Police called out to my crying screaming daughter!

[paulanthony1976]

Hi everyone,
So our families bank holiday was ruined by a knock at the door on Saturday night at 10.30pm by the police. Someone had reported a disturbance from our home which the police came to investigate.

I was in bed already, as were the kids, and my wife was getting ready for bed when they knocked us up and interrogated us like criminals. About an hour earlier my 3 year old daughter had been kicking screaming crying tantrum as she didn't want to go to bed, but she soon wore herself out and was fast asleep when the cops came.

They took my kids names and birthdays and school details etc, as well as my wives and mine personal and work details. They had a good look around the house, checked on the kids sleeping in their rooms, asked us lots of questions and then left. Upon leaving the police told us they were satisfied that it was a false alarm, that the matter was closed, and that we had nothing to be worried about.

The next day on Bank Holiday Sunday at 9am, the police returned to our cul-de-sac, knocked on all our friends/neighbours doors and asked lots of questions about our family and if they had heard noise. Needless to say when the police left all our friendly neighbours came back over to us to tell us about their interviews with the police and to get the gossip from us and to express their support to us, and to condemn the "snake in the grass" living among us, and the for wasting the police time.

Although we had done nothing wrong, we now feel like criminals, and losing sleep worrying. Not to mention being gossiped about by our neighbours, even though all our kids play together in the street.

We are really angry at being falsely accused of something, a 3 year old cannot legally create a disturbance, can they? also angry at being told it was a closed matter, when then the next day they came back to interrogate our friends and neighbours. Can I complain for harassment and intimidation, or for defamation and libel?

I am now walking on broken glass every time my kids throw a tantrum and fearful of another public complaint or visit by the police and/or social services.

Any thoughts or suggestions are welcomed please.

you know you sound like a 3 year old, dont you?

its not fair because my child was ill and you lot are just horrible but she was ill and thats why she cried and you lot are mean and stop talking about me because there was a reason so there

Erm, no it doesn't. Lol

So, you name changed after getting an email from HQ did you?
Did the email perchance say 'go away'.

Screaming child caused neighbour to worry for her safety.
Police arrived to ensure safety of child.
Child discovered to be perfectly OK and peacefully asleep.
Police went away again.
Everyone OK. Hurrah!

Good luck with IP tracking.

Thsts not remotely true about Ip addresses, are you mad?

Sorry to be an utter moo bag. By the way I'm under 50... Your child's crying was out of the ordinary. You didn't cuddle her to sleep or offer her security and then when she came down with measles you suddenly had a lightbulb moment.... Holy moly that's some fab parenting.

My kid is nearly. 18 and when she cries with her arthritis which she has had since 5 and diagnosed at 7 I sat with her and consoled her.

Oh mumsnet can have my address if they pm me. Save the whole ip lookup. You can complain directly to me for my harassing comment.

Hoiks up judgey pants

The end.

Or is it?

What a load of guff about IP addresses.

Sorry for DD but after all your boasting about being a super involved parent and living for your children it seems a bit strange you didn't notice she was off colour . Or are you fallible like the rest of us?

I'm confused what on earth does IP addresses have to do with anything.

Minty, if you are still here, I apologise. I called bingo wayyyyy too soon myself.

I should have waited for the anti-vax bait!

How old are you OP?

I'm really impressed that you are so vibrant despite having been married for 38 years and having a 6 year old and a 3 year old.

What's your secret?

Didn't you hear him, vest? He said it was The End. Stop being so inflammatory. Sigh.

so if he was married in 1976.....he must be at least ten years older than me....and I am no spring chicken....

Sorry Talisa.

I'll find out his age from his IP address!

I reckon he's older than the new neighbour he called old! Pf course, maybe he's young at heart, bcos he's got young kids whereas she is an old bag bcos she lives alone?

well I was a mere slip of a girl in 1976 (kind of) and I am fifty this year.
So OP (old poster) must be at least 60. How young and vibrant is that??

I took it as he was born in 76 not married??

Nope, yesterday at 20.20 he said he was married in1976.

Going back to the original post by the OP, if you go to the Police station to complain about the fact they said the case was closed and then visited neighbours, you will become one of those aggressive, out to attack the Police, types in their minds.

I don't know if you are an anti Police type, who is always worried they are out to get you and so respinds defensively and aggressively. However, if you want to portray an image of a calm house, where there is no need for the Police to take seriously the complaints of a neighbour, the last thing you should do,nix put yourself on their radar, by claiming libel and defamation. That is absolute rubbish and you will be seen as someone on who is uncooperative.

Very curious. Did you leave your sick DD to cry it out when she was poorly? I am wondering from the glib well she was screaming and crying because she didn't want to go to bed but she soon wore herself out.

I too want to say I am really sorry to the posters who had distressing experiences growing up that there was no-one there for you; in amongst the hilarity on this thread, it is a salutory reminder that ignoring is never, ever the way to go. We are all responsible for the children in our society.

Surely the 50 year old neighbour is deaf anyway , since she is ancient...

"So, today my daughter was found to have come down with the measles in reaction to the MMR she had early last week"

You need to seek medical advice from a specialist centre ASAP. This was considered physically impossible and your DD will be the first ever recorded case.

(Reactions form jab are quite common. Actually getting the disease needs investigation and serious study).

Oh thank god someone said that.

Because I have been sitting on my hands for hours trying not to.

Mmmmmm, maybe Tony Anthony/Paula/Tony, young and vibrant and married in 1976 isn't all he/she seems!

My husband works away a lot, I have a 2 year old and a baby and I have very steep stairs. One day I fell down these stairs and passed out just as my husband came home. I wondered whether a neighbour would come and check on me if they heard my children crying for a long time - I hope someone would - preferably by a knock on
the door first though.