IVF Feb 2026

[Moosey898]

Hi everyone - just thought I'd start a thread for anyone going through IVF in February.

We're not 100% confirmed yet (GP missed off a blood test so we're rushing to the clinic tomorrow to get it done, so frustrating!) but all being well we'll be starting stims at the start of Feb for our first cycle.

We've had a horrid TTC journey to this point and it's definitely hard to imagine it working, but we had to try. We're having PGT-SR as I have not one but 2 translocations (balanced and robertsonian) so at the very least IVF gives us the best chance of reducing our miscarriage risk.

Hope everyone else is doing well, would love to hear any tips from those who have been through it before and particularly those who have done PGT or had FET.

@HM2024 doing pretty rough to be honest. Got a doctor's appointment booked next week to discuss my PTSD as it's been triggered really badly.

Consultant appointment is a week on Monday - praying my period stays away long enough for us to go ahead with our next round in April but it feels doubtful, timings are too close. So annoyed the clinic didn't have an appointment sooner x

@Moosey898 I'm so sorry for all you have been through and then this bad news on top of it.
Could you try to get a cancellation sooner maybe? Though perhaps a little forced time 'off' might be good.

Ah I tried asking for that already and apparently they don't offer any sort of cancellation or waitlist.

I just want to get on with it - medically nothing changes by waiting and we have such low chances of it working I just want to know the outcome of the whole thing now to be honest.

Im sorry @Moosey898

The appointment struggle is so frustrating, you know yourself best, I was also someone who just needed to get into the next round as quickly as possible and feeling like I was back in the process was healing for me too

Got my blood test tomorrow morning. Haven't tested early to keep the hope alive for as long as possible. Feeling a bit pre period today so hope bubble bursting a bit. 😕

How's everyone else doing? You're all about a month ahead of me and my l-o-n-g protocol!

Oooh - wishing you the best of luck @HM2024 Hope you've got a little fighter there x

@Evi83 Thank you. Ive had a bit of spotting today and lower back pain so I'm feeling sad as I think my period is coming. I think it is too late to be implantation related. I am 9dp5dt (or 8dp if you don't count day of transfer?).

@HM2024 spotting pink, red, brown as well as cramping can happen on and off throughout the first trimester according to my clinic. So don't count yourself out, I know it's hard because in my case I never had spotting that didn't turn into a period until the transfer cycle so the first couple of times it happened I was convinced I would just keep bleeding but it really is very common. Good luck!!

Best of luck @HM2024

I experienced spotting and PMS symptoms the day before by test as well and I’m still spotting occasionally now, 4.5 weeks later.

it’s so hard as the symptoms are so similar so it’s hard to say but have everything crossed for you !!

Very best of luck for tomorrow @HM2024 x

@HM2024 So stressful re back pain / spotting. It doesn't nec. mean period. I had cramps for 2 days after an FET last year, and spotting, then a big red bleed (towards the end of a 2ww) - which turned out to be a heamatoma. Iw as 100% sure we were out, then we had a heartbeat at 6w scan. Fingers crossed for you today 🙏🙏

My result was negative. My heart hurts.

I am so lucky to have my little girl. I just wish we could give her a sibling.

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I'm so sorry @HM2024 - go easy on yourself xx

I’m so sorry @HM2024 take care of yourself and have lots of cuddles with your little girl, don’t forget all she needs is you 💜 and I’m sure she’s very happy little girl xx

I’m really sorry too 💔

I'm so sorry @HM2024 . I completely understand. I am in the same boat. Would love a sibling but it's all feeling a bit out of reach at the mo.💔Take care of yourself.

Thanks for your kind words throughout this whole thing.

We did IVF as a 'we can say we tried everything' before moving on with our lives. It feels so final and so sad that there is no hope left.

During the cycle, I found out a close friend is pregnant and we would have only been a few weeks apart if it had worked out for us.

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I'm so sorry @HM2024! That is really really hard! Thinking of you.

I’m so sorry.
Pregnancy announcements are so hard. I am also surrounded.
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How is everyone doing? I am missing this little support chat group!

Hope everyone with good news are doing well. And everyone with bad news are doing ok with processing and making any new plans.

Some days I am fine, and some days I feel like the sadness of not being able to have another baby and make my daughter a big sister is like a brick sitting on my chest. I said we would do IVF to say we had tried everything and move on but I am finding that really difficult to give up hope and get that 'maybe...' out of my head. How can that be it?

And I'm SO angry and mad about how unfair fertility is. I want to go to one of those rage rooms and smash shit up!

I really need to book a follow-up with the counsellor. It is in the fertility clinic and I really don't think I can face going back to that car park/waiting room to see her, so will try to get an online appointment.

Hello. Ive taken a break for a few days from these forums. I’m really struggling at the minute. I’m in the same boat as you in that I already have a daughter and want to try everything possible for her to have a sibling. Slightly different in that I’ve just started a cycle for a frozen transfer after having a month “off” - although still tried naturally and still nothing. My mood has been horrendous this last few days. I’ve quit a temporary promotion I’ve been on as I feel I can’t face the extra pressure at work. My boss is one of the biggest gossips I’ve met and I feel I can’t share this with him.
the way I’m feeling I can’t possibly see how I can get pregnant under this much stress. I can’t find a balance of not getting my hopes up (even when I’m 99% sure it hasn’t worked) but also keeping positive. It’s impossible. Out of the last six years I have been actively trying for about 4 of them.

Im really sorry for how you’re feeling and for the situation you’re in. It’s so so unfair. I’m so tired with it all. Sending big virtual hugs.

@HM2024 and @TTCbaby2xox sending you both so much love and support 💕.

@TTCbaby2xox it sounds like you did the right thing taking a step back from the promotion - irrespective of everything else you’re dealing with. No one needs work stress. And this is a time to really look after and out for yourself 💕.

@HM2024 I hope you manage to get the online counselling session and it’s helpful 💕.

I barely have the mental energy to give an update on my side, it’s so draining isn’t it. And also how it just catches you unexpectedly at moments.

I had a horror show hormone crash after the miscarriage (just uncontrollable crying on public transport etc). Coincided with my birthday (who knew opening a birthday card could make you burst into tears?) and my brother in law’s 42 year old girlfriend (who got pregnant 3 months into dating) giving birth.

I did just feel about a week before we met the baby that I would be able to manage it as it felt like a hormonal rock had just been lifted off me one morning - I was even looking forward to it. I had told my mother in law about the miscarriage to buy a bit of breathing space. What I wasn’t anticipating was when all went to meet the baby (my MIL’s first grandchild) she would also make a big presentation of the same gift to me and my DH for our future baby, because she’s so sure it would happen, we should never doubt it etc. Lots of religious references. I can’t really remember what she said as I thought I was going to pass out. That sent me into a 36 hour tail spin and that present has been taken to my DH’s office!

Im trying for another transfer in May but I’m really anxious as I’ve separately been in treatment for years for an embedded bladder infection (I attributed a lot of my endo symptoms to it) and the antibiotics don’t seem to be working any more. I’m flaring massively and the “big gun” antibiotics I add into my protocol for flares only buy me about 12 hours relief. Normally they knock it dead. This is the most blood I’ve had… seeing the consultant again tomorrow but my biggest concern is that I’ve run out of pregnancy safe antibiotic options and these are really long term treatment protocols.