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Justme90 · 21/06/2014 14:10

I have a 3 year old child and the court has ordered that the child goes to live with his father with immediate effect.Bit of a back ground I split with him ex 2 years ago following domestic abuse from him. I was trapped in the relationship for years He kept the child and I had to go to court to get the child back. Following the break up he engaged in a prolonged period of harassment. He was arrested for that and on bail when he broke into my house and assaulted me and my friend and attempted to abduct the child.He was immediately arrested where he tried to hang himself in the police station.He was convicted of assault x2 and harassment and breach of bail. He basically got a slap on the wrist and a restraining order was put in place.I continued to try and make contact work but him feeling very bitter would use the child to get at mine. He would purposely keep the child up late at night, give him a bottle, put him in nappies etc which caused a lot of confusion for the child as mummy says no daddy says yes. The child would also go home saying bad things about me like he used to call me mummy pig. His parents always created problems at handovers and we're always late etc. He continued his harassment which was reported to the police but kept getting away with it. At this point his harassment became clever and he would do it through the courts solicitors social services etc. Everytime after contact I would recieve a letter from my solicitor. He used this court process to find out information about me high w the courts willingly gave. He made out he was a loving father etc would put on all the tears etc and the court would fall for it.I was harassed by the Cafcass officer who had been taken in by him, the Cafcass officer was even calling on Xmas eve.Following all the difficulties with contact I terminated contact. The difficulties included the continued harassment, driving him in a car without a licence and dropping him off at nursery with dried excrement stuck to his bum plus the convicted sexual abusers in the family.It was have always supported contact and offered supervised contact but just wanted it to be safe for my child.He applied for an enforcement order which the judge upheld I still refused as he began making wild accusations to the court.He then applied for a residence application. By this time he had got a new partner and a new child. It then became aware that his new partner had already reported him for harassment when they split up but now they are happily living together and the courts and Cafcass have falling for the charade.Their new child was in hospital as it was 16 weeks early and the hospital expressed concerns that they struggled to attend the hospital. He also has another much older child whom despite gaining a court order has walked away from that child.Cafcass said switching residence would be the last resort and very traumatic for the child and distressing. But despite everything residence has been switched. I am in pieces, I am 16 weeks pregnant and I'm really concerned as I passed out 3 times already. I really don't know what to do.It says in the order if I dont hand him over by Monday a warrant for my arrest will be issued and it's to go back to court urgently.There is another hearing arranged for mid July.What options are available for me? My family is about to be ripped apart, our unborn child is being put at risk due to stress.How can this be allowed to happen? How can a judge put a child at so much risk? My child is gonna be traumatised by this. He hardly knows who his father is. His father hasn't sent him any cards or presents in 2 years and has refused to pay maintenance. And to top it all off im only able to see my child once a week for an hour supervised. What can I do?

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