3rd child at 37?

[kingfix]

After my 2nd miscarriage last month I have lost all confidence in our once firm plan to have a 3rd child. I suddenly feel too old and too tired (I know many women my age are full of beans, but I am not).

But then I feel very sad at the thought of not having any more too.

So have any of you had 3 or more children in your late 30s?
I'd really like to hear from any who are a bit further down the road: I think I can more or less cope with the baby stage now but will I have the energy for 3 teenagers in my 50s?

or just tell me a smutty joke to cheer me up!

Sorry about your miscarriage

But don't give up yet! I had a 3rd at 37, & a 4th after that & honestly, having teenagers around in your 50s is fantastic for stopping you really getting old & set in your ways, they just won't let you!

Good luck

(& I have never been full of beans )

Wow, Ponders, that is a very nice story, thanks.

I had my dd at 36 then ds2 at 47 - many miscarriages in between.

I'm 50 now and you somehow find the energy to play and chase after them etc but truthfully the last pregnancy and birth was a lot easier than the first two.

DD1 aged 31, DD2 aged 40, DS1 aged 41 DS2 aged 42

I know i'm one of the really really lucky ones to have had 3 healthy babies in my 30s. So Sorry to hear about your MCs but at 37 i dont think i could have given up quite yet.

sorry meant 40s!

Sorry to hear about your babies.

I had my 3rd at 37. I was tired anyway, due to the other two(22mths and 5.5 yrs at the time).

DS3 is now 3 and I don't regret it for a moment.

Good luck with whatever decision you make

Had DD1 at 35, DD2 at 36 and have just turned 37 and am considering DC3, though having seen that DH isn't quite as helpful as I would have hoped, am wondering whether DC3 would be a step too far as I feel quite tired...

[and I can't remember any smutty jokes atm]

I had dd at 37 and ds at 39. I'm knackered now (they are 3 and 5), but I think that sort of comes with the (toddler) territory (though suspect if I was 10 years younger, I would be less knackered, but that also comes with the territory, iyswim....

I felt VERY broody after ds and decided I would give myself until I was 43 to decide about #3. As it happened, it wore off quite quickly (!), and I'm more than happy with sticking at 2.

I think if you are up to trying again, you are certainly not too old.....

Good luck!

This is all very encouraging, thank you all!

Swans I admire you for keeping on going though many mcs. To a large extent it's the fear of another one that's putting me off trying again.

Perhaps I won't take the baby clothes to the charity shop for another few months, then.

I had DS1 when I was 32, Ds2 at 35. Then DS2 developed serious problems and I never thought I would have another child - I was tired and quite sad.
then life picked up a bit and DH and I suddenly thought we would have one last try. Six months to conceive or he would have the snip.

I got pregnant imediately which, at 40 was surprising but great. I had DD at 41.

Best thing we ever did and we feel very lucky. I am glad that, even though our circumstances are not the same as yours, we took a little time andthen tried when it felt right. All though I was very old

And Kingfix I am nearly 49 - 50 next year. I have DS1 who is 17, DS2 who is 13 ( with sn) and DD who is 7 and just bloody knackering.

But life is great

I figure I am older but I am far better at the strategy, negotiation and tactics part of parenting....

pagwatch, yes the years have brought me a certain degree of low cunning at least.

ROFL
Low cunning is a so much better way to describe it

I had my first at 37 after 5 years of trying and many miscarriages and my 2nd at 40 after 2 1/2 years of medical help and miscarriages and my 3rd at 43 after being told I wouldn't have any more :) , no miscarriages and I didn't realise I was pregnant for a couple of months.

Yes I get tired but it is getting easier as they get older.

My mum had 5 by 37!

I had my 5th at 37 and my 6th at 39. I don't feel old at all and now we are having fun ttc lucky number 7 - we are both 40 :o

Good luck if you decide to take the plunge!

Good morning Kingfix

Sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage, recently.

DONT GIVE UP THOUGH!

I Had my last child at 39 years old.

My kids are now 5, 9 , 11 and 14. I am 45 years and 6 months old. Well just over that. Usually you find children adding the extras to their ages

I also lost a baby before my daughter (9) was born. She would have been 10 in November. I did not wait too long as you can see before trying again. It made me feel better having another girl. My now daughter never took the place of the one I lost but it made it easier.

Just rest and have a think about what you would like to do. I know losing a baby is not easy.

Take one day at a time, do not rush into what may happen next year.

I am thinking of you and trust that all with be well if you decide to go again. I get the feeling that you may do that.

Its a personal decision that you and your partner need to make....

thanks again everyone. I had one of those lovley days with the children today, which reminded me that I am very lucky already.

I think I'll take a bit more time to mourn the miscarriage this time - last time I just tried to get pregnant again immediately - and see where we are when I feel a bit less tearful.

Very happy to know that you are all out there enjoying your families too.

Right, wine...

In case you want an update - we decided to go for it and yippee! a positive pg test today. I'm unsuccessfully trying to squash my excitement as there is a long way to go. But, yay!

Was just about to post about my 3 ds's (and two m/c) when I saw your last post - way hey! Congrats and best wishes.

(for what it's worth, my ds1 is 9 today! my ds3 is 4 next month and I'm 43. when you get tired, believe me, you will get over it!)

Wow well done you! All the best xxx

Congratulations.
I was 41 whenn dd3 born, 3 years ago. Also have dd1 and dd2 who are 9 and 11.
Dd3 certainly keeps me young.

Thank you! (trying not to count chickens)

Congrats !

And here I was going to offer you encouragement with my story: I had my first at 37 (after 4 MMCs) and am currently holding DS4 6 months - I am 44. And knackered. But delighted about why I am knackered...

Very best of luck with your pregnancy.