Due to start Stims any day now…! Anyone else?

[ivfjourneyandme]

Hi all,

I know there is a November thread but most ladies seem further ahead. I’m waiting for AF to show (4 days if she behaves) and then start stims

This is my first cycle so would love to go through this with as many as possible.

36yr old, AMH 1.9, AFC 3 and severe MFI. We’re having IVF with ICSI, DP is providing a sample next week as well to be frozen as a precaution incase he doesn’t produce many on the day.

Much love to all the incredibly brave ladies on this journey ❤️

@OrientalPinkLily right, i assumed they'd be next to each other and still being small could move around a bit, but I forgot that they'd each be in their own sack.
I haven't had my transfusion yet, "every two weeks" falls on this weekend so I'm going on Monday morning. The clinic didn't seem to see a problem with that. I also have my appointment with my gynaecologist on Monday, but more around midday (and it always takes ages for them to call you in as they're quite full up, so I expect to sit there for a while).

I am still a little worried, but today the line was so much darker, it's really reassuring. I've decided not to test tomorrow and I guess Monday I might do the last home test, as by now the line is pretty close to as dark as it can get, so I wouldn't be able to see any more progress.
I'm hoping that once I've had the transfusion (and maybe a day or two afterwards) I'll feel safer for the pregnancy again. My husband has held off telling his parents so far but I think a little while after the transfusion I'd be okay if he wants to tell them. I don't think I'm quite ready to tell anyone yet though.

@Omgdnswv yes, I'd assume that +- a few days shouldn't be an issue.
I know how you feel, I.fo7nd it very difficult to share the news. I almost pushed myself to tell close.family and very close friends (found it a bit easier with close friends compared to family), i only did it because i felt like.i had to do it.
Even now that I'm 14 weeks and had my scan, which is the point to start sharing openly, I still feel weird about it. I will do it though because I have started showing and I think people at work have started noticing.
It's so personal, and we've been through so much to get where we are that it almost doesn't feel real to us (at least that's how.i feel), it's hard to go out there and start sharing news for which you're holding your breath and are worried that something might go wrong.
Do as you feel and share your news when you're ready, it will.be the best for your mental health, last thing you want, is extra pressure.

@OrientalPinkLily it's strange that it feels easier with friends, I have the same. But then in my mind it's family that should know first, so if I think about when I might tell friends (one is visiting this month and if morning sickness kicks in properly by then he would know anyway) and then I feel like I have to tell my mum first.
I would have thought that I'd tell my mum first, but the last time she visited (she lives abroad and only visits once a year but then for several months split between the family members) it almost felt a bit much as she was often making this big deal of "very carefully broaching the difficult subject of how are things going" and it just felt a bit much.
All I know is that I'll probably let work know quite soon, as they might need to make adjustments for pregnancy., and I'll tell my grandparents very late, because my grandma is a very anxious and somewhat overbearing person and I do not need that when I'm still worried about things.

@Omgdnswv i did tell my mum first just because I feel like I have to. And it feels right to be honest. She is constantly asking me now when am I going to find out the gender . I will not find out but im not telling her 😁 she will put lots of pressure on me if I tell her I won't find out. So, I'll just leave it vague.
We know our relationships with people and that determines who and how we'll share our news with.

@OrientalPinkLily i had my transfusion this morning, all good there, although she suggested to come on a Tuesday in the future as Monday mornings are very busy.
At my gynaecologist appointment they took urin and quite a few blood samples, the doctor felt for the uterus and then actually did an ultrasound "just for herself to see where it is", which probably is true, but could also be her being kind and letting patients have an extra glimpse (normally you wouldn't have a scan this early).
So now I have a picture of a black spot within which there's a tiny smudge (0.11cm) which I can't even remember if she said it was the baby or the sack that nourishes the baby until the placenta develops. She calculated the due date as the 4th of April instead of the 6th, but said that it's very difficult to get an accurate measurement this early.
Next appointment in 2 weeks

@Omgdnswv amazing! It all sounds really good, wish you a smooth, boring pregnancy!
I had a midwife and doctor appt yesterday. They've given me every medication for pregnant women on earth. With it being a twin pregnancy, ivf and my age, it all comes as high risk. I'm taking aspirin, started anti clot injections, I'm on iron tablets.
After the 20 week scan, I'll be having scans very often, every 2 weeks for sure and depending how the twins are, maybe even more frequently. Anyhow, I'll do what I have to do and it's all good!

@OrientalPinkLily that sounds so stressful, but at least all those scans will be very reassuring that everything is still looking good inside.
I'm really hit with exhaustion in mornings and evenings and nausea definitely in the mornings and sometimes till the afternoon. I am struggling to even take my Vitamin D without feeling sick.

I told work today and from now on work will be very boring as apparently almost every task is classified as a "risk to the unborn life" (mostly it's just close contact with several thousand little kids each day, so high risk of catching something nasty off them) so my future shifts will all be in a control booth operating the doors and start and stop of a carousel. It'll be very boring, but I should be able to listen to audiobooks there and I can snack throughout to avoid the empty stomach type of nausea.
I'm glad I only work irregularly at a mini job, I don't think I would have been capable to do a 5 day week recently.

@Omgdnswv I'm happy to.be monitored so closely to.be honest. At the end of the day, its only for a few months and it's best for babies and me.
Oh you've started feeling it, I really hope all symptoms will disappear once you enter the second trimester. These past couple days, I'm feeling very well, still tired but more energy, which is a good sign!
Oh your job is changing significantly, that's fine, you will have tome to focus on your bump 😊 I work 6 days a week, corporate business, 9-5 job and I'm also managing people and programme, so I have to be present almost all the time. It is exhausting. I can't complain much though as work is very understanding and I have been starting late in the morning, finishing early with no issues at all.

@OrientalPinkLily how have you been?
I was feeling quite rough for a while with the nausea but got a B6 thing from the pharmacy that has really helped.
Yesterday I had another appointment at my gynecologist (7weeks+0) and DH and I could see the little flutter of the heartbeat! Baby was 6.7mm long and she would have measured it at 6weeks+3, but then again it's quite difficult to be accurate this early. I've been given my mother's pass, which is a little booklet with all the relevant medical info like blood types, immunities, blood pressures, scan info, etc and they scheduled the next appointments for the entire rest of the year. I've also been given lots of flyers with info on things like the NIPT test and such.

Have you bought any baby things yet? You said you wanted to wait until the scan to make sure it was still twins.

Do you want to maybe switch to chatting on WhatsApp? Given this is a group of just the two of us really. I'm not 100% sure how to send a private message on mumsnet but if you send me one I'd get the notification and could then send you my number

@OrientalPinkLily hope everything is okay with you

@Omgdnswv I'm so sorry, for some reason I was notified of your messages and last minute we booked holiday for 3 weeks! We just came back.
I had my 20 week scan too, all looks good so far. I just have too many appointments with health professionals. I'm doing well and I will start buying some stuff for babies soon
How are you doing? I tried to private message you but can't find you unfortunately, I'd like to continue chatting elsewhere.