Dh has finally said yes to 3...but what the hell have I done?!

[luckywinner]

I have spent the past 9 months persuading him that 3 is a good idea. He has thrown all the practicalities at me, money, flat, car etc, but now he has said yes! And all I can think is eek!

I am very excited but now equally terrified. What have I done? Will I upset the beautiful relaltionship ds and dd have? Will I bring chaos into our house by having a third? Will we have no money? Will I be too tired?

Help me! Please reassure me that 3 is the magic number.

Hi

We have 3 at the moment. All girls, 5yr old plus 4 yr old twins. It has been so lovely watching them grow up so far together, 3 has been a fab number...tho we are now having exactly the same dilemmas as you about having no 4 . I don't think you would ever regret having another child, you just cope with the situations and you will be absolutely fine!

Cx

I have 3 (two DDs aged 4 and 2 and DS aged nearly 6 weeks). After I had DD2 I just knew IMMEDIATELY that I wanted a third (kind of secret wish for no.3 to be a boy, which is what happened, but DH and I would have been very happy with a 3rd DD too). I do think this broody feeling might have had a tiny bit to do with DD2 being the easiest sunniest happiest baby ever. She slotted in without a ripple to our lives! So, now here I am with my much wanted DS and yes, I couldn't be happier but my GOD am I on my knees with exhaustion!! The DDs adore him, but even that causes problems (fights over who should put his dummy in or blanket on or kiss him etc etc), he is not easy in the way DD2 was (cries a fair bit, wants to be held the whole time and doesn't sleep nearly as well at night as either of the DDs did). So yes, it's really really tough at the moment, but who cares about all that in the great scheme of things?? It's an endurance excercise in the early days and in a few months we'll be through all the worst of the exhaustion and I am so so happy that we decided to go for it and have a third. I feel my family is 'right' now. I had always wanted more than 2 (I used to want 4, but am revising that...........).

GoddessBlossom, if you are thinking about it every day I'd say do it - and quickly!! The longer you leave it the more held back you will be by the new baby. I always think by the time they are 2.5 / 3 you are sort of 'free'. No longer constrained by naps, buggies, nappies etc and they have a v small amount of rational thought and sort of obey instructions.