I have a lovely friend who split up with her husband and moved back to Germany in 2009. This is her summarised story (Her words, changed to better English!):
They got married in 1989, have 2 grown up DD and bought a house in 2006. They then separated in 2007. She remained in the house while he lived in barracks.
In 2008 he told her he had met someone else and tried to pressure her for divorce, so she went to a Lawyer for some advice. She told her husband and he jumped the gun and went to a Lawyer himself and filed for divorce.
In 2009 she took her DDs advice and moved back to Germany to live with her mother. Her husband bought her car for £5000, which she used to pay for her move and to buy some furniture (she left with absolutely nothing).
She still lives with her mother and has no job ? she had been away for 20 years and has no formal qualifications because she spent most of this time being a SAHM, or doing part time jobs as a cleaner.
Her ex husband, meanwhile, has moved his girlfriend into the house they bought together (and the mortgage is still in both their names). He is lying to her about when he will leave the Forces - one minute telling her he is leaving this year, the next telling her he has been signed on for another 7 years. He is refusing to sell the house, even though the children are both grown up and have left home.
She's asked me to help, but I don?t know where to go, or to whom?
Any advice would be great!