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Anyone had 3 kids over 40?

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puffysthename · 11/03/2024 23:02

Hello,
Just wondering about experiences of having 3 kids over the age of 40... I had my first at 40, second at 41 (nearly 42) and would like to have a third but people seem to think I'm mad. Everything was straightforward the first time around but I was more run down in the second pregnancy with spd and back pain meaning I wound up on crutches. The second birth was also traumatic but still I would go again. Can't shake the feeling that I'm not finished. Am I mad?
Would love to hear your experiences.
Thank you

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puffysthename · 12/09/2025 10:09

zarah21 · 11/09/2025 01:24

I have a 5 year old boy and 18 month daughter, I just turned 41 last month. I'm still breastfeeding, but my menstrual cycle has just returned and I guess I'm worried about time running out.
I also worry I'm being selfish having a third, when I have two lovely, healthy children.
Theres also the practicalities, sadly. Like our small 3 bed house which would be on a timer to move out. The car too. And I hear I'd be officially outnumbered.

A lot to mull over, I guess.

Yes definitely so much to think about. How does your partner feel?

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puffysthename · 12/09/2025 10:10

Outside9 · 11/09/2025 21:17

What's selfish about not having a 3rd?

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No I think the poster is saying it might be selfish to have a third

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Outside9 · 12/09/2025 10:19

puffysthename · 12/09/2025 10:10

No I think the poster is saying it might be selfish to have a third

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Ahh I see, thanks for clarifying m

zarah21 · 15/09/2025 23:34

puffysthename · 12/09/2025 10:09

Yes definitely so much to think about. How does your partner feel?

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Partner is on board really. He does say we would have to get on with it, sort of speak. He is 42 in Jan.

I have decided to go to the GP for a health check. Maybe check the hormone levels and, well my kidney function, as it took a dip after pregnancy number 2.
Then reassess.

Will keep you posted. Thanks again for replying.

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puffysthename · 16/09/2025 10:25

zarah21 · 15/09/2025 23:34

Partner is on board really. He does say we would have to get on with it, sort of speak. He is 42 in Jan.

I have decided to go to the GP for a health check. Maybe check the hormone levels and, well my kidney function, as it took a dip after pregnancy number 2.
Then reassess.

Will keep you posted. Thanks again for replying.

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Oh that’s fantastic that he is on board! Good luck with check up and with whatever you decide. Would love an update. In the meantime I’ll keep working on my husband and hoping… x

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TakeMe2Insanity · 16/09/2025 10:30

I would have absolutely have loved to. We could have afforded and support etc. if you can get number 3 done quickly then go for it. As it was I had my first at 40, and then promptly went on to miscarry 5 times including a late miscarriage finally having ds2 at 47. If you can go for it.

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puffysthename · 16/09/2025 10:33

TakeMe2Insanity · 16/09/2025 10:30

I would have absolutely have loved to. We could have afforded and support etc. if you can get number 3 done quickly then go for it. As it was I had my first at 40, and then promptly went on to miscarry 5 times including a late miscarriage finally having ds2 at 47. If you can go for it.

I’m sorry you went through so much. You are very brave! I’m desperate to just go for it but need to convince my husband…

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