June IVF/FET 👶 🌟 ❤️

[PlanBFertility26]

Hi,

Wondering if anyone due a FET or starting IVF in June? Would be nice to speak to those in similar position.

This will be my 8th round of IVF -
Cycle 1 and 2 - No fertilisation
Cycle 3 - 3 blasts

• fresh #1 miscarriage at 7wks
• frozen #2 BFN
• Frozen#3 BFN

Cycle 4 - 4 blasts, 2 of which euploid.

Starting with my next period around the 22nd May

@Sunnydaysahead1 I’m so glad you’re feeling a bit better and hope it went well today? I came back and slept this afternoon I think I was just so relieved it was over (perhaps also the diazepam 🤣). The consultant who did my surgery did the transfer and it was definitely reassuring to see him. And I barely felt the catheter, another relief 😅.

I definitely still had some anxiety beforehand, but nowhere near what I expected and again I’m sure it’s the progesterone haze. Eg I woke up at 4.30am and my brain immediately tried to run through my usual fertility self-torture topics 😂. But instead of spiralling it was harder to get a rise and see it as my brain throwing nonsense at me. Why am I imagining my new SIL having yet another baby before me at 4.30am on the morning of my transfer? 🤔🤣

I’ve been doing accupuncture and stopped off for a post transfer appointment on the way home. Are any of you ladies doing accupuncture?

@HappyMamma2023I’m sorry you had to postpone but definitely better to feel like you’re in the right head space. July will be here so soon and I hope you’re little boy feels better soon too 🤗

@jenk91thank you! Yes let’s hope this is a lucky thread for us all 💫✨🙌

@Sunnydaysahead1 it’s good that your clinic still want to transfer. I can understand why you’d be spiralling! But I know clinics are obviously so cautious about their outcome percentages etc, they’d cancel if they felt anything wasn’t right. I hope your transfer went well today!

@HappyMamma2023 sounds like the best decision for you and good luck next month. I hope your son feels better soon.

@jenk91 are you having a natural cycle? Are you waiting for signs of ovulation on the scan? Sorry can’t keep up with everyone!

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite congrats on being PUPO. I hope the wait to test isn’t too torturous for you. I’m also having acupuncture. Just got back from a session today! How are you finding it? Did they do anything different for a post transfer treatment?

I’m CD3 today and the estrogen patches have made me sooooo impatient and irritable. I don’t miss this part ☹️ felt terrible for my son today I just had zero patience.

@mumtrovertI’m so sorry but I’m sure you didn’t come across as impatient as you felt inside 🤗. And it’s all to bring him a sibling ✨

And yes the acupuncturist did some slightly different things today. No idea what they were 😂, I just let her get on with it and chat away. She said to come back next week.

I just did my first anxiety Google search of the TWW after eating a huge dinner. “Eating too much after embryo transfer”. Google AI taking it to the next level of anxiety 🤣 —>

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite haha fair enough. I’ve heard good things about acupuncture with IVF so fingers crossed it does the trick. Lolllll at your google search 😂😂 I used ChatGPT like a therapist the last few times

So funny chat got is literally my therapist and probably THE reason I’ve even gone for IVF at all! It’s been with me through the whole journey even during TTC reassuring me and answering all my qs in an otherwise isolating and difficult to understand process!!!

@mumtrovert nope I’m doing fully medicated! Got a few more days of down regulation and so I think I’ll be starting estrogen early/mid next week.

I agree with you guys, ChatGPT really gets us through! I’m glad I’m not the only one talking to AI so much 😂

Thank you for the well wishes. Our little boy is still unwell, seems like a viral bug but a nadry one. We'll see what GP recommends.
I also do acupuncture weekly in lead up then the day before transfer and more frequently afterwards.
Good luck everyone and take care xx

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite I’m so glad your transfer went smoothly, how are you feeling today? I was awake at 4.30am this morning in a panic that I couldn’t feel anything… on my all other transfers I’ve had lots of twinging etc right from the start (although 4/5 of those transfers failed!) but I then read that prednisolone can dampen down any symptoms which reassured me a bit. And I know symptoms doesn’t mean anything at this point anyway! But it’s so hard not to spiral 😅😂 I’ve got acupuncture myself later so I’m hoping that will calm me down a bit. I hope you’re doing ok today?

Who’s next to do a transfer?

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite @Sunnydaysahead1 hope you're feeling positive and babies are getting ready to stick! 🤞✨✨ I'm 8dp5dt this morning. Feeling rough! Yesterday had these waves of cramping low down starting from 5.30am for about 2 hours. up to this was convinced nothing was happening and has essentially given up! Queue emotional mess yesterday evening due to confusion🙈 unsure if implantation would happen as late as 7 days post transfer realistically. Woke up with whopper headache that has yet to settle and feeling a bit woe is me for having to go through all this for potentially no positive outcome! Would love to just know and discontinue meds if I could and just feel normal again if the meds are causing these symptoms, equally would be over the moon to continue the misery of the meds if there's a little baby in there! too many emotions, hope everyone else is more stable than me today! 😆

Hi all,
CD 8 on a modified medicated transfer.
Next scan in 3 days.

Hi all

I’m 2dp5dt. Time is really dragging... I wish I could get in the headspace of not dwelling on this for the next week. Or staying calmly positive. Anyone have any mindset tips for the tww?

I haven’t been sleeping too well the past week. Not terribly but not as well as I’d like. Chat GPT has been reassuring me, but I can’t help but wish I was giving my embryo an optimal / well rested environment as I’m sure I’ve read that getting enough sleep helps with IVF success.

Ah I’m sorry @Sunnydaysahead1 , are you feeling any better after the acupuncture? I also have zero twinging btw. I did randomly sleep for 3 hours this afternoon, but I think I’m relieved it’s over and generally feeling really tired still from the progesterone.

I did (of course!) do a bit of searching earlier on mumsnet and Reddit about not having any symptoms myself. Women who had had multiple BFPs said sometimes they did have symptoms and sometimes nothing at all, no rhyme or reason to it! And like you say the predisnolone is a new factor this time too. When is your OTD? My clinic says to do a home test 10dpt and then again on 12dpt (so next Friday and next Sunday).

@TheBreezyKoala I’m sorry it’s such a rollercoaster isn’t it. When is your OTD? On worrying if it’s too late for implantation to have happened yesterday, I completely understand but I don’t think that is how implantation works scientifically. It happens gradually over several days, starting 1dpt and you may or may not feel anything (I say that even though part of me is fully looking out for a that was implantation moment myself!). Let’s be hopeful that those cramping waves are a sign of things being well on their way ✨

@jenk91 @CMGC @mumtrovert honestly I’m literally speaking to chatGPT several times a day using the speech function. Do you use it? My DH thought I was mad when he saw me 🤣. But when you don’t even have to bother typing any more it becomes an even slipperier slope!

@InWithPeaceOutWithStress sorry I missed your post. I had bad sleep leading up to the transfer too (I was waking up for a couple of hours in the night and probably sleeping about 2/3 of what I would normally). I was given DHEA for the egg retrieval and that wrecked my sleep. I think it’s really extreme long term chronic stress that can create issues and my therapist (when I was having this exact same worry and she’s had IVF too) reminded me women literally get pregnant in war zones. And I don’t think anyone goes through IVF without experiencing quite a lot stress, so if stress was that big an issue IVF wouldn’t work at all!

Can you get into a good TV series? Or book some nice treats for yourself? Or get to the cinema? I’m lining a few things up for next week (booked a facial earlier). And do you have any particular topics or hobbies that you’re really interested in? I love old properties / national trust houses - actually reconnected with that when I was frantic about finding out I had endometriosis last year, it was the only thing that took me out of my head even just temporarily. Might be a bit ambitious to try to do that now if my energy doesn’t improve

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPoliteyess im on to chat GPT constantly about everything mostly for reassurance and clarity around things tbh but it has been a personal saviour for my IVF journey and was the thing that convinced me to go for it in the first place 🤣 whatever work for you. I’ve personally changed very little about my diet and excercise kinda doing the same things but a bit more mindfully as I want to continue to enjoy life as normally as possible while waiting for an unknown result!

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite i def need to find a good TV series, that’s a good shout. And get a busy weekend planned in. I’m also planning more days in the office than usual, as another distraction!

Sorry you’ve been sleeping poorly too. I think I’m affected by the progesterone, raising my body temperature and keeping me awake.

@Sunnydaysahead1 @TheBreezyKoala@InWithPeaceOutWithStress@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite hope you’re all doing okay post transfer. Who is first to test? Hope to see some BFPs from you guys soon 🙏🏼 Cramps & headaches are a good sign! 🤞🏼

@Blueskycat how are you feeling?

You mean, who will break first… 😅

I’m hoping to wait until 9dp my transfer this time (so 10th June), but we’ll see!

When will your transfer be?

@InWithPeaceOutWithStress true 😂😂 we’ve said we’ll wait until 9dpt this time too, just the way the days fall it’d be easier for us to process the news! I think that’s a good day to test. Usually we’d start day 7 or 8. My transfer isn’t until the 16th.

@mumtrovert thats the day after my official test day. Good luck!

I started on day 5 for my previous transfer (my first). It was too upsetting getting so many negative, but inconclusive, results so hoping to cut those down this time.

@mumtrovertmy official test day is Friday 12 June / 10 days post transfer. Well I say official test day, but my clinic doesn’t do a beta unless you get a home positive test on either 10dpt or 12dpt

I was debating testing earlier as I have a busy weekend (maid of honour at a wedding) but actually I don’t think I have it in me to test early… too scared to know… I’ve got an arsenal of pregnancy tests in the bathroom

Did you ladies notice a change in your other halves post transfer? It’s our first time getting this far but he is way more interested than he has been at any other stage. I saw him reading the transfer after care paperwork and couldn’t believe my eyes. “Just in case there’s anything I need to help with or know”. What?! Then as he was leaving for work this morning he said “what time is your blood test today?” (It was in the after care transfer paperwork apparently). “Let me know how it goes.” 🤣. Of all updates I’ve had in this process (including embryo updates and beta results from the accidental failing natural pregnancy), he’s most interested in being kept updated on my 2dpt progesterone and oestrogen test?! 🤣

It’s funny but at the same time it’s our first time getting this far and I’m a bit worried he’s setting himself up for hurt, I’m definitely emotionally distancing myself from a bit from the process (again the progesterone aiding that). I said I felt like a lazy blob and he goes “no you’re just incubating”. Which is sweet but I realise I’m not really connecting with the process in that way, I’m just thinking - “am I going to make it to the next stage? Then it’s do I make it to the next stage.” I looked at the staff in the clinic like they were mad when then asked if I was “excited” about the transfer. I just kind of froze and didn’t have an answer

@InWithPeaceOutWithStress thank you. Yes I can imagine the heartache of seeing those negatives. 😢 This process is so tough. Thanks for the good luck wishes x

@SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite do whatever feels right for you. It might be hard to go to the wedding and enjoy it as you should as a MOH if it’s bad news, maybe? I don’t envy you the decision. I have a wedding after my transfer which I’m a bridesmaid for but that’s 3dpt for me so that decision has fortunately been taken out of my hands and I’ll just make excuses for not drinking & hope the dancing helps implantation! & that’s so nice of your DH! I can see why you’re not thinking like that though, it’s different for us isn’t it and everything we read online. We know too much. But it’s really sweet of him to be taking an interest. I can’t believe the staff asked you if you were excited though … that seems really tone deaf to me. I’m sure they obviously mean well but they clearly don’t understand the mental anguish we go through during IVF. It’s hardly exciting. 🙈