urgent advice

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hi all please dint judge me but here goes... i am a 25 year old mother of 3 children eldest being 9 youngest being 4 months. i went doctors few weeks ago to go on contreception which my partner didnt feel comfortbale with n aaid he wouod take care n use condoms well anyway i found out 2 days ago that i am pregnant n i feel so embarrased n im not sure what to do has there been naybody else in this position :'(

You have a choice first of all, whether you wish to continue the pregnancy or not so have a good think about that before you tell your partner. Is he the father of all children and have you been together long?

Him stopping you from contraception is unforgivable but you are 25 and also need to understand that you can never let a man or anyone take such risks with your physical and mental health and your future. Depending on how he put you off taking appropriate contraception, I'd consider whether to stay with him. Was he controlling about it or did he just mumble something about being worried about you taking stuff and you went along with that without challenging?

I hope you're ok. You do still have choices. And if you keep the baby you will probably manage, most people do.