Wanting more

[cherrypiew4]

I have 4dc 12,10,7 and 14 months and we decided when ttc that dc4 would be the last and I really did mean it. I was poorly through most of my pg and I thought at the time that it really was the last time.
Fast forward to now and I want another this week I have found it had to deal with the fact that we are done and have been on the verge of crying dh does not want anymore so that's it. Anybody else feel like this what are you doing to get over the broody feelings.

I am in almost the exact same place as you. Dc4 is now approaching five and I have spent weeks and weeks feeling so depressed because I want another child and dh only sees the negatives.

I can't really tell you what to do as I have finally persuaded dh to let me have the coil removed and see what happens. I am pretty sure I will be pregnant within a few weeks.

I did feel a bit like this a while back, but am now totally in agreement with DH. We've just heard today that his appointment to have his vasectomy is at the end of April

Is it perhaps because you can't imagine how you'll fill your time? I have recently decided to throw myself into eventually getting the career I've always wanted.

Planning for something I've wanted for so long, is making me realise that having another baby is the last thing I want or need.

This is a revelation to me though. Over the past couple of years, I've felt genuine sadness and at not having any more, and been extremely broody.

At times I was sure those feelings would stay with me for many years to come. My excitement of the journey ahead, though, has replaced the feelings I had about desperately wanting another baby.

I found it very difficult to cope with being sterilised when my 4th had turned 5. I absolutely knew it was the right decision for me but it was incredibly emotionally and I cried so much the surgeon nearly didn't do it!!!!

However 3.5 years on the sadness of moving on from having little dc and being a "Mum" in that way has gone and it's full of watching them grow into pre-teens etc. enjoying them fulfill their passions and potential and they're becoming people I want to be friends with.