BFPs after IVF in September

[teampacey]

Hi all!

Thought I would start a new thread for the next stage of our journey.

@Daniki @Lucymorris @Natasha90 @PurpleRayne89 @xMrsxHx87x @YellowTack

If I've missed anyone I'm really sorry and please join us!

Hello everyone,

Good to hear news from @teampacey @Mochistory @xMrsxHx87x !

I still have the worst food aversions, it’s so difficult to eat healthy when all I can stomach is pasta and cheese (and cake of course).

I am still very anxious about the baby measuring too small, I have done a tone of research and nothing was reassuring about embryos measuring more than a week late. I have a scan planned this Friday, when I will be exactly 9 weeks. I am counting the days until the scan, but at the moment I am guarding my heart, I am very much in limbo and will wait for the scan results before (hopefully) being excited again.

Wishing all the best to your scan on Friday @YellowTack !

@teampacey Thanks for asking. My sickness is awful. It’s morning to night and actual vomiting. I’m sick around 5-6 times a day. I have anti sickness tablets which worked for around 2 days and now I’m back to square one. I’m losing my mind. I really hope it stops at my second trimester as I can’t do this for 9 months 😔

@YellowTack good luck for the scan on Friday, let us know how you get on.

@PurpleRayne89 I know you've probably tried all the usual stuff but a couple of suggestions- travel bands, ginger biscuits, eating small and often, little packs of crackers to nibble on through the day.
Are you keeping anything down? You can always speak to your midwife- some places have a day unit for rehydration and stronger anti-emetics, in others you might need to be admitted. Not much fun for you but generally it's seen as a positive sign. Lots of hormones!

@YellowTack good luck for Friday, will be thinking of you

How is everyone?

im 10 weeks today and booked a last minute scan as we want to tell some people this weekend (we don’t see them often) and I know there will be a lot of fuss (positive fuss!). So I want to be able to relax more with some recent reassurance. Can’t wait ❤️

Hi @Sierra26 10 weeks so exciting! It just the loveliest news to share isn't it!

I'm 7+1 today and sickness has really hit. Was sick twice this morning, not much just retchjng and bile. Also this taste in my mouth is still awful. I've found grapes are really helping it though. Any juicy fruits! Plus it's making me drink lots of water too.

We have a sneak peek scan on Sunday where they will take my bloods and then we will find out the gender about a week later. I'm not opening it til my birthday at the end of November though! My husband has started getting a bit excited. He was grinning last night when we were talking about it.
It's lovely to have this secret but I'm also desperate to tell my family and the kids too! Saw my dad today and nearly blurted it out haha!

Just back… that was the most incredible thing ever. Baby was going wild! I really hadn’t expected to see any movement and it was dancing around like crazy, we couldn’t stop laughing. Everything looking as it should and actually measuring 10+2 instead of 10.

12 week scan two weeks tomorrow!

@teampacey sorry to hear about your sickness, really hope it passes soon. Very exciting to be almost at gender stage! We want to find out but aren’t in any rush so might wait to see if they can tell us at one of our nhs scans, if they’re willing to. When are you thinking of sharing news with family?

Oh amazing! What a beautiful moment. Does it all feel real now? Yeah you should be able to find out at your anomaly scan. I'm just far too impatient!

I don't mind the sickness too much, it's horrible but it reassures me. I'm not sure what to do about telling people. Our plan was to tell them at Christmas, I have it all planned as a surprise for the kids in their Christmas Eve box (putting in a baby grow with their Christmas pjs) and then telling the family with little scratch cards when they're round on Christmas Eve.

I was going to tell my parents the same time but I'm now thinking about telling them a little earlier. I'm really close to my mum and it's hard not talking to her about it. Plus it's my 40th soon and it's going to be hard hiding not drinking from her! My husband and I briefly discussed it last night and said we'll see how this scan goes on Sunday. I know he will support whatever I want to do.

Unfortunately we got bad news at our scan, the baby had no heartbeat and was still measuring small. We now have to wait until my body decides to miscarry.

I am heartbroken about loosing the baby, I was so grateful that we got a positive after our first cycle after years of infertility. I am also very scared about the miscarriage as I have no idea what to expect.

I want to thank everyone for their support and wish you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy!

Oh @YellowTack oh no. I'm so so sorry. Sending you tons of love. Be kind to yourself. I hope it's a quick and easy process for you xxx

Hello @YellowTack i am so sorry this has happened. Take care of yourself. Sending you all the love in the world xx

@YellowTack so sorry to hear this, what awful news. Please look after yourself xx

Oh @YellowTack I’m so sorry to hear this, this process can be so cruel. Hope you’re able to take some time to yourselves to recover and process this. We’re here if you want to talk xx

Oh @YellowTack I’m so sorry to hear this, this process can be so cruel. Hope you’re able to take some time to yourselves to recover and process this. We’re here if you want to talk xx

Oh @YellowTack i am so sorry to read this 😢 it’s so cruel, and unfair. Please take all the time to grieve and process everything. DM me if you ever want to chat ❤️

Thank you all for your support, it means a lot to me as I haven’t told anyone apart from my partner of course.

Once we have digested the news we will start discussing next steps. I am thinking about potentially doing PGT-A testing next. I know there is no guarantee even with PGT-A tested embryos but if there is anything I can do to prevent being in this situation again I want to do it.

@YellowTack I am sorry to hear your news. It’s truly awful. Hopefully the clinic can discuss next steps and hopefully genetic testing might be one of them. Big hugs x

Hi everyone, thought I'd check in and see how you were all doing. It's been a tough thread to follow at times, so sad to see so many losses and disappointments for many of you. I hope everyone affected is getting the support they need.

For those still going through the process, where are you up to in terms of gestation, appointments and scans? I'm getting a bit antsy about the fact that I'll be 9 weeks on Friday and I still don't have a booking appointment with a midwife lined up. I've called the maternity team twice about this. The first was straight after my viability scan, where I was told the midwife would contact me to arrange the appointment, which would take place before I reached 10 weeks. That was 13 days ago, so I called again today, this time to be told to leave it until I reach 10 weeks, and if I still haven't heard anything by then, to call again. Given I'm meant to have a scan at 12 weeks, this all feels very lax and last minute! Is this normal, or is it just my health authority being slack? I was really hoping to have my 12 week scan on time, as we have a huge event the weekend after I hit 12 weeks, and provided all is well, I'd envisioned that would be the ideal point to let everyone know (I just don't feel comfortable or confident telling anyone until the next scan).

Hi @xMrsxHx87x - echoing what you said, I hope everyone here who experienced disappointment is getting on okay ❤️

Thanks for sharing your update. Which region are you in? I’m in SW London and when I first got my BFP I was so excited that I immediately self referred (per the process here) to two local hospitals while I decided which I wanted to go with. Within a matter of days I got booking appts through from both, and also 12wk scan appts. I cancelled one set when I decided which hospital to go with. I’m sorry you’ve had the opposite experience! Could you ask your GP to help chase things up, or just call the midwife team again? Make a nuisance of yourself if you have to!

My booking appt was two weeks ago at 9wks, and I had bloods taken then. I’m 11 wks tomorrow, and have 12wk scan booked for next Fri when I’ll be 12+1. It was initially booked for the week after but similar to you we want to tell a few friends the day after, if all looks well, and baby is already measuring big so I wanted to get the scan in asap.

let us know how you get on!

@Sierra26 that sounds a very different system to where I am (I'm West Yorkshire)! I was asked to select a hospital when I registered, but I was only allowed to choose one. However, I've been assigned to a midwife team based in a different region to the hospital I requested. It also doesn't specify a hospital or medical centre in my notes (it's all done via an online system), it quite literally just names a district, which happens to be in an area which I know doesn't have any hospital facilities at all. So goodness knows where I'm meant to go for appointments - only time will tell!

I do intend to call again if I don't hear anything, but the fact they told me to leave it until 10 weeks feels very late. The guidance on the online system said to call if no appointment had been offered by 8 weeks, and I've already left it until nearly 9.

It sounds like you've had a much better and efficient experience so far. Best of luck for your 12 week scan - not long to go now!

@xMrsxHx87x interesting how different it all is! I had to register direct with the hospitals so was able to do both before deciding. Really hope you get the appts through soon!

how are you feeling generally?

Ive been SO irritable and tired this week. Looking forward to getting to the 12 week milestone next week, telling people, and stopping my ivf meds (I was fully medicated and on v high dose of both estrogen and progesterone). I’ve really enjoyed every other weekly milestone but this week I just want to skip it as 12 is SO close! 😂

Hello everyone,

It’s nice to hear some positive news from the rest of the September team. I hope your pregnancies are progressing as planned and that the symptoms are manageable.

I have decided to have surgical management of my miscarriage as it’s been almost a week now and nothing has happened. The surgery is scheduled tomorrow, after it I will be relieved and be able to move on and to take the time to properly grieve.

Hi @YellowTack thank you for coming back to update us. I really hope everything goes quickly and easily tomorrow. I wish this hadn't happened to you.

I'm all good. Plodding along. Had an early scan on Sunday and all good. Also had my booking appointment yesterday and then bloods today for my private gender test. Currently 8+1. Next scan on 6th Dec. Planning on telling my parents this weekend as it's my big birthday soon and I just don't think I will be able to hide the not drinking! Telling everyone else in the family at Christmas including the kids and step kids. Don't think my husband's ex wife is going to be too impressed!

Symptoms wise- I've been quite sickly in the mornings and sore boobs but they have eased off slightly after some acupuncture yesterday. I'm still tried and extremely emotional and irritable! Everyone is annoying me today and I feel frustrated and like time is going very slow!

With regards to booking etc- there is a national target, I think it is 10 weeks but sometimes trusts run behind, if you are having the NT screening then you need to have your scan before 13+6. I would imagine you should get your booking appointment through soon.