Please help, how do you cope with 4 without haviing a breakdown?!

[AppleCrumples]

I have 4 dcs ds1 (9) ds2 (7) dd1 (4) and dd2 (9 weeks). I feel like the worst and most useless mum. My house is a tip, my dcs are behaving terribly constantly fighting and winding eachother up. Dd1 has turned into a tantruming rude little diva and regularly refuses to settle down at bedtime. Anything we ask of her sends her into a rage (ie please eat dinner, please don't throw things at people etc)

Obviously right now the baby needs a kot of attention. I am ebf and although she sleeps fairly well i am shattered!

I feel like i am constantly shouting and no one is happy or having much fun. The evenings are hard as dh works nights so i am on my own. He tries to help but also needs to sleep before work.

Don't really know what i want from thia, just need to vent.

Someone please tell me it gets easier and how you cope! I love them so much but feel like i am failing them totally! :(

[BadRoly]

Hmmm well I'm popping into mention how pleasant a tummy bug is when it hits 4 dc! My lounge looks like a laundry - my mum was staying and came down with it too. All staggered over about 10days. Dh is due home tonight and has been muttering about feeling rough. I've told him to stay away if he is. I think he thinks I'm joking!