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Small age gap advice
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Jamumm · 06/08/2017 16:05

Hello!
I have a wonderful 5month old and always knew we want at least one more preferably with a small age gap!
So here I am having recently discovered the amazing news we're expecting again.

I am of course delighted but suddenly felt really nervous. All going well we will have 14months between babies.

My husband works shifts so e
Is either gone before we get up home in time for dinner or leaves after lunch and home after we go to bed.

Anyone gits and advice or tips to share with a similar age gap.

But nervous about bath and bedtime.

Until recently I've always ate dinner and done house work etc after baby was down at bedtime because my time was full of her., but of course can't do that with an 1yr old too.

I know I will manage and all going well I will be very blessed but love to hear of others mums experiences with small age and how different is was.

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MyfatheristheKing · 06/08/2017 16:07

You will be fine! There is only 17 months between my youngest two and they are so close and are now 5 and 4. It is hard work (aren't all kids?) but you get into your routine and things settle down. Congratulations!!

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RandomMess · 06/08/2017 16:12

14 months between my middle 2 it was great, my favourite age gap!

Get a double pushchair, 2nd cot and high hair!

Your older one will be sitting properly in the bath then and use a rigid bath chair for baby.

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Couchpotato3 · 06/08/2017 16:20

11 month gap. Hard work but great in the longer term and they grew up very close, almost like twins. A lot of the time it's just doing the same thing twice (tandem nappy changes etc). I remember sitting with a bowl of slop, 'one for you and one for you and one for me'.... I was permanently knackered so perhaps I don't remember much, and it was a long time ago, but I wouldn't have done it any differently. Congratulations and enjoy!

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Jamumm · 06/08/2017 16:45

Thanks girls! I'm really excited about it and I feel like if I had to have a 1yr right now then I'd be totally fine. Think it's the first few weeks/months of constant feeds and naps I'm nervous about juggling. My baby was barely out my arms for first 3months, all day sleeps where on me.

My early thoughts on double buggy are I might not get one. I love babywearing although I suppose will need to stop soon. So until now pram hasnt been overly used. So might keep the one I have since it's a decent one bought with the intention of reusing and just wear one or the other. Then on family days out just take then 2nd compact stroller we got for holidays.
Guess I have a while to think about it.

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Strawberrybubblebath · 12/08/2017 23:18

17 minutes between my first 2 (twins), 3rd came along 18 months later and 4th 2 yrs after that.
I found the closer in age the easier. You are still in nappy/baby mode. All the activities are the same - no juggling a primary school age child and a baby with different interests/activities. Even now they can do the same after school things e.g. Cubs/dancing. They play together well and holidays are easy as everyone is into the same thing e.g. buckets and spades.

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littlepeas · 19/08/2017 23:19

I wrote a long waffling post and deleted. The condensed version - I had this gap between 1 and 2 and I think I had it easier than friends who had more 'standard' gaps. You will be fine. They are nearly 9 and nearly 8 now and I still think it's fab! We have a third as well (22 month gap - much harder). They are all friends, it's lovely, it's easy to entertain them. We work hard to make sure they all get individual time - that is the biggest challenge with small age gaps.

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Crumbs1 · 19/08/2017 23:28

My gap between 3 and 4/5 was only 13 months. Complete lack of self control after a bottle of Chablis. Our lives were turned upside down because it was twins but we coped. Bigger car, two washing machines, a few extra hours housekeeping help, a backpack and double buggy. They were actually easy babies - more because they had to slot in to family life then anything else. They remain the easiest going, most placid and most adaptable of our children.

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