You're right on the money Pingulingo He's in a HMP. No one is helping and they're all covering each others arses.
First off his SO took him (we'll call him Fred) on escorted town visit. Fred wrote a list of things that he would like to get done, buy, and generally sort out like visiting the hostel he would stay once home leaves were approved.
At the end of this Fred was accused of intimidating staff in an outlet (because he asked for a discount on a damaged item) and taking control of the day with his list FGS. Took the SO FIVE weeks to write this shit report.
As a result of this Fred then had to see the psychologist (who I presume to be an impartial body) who says that Fred's boss thinks the sun shines out of Fred's arse and then creates problems for Fred with his prison job.
Same visit was rearranged and Fred just did what his SO wanted and SO was happy with that.
Lately Fred has had his first home leave which he spent with his girlfriend. She hired a car and Fred was named driver. There was nothing on Fred's licence to say that he could not be in control of a vehicle on the out (forgive that expression). On Fred's return to prison a female staff member was going through his things and comments on the fact that he did not use issued condoms by saying "didn't get any use out of these then?"
There were some minor 'problems' and she told Fred that he should expect to hear from the offender management unit.
Yesterday Fred, along with his SO, was summoned to a meeting with the governor. Gov questioned Fred with regard to hiring car saying "who told you your allowed to hire a car?" Fred says I didn't my girlfriend did. Gov has a minor conniption, "girlfriend, girlfriend, how long has this been going on" etc. Fred tells Gov that he has already informed his probation officer (a waste of space) about this development in his life to which Gov seemed shocked. Gov also had a problem with Fred 'controlling' things because Fred sorted out subsequent home leave dates at the hostel on the advice of his SO. When the SO was asked if this was true had he in fact told Fred to do that SO replied yes.
This is just a small window, is there anything I as a family member can do. And, what the hell can Fred do.
If you've got this far, thanks so much