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Sacking nanny

31 replies

Bobbiesmum · 12/12/2010 13:57

After some wonderful advice on mn we are letting our nanny go. There have been a number of incidents of inflexibility on her part but one main one.
She irons/cleans one day per fortnight as part of her contracted hours (but childcare if needed instead). She often will take the ironing home which I am fine with.
Last week she planned to take ironing home but My ds was admitted to hospital. She refused to stay and care for dd instead of ironing as she needed to go food shopping.
She has been with us for 3 months and despite being given a contract has still not signed it.
Would her refusal to care for dd during paid time constitute gross misconduct and without a contract would I need to give paid notice?
I would be very grateful for any advice.

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PosieParksHerSleigh · 12/12/2010 14:01

Don't know, but if she's been with you for less than 12 weeks you can get rid of her without a reason, refusing to do as asked during paid time is definitely misconduct.

happychappy · 12/12/2010 14:03

She was on her probationary wasn't she? Did you verbally confirm her appointment?

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Bobbiesmum · 12/12/2010 14:21

We never actually discussed end of probationay period and verbally confirmed appointment as I thought the 3 month period came to an end next week.
However, I have just looked at her ( unsigned) contract and it says probationary period is 1 month!
Tempted just to keep her it's all so stressful.

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flowerytaleofNewYork · 12/12/2010 14:25

Probationary period is meaningless in law other if your contract specifies that notice increases at that point. She can't claim unfair dismissal (other than for a few specific reasons) before 12 months.

Yes refusal to care for your daughter could probably be gross misconduct, but really, why not just give her whatever notice she's entitled to and bring it to an end? This early on there's no reason for sacking her to be that stressful.

flowerytaleofNewYork · 12/12/2010 14:25

Sorry, other than if your contract says...

ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 14:28

Do NOT keep her.

Someone will help you through this OK.

DO NOT KEEP HER

She is making your life more difficult, not easier - you wont regret getting a much better nanny than she is. It's a hassle now, but worth it x

happychappy · 12/12/2010 14:28

Thats sounds good, say you won't be needing her any more. End of conversation. thank you very much and all that, ciao

mellicauli · 12/12/2010 14:46

Actually it sounds like she wants to be sacked and she doesn't want the job anyway.

Otherwise why doesn't she sign the contract? I would have thought her continuing to turn up to work and take your money would constitute acceptance of the contract

I would give her a reason as she does need to know. I wouldn't use gross misconduct as that is an inflammatory term. I would say that you issued reasonable instructions which she did not follow.

Have a look at:
www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/life/employment/contracts_of_employment.htm

happychappy · 12/12/2010 14:55

As devils advocate why does she need to be told by Bobbiesmum (who has enough on her plate). Perhaps on this occasion let bobbiesmum take the easiest road as life seems a bit trying atm

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Bobbiesmum · 12/12/2010 15:01

I was thinking the same happy, however it seems unfair not to tell her why but also I feel I need to stAnd up for myself. On the other hand she is not shy in standing up for herself and it could degenerate into her taking control. I'll probably end up offering her a pay rise!

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ItalianLady · 12/12/2010 15:04

I was sacked from a nanny job. The contract said one month trial with one weeks notice from either side, then 3 months notice once the trial had passed.

The mother rang me at the beginning of my second week and said not to come back. She didn't give a reason nor gave me time to ask so maybe you don't need too?

BTW I knew why she had sacked me but no way would she have said.

flowerytaleofNewYork · 12/12/2010 15:11

How could she take control of a situation where you are dismissing her? I'm confused.

Just say it's not working out, you are giving her her one month's notice, or whatever her notice period is, and you are not requiring her (presumably) to work her notice period. If she asks why, tell her you had been feeling for a while it wasn't really working and her refusal to take care of your DD confirmed your opinion and you have decided to end the employment.

You don't need to talk about gross misconduct or anything official or scary sounding. You don't need to use any drastic procedures or disciplinary stuff, anything like that. Really it's not difficult this early on. Not pleasant, but it's as stress-free as dismissing someone could ever be.

Perhaps I don't know enough about the background.

happychappy · 12/12/2010 15:22

lol bobbiesmum. Make up some reasonable codswallop to get rid. I agree in principle you should stand up for yourself, however with a child in hospital you are not at your strongest and perhaps this isn't the time to start. I feel she has taken advantage of you and your family, given that you are less strong and able to cope with life and its nuts and bolts than usual. And to put her shopping before your child needs goes against the grain for me. I would do this for a stranger and for a person I have a relationship far more. In fact I have done (a very good friend of mine she and her three children stayed with me for three weeks while her house was being finished and another time when her youngest was very seriously ill in hospital her children stayed with me for nearly 2 weeks; I fed them all and looks after them all). In my experience life gives you what you give it and this I expect will be her experience.

Enough waffling; organise in your mind what you want from her and how you will cope after and make. Then do it. Where is the father of your children, can he not help you or back you up?

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Bobbiesmum · 12/12/2010 15:30

Thanks everyone. Happy- dh is laid up with ( real not man) flu but is happy to do the dirty work. I think I may well cop out and let him it's just I have had most contact with nanny so far (and I always feel I like to do everything myself even if I don't do it so well!)

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happychappy · 12/12/2010 15:37

from what Ive seen I think probably you do it together is best. Only because as you say you have had the most contact and she probably think of you as her employer. Just back him up and talk about what you are going to say before hand so you are ready

also I would decide if you want her to work out her notice, given you have to pay her; are you willing to put up with the awkwardness in that time?

happychappy · 12/12/2010 15:45

start a thread about what codswallop you can say to get rid of crap nanny

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Bobbiesmum · 12/12/2010 16:44

ha ha thanks!

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mranchovy · 13/12/2010 01:21

Listen to what Flowery says, the other posters are just guessing which isn't much help really is it?

The idea of working out "what codswallop you can say to get rid of crap nanny" is frankly offensive. Treat people honestly and fairly, whether they are employers or employees, customers, suppliers, neighbours or whoever, and the law is generally on your side. Treat people and the law with disrespect and you deserve to end up in court.

To answer your questions specifically, refusing to follow instructions is not always gross misconduct, this isn't the army. There are a whole load of defences that she could raise in an employment tribunal that you would have to pay a lawyer to defeat.

You offered her 1 months notice when you employed her, you must honour that (or pay in lieu) - the lack of her signature on a piece of paper does not change the agreement between you.

melymoo · 13/12/2010 02:29

Surely if she hasn't signed the contract, the one month probation period stated on it isn't applicable? With no contract signed on her behalf I don't think she could do anything if you decide to go with immediate dismissal, no notice but I'm not 100%, could be thinking I know when I really don't Grin

happychappy · 13/12/2010 06:34

Mranchovy, I think you've misunderstood me. She doesn't want to get into a slagging match. She just wants it done. With a child back and forth from hospital, the last thing she needs is a defensive aggressive nanny. I agree in principle honesty is the best policy but sure in her circumstances the road of least resistance is best. Agree the notice period and pay and say goodbye with the argument or bad feeling

mranchovy · 13/12/2010 10:41

Happychappy, I hope I have Smile.

As you say, the path of least resistance is simply to terminate her employment in accordance with the terms of the contract, which is (we are told) to give one month's notice.

happychappy · 13/12/2010 10:45

exactly but she doesn't need to go into the why and wheres of it. Just get it over with as painlessly as possible. Which is being nicer than her nanny was to her leaving her to try and find childcare (while she was being paid to by bobbiesmum). But not ironing but shopping instead.

PinkElephantsOnParade · 13/12/2010 10:51

mranchovy is absolutely right, quit messing about, just prepare an envelope containing her p45 and a cheque for one month's notice pay.

Then ask her in for a short chat with you and DH, say it's not working out and you are giving her notice. Then hand her the envelope.

Don't get into a discussion, just make your statement then ask her to leave.

mousymouse · 13/12/2010 10:51

melymoo, even if she didn't sign the contract her starting work means she accepted the conditions.

Resolution · 13/12/2010 10:54

Melymoo - she is entitled to one month's notice, or at least pay in lieu.

No reason for dismissal has to be given in the first year's employment.