Can I really have it all? Another third child one

[Maybebaby2025]

Since I was little I’ve always imagined having a family with three children. I have two beautiful healthy children and my DH has always said he’s happy with two so I’ve put my longing to one side. He’s now thrown a curve ball and said he’d like to try for a third. Obviously I’m pleased, but also slightly petrified as before it was always an abstract idea!

Things I’m scared about -

Twins
Something happening to me which means I wouldn’t be there for my two current children
Losing the balance we have now
Two current children not getting the time and attention they need

Of these I feel like the most practical concern is the balance.

I work four days a week and I love my job. It’s a really nice balance for me and although I do feel guilty I don’t get more time with the children, I feel like the balance is right for me. Is it still possible to do a fairly high level career job along with three kids?

Any views welcome before we go head first into this and start trying!!

I just remember my friend having to use her nanny on Saturdays as she took one kid to one activity, her husband took the other and the nanny took the third. So much is priced for 'family of four'.
You'll need a bigger car.
Two against one.
Anyway, I'm one of three. The middle. And yep we do all fit our stereotypes! Eldest is over achieving perfectionist; I'm the practical mediator, youngest the (slightly) indulged baby.

I think with your age gaps a third won't change things much. I have three, twins and then a third - there's less than 3 years between them and it didn't make too much of a difference as we weren't going on holiday with just the older two anyway!

The longer you wait the more likely it is you'll have a toddler and an older kid to try and work out days out and stuff like that.

If you can afford it and have space, then why not?

Congratulations @biscuitcat!

I’m in the same situation as you - posted a thread on here a few months ago as couldn’t decide whether it would be mad to have a third child. Now I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant. Very early days obviously, and also thought I might be mad when we first got the positive test result. But now feeling hopeful (fingers crossed)!

@Nicepie congratulations!!