The more you protest and complain and throw your toys out of the pram, the more of a twat you'll look

I take photos of selfish school 'mummies' like you who have parked illegally.. Blocked driveways, mounted pavement completely and on zig zags.

I email them to the school office and they do fuck all with them, apart some weak half arsed reminder to parents to park responsibly.

Your school rocks!!

I couldn't see what else I could do

Really? Get your arse out of bed earlier and man the hell up!

You should be named and shamed for the use of the word 'mummies' wink let alone the parking.

OP Just take it on the chin. Would you really sour your relationship with the school by taking a haughty legalistic stance over this? You were in the wrong FFS.

You parked inconsiderately/illegally and have been called up for it.

Those appear to be the facts.

I think it is a very good idea to do what that head teacher did, and clearly very effective too.

Learn from your twattery, move on and don't bother complaining. Ever heard of the saying "when you are in a hole, stop digging"? It would be very applicable here if you go in all guns blazing and try to defend the indefensible.

I don't suppose OP is coming back though. Didn't get the validation and unanimous sympathy she was after.

The deputy head at my children's school used to patrol taking photos of badly parked cars and doing a weekly newsletters. The traffic wardens and transport police also regularly patrolled the streets and would give out tickets.

The email sounds like it's had the effect the head would be looking for.

I think you'll need to keep your head low for a few days!

Oh, and whilst I am a mum (of three), I assure you I am not a mummy.

I may be pushing 50 now, but I am not yet in need of being preserved and held together with bandages.

Well done, that headteacher!

To verycrossandembarrassed
Would be really good if the Head could also email your post around, to show your complete disregard for the correct use of capital letters.

i dont think it was ok for the head to do that. why not just speak the the parent/car driver one to one. that probably would have been enough and the op probably would not have done it again.. traffic wardens take pictures as proof. not to email to x amount of parents at a school. the head teacher is not a traffic warden.

The head should have spoken to the OP first.
The way it was handled means that the head has created a future of bad relations between OP, her children and the school.

And how was the Ht to know whose car it was???

You do realise that parking restrictions are to protect people - you and your DC included? Think about that before you park like a cunt.

Lady in Dubai was basically accused of "writing bad words about a person"

"The way it was handled means that the head has created a future of bad relations between OP, her children and the school." Nope - the OP did that all by herself

Count yourself lucky that the person who took the photograph didn't send it to the local paper, then even more people would think you were a pillerk

Don't be ridiculous fineto.

The head teacher would not have known who the car belonged to since she cannot PNC check it or get information from the DVLA computer.

It was handled perfectly IMHO. OP has well and truly learned her lesson.

It won't affect the children in school.

Why not pit up the photograph here?