Struggling to find purpose after infertility and final IVF round

[Flyinggoose22]

Have trying for a baby for 7 years - got pregnant naturally 2 years ago but MMC at 11 weeks. This was my one and only pregnancy. Just coming to the end of 5th and final ivf round - I’m 13dpo and it’s a stark negative. I’m now 40 so feel I need to move on and try and focus on something else - but struggling to find purpose without getting to be a mother. Everything alternative feels so shallow and pointless.
Grasping for any positive stories that I may get a positive after all but know this is denial really. Not sure if I have a question or just need to write this somewhere.

@Flyinggoose22 I'm so sorry, it's so heart breaking especially after so many rounds. It is so hugely unfair that you have gone through all that.

I'm in a very different situation as have a 5 yr old DD and have been dealing with secondary infertility. I know I am so lucky, but three years of trying and 2 rounds of IVF with no success have almost broken me. I know we can't try again and it is so hard to just...move on.

Sending you a big hug. Give yourself some time to grieve this failed round and try to look after yourself. :(

Aw I’m sorry. Have you ruled out adoption?

Im sorry this has been a long journey. Have you only been trying naturally for 7yrs or have you done any ivf cycles? If you have done ivf , is it that your not getting embryos? Would you consider DE?