Help, defended divorce

[GingerCuddleMonster]

I don't know where to begin, I realise this may out me but I don't care I'm at my witts end.

My ex was violent, a domestic violence abuser. We went to court, he was charged.

I began the process of divorcing him, but I haven't much money. So I did it myself. filled the paperwork and so forth. Wrote in my petition all factual events. that I had paperwork to prove this is what happened. It wasn't written in a way to upset or anger just 5 events of unreasonable documented behaviour.

Anyways fast forward, the ex has filed a answer!! and the judge has agreed to take it to a hearing!!

I've requested a copy of his answer this has been denied. I'm flying solo and blind.

I don't know what to do, what to expect. I suppose I'm just asking for guidance on what happens next?

I'm distraught I can't face him in a court I can't even look at him. .

I hope that the solicitors appointment was helpful. There is no way he can succeed in defending the divorce - please keep going. Do something nice for you and your DS, a special tea or a little treat of some sort.

so an update,

We're pushing through and continuing . Solicitor I met was wonderful and I have decided to persevere. She was great to talk to really brought my confidence back.

Glad you've feeling reinvigorated about it

Please don't give up. You are much better than he is and don't let him or the courts bamboozle you. Join the Facebook group self-representing in court for advice on how to do it. I remember one of my hearing, I'd prepared for months, was so stressed, got into the court, and also didn't say a word! It can be humiliating and frustrating, but you can have somebody go to court with you and there are many National DV charities that can help.