FET/IVF/ICSI Part 2

[MoonlightDreamer]

As I was replying I realised the thread has reached the limit.
I thought I'd create a new thread for us all to keep in touch.
Please feel free to tag anyone I've forgot

@lauralozzle
@meliss
@thinkpink37
@luckypineapple
@ivfkinster
@babyplease23
@lolly2507
@4thcyclelucky
@marshk
@user491
@kitt86
@Hopingforno2in2023
@woaaaahnelly
@rosesinbloom19
@millie89xx

@Hopingforno2in2023 14 th but I’ve booked an early private one tommoro in a clinic by mine so hopefully this manages to settle my mind I cannot go another week with worry 😭 ah I’m so happy for you that ur app is booked and the wheels in motion much better when there is a plan isn’t there x

@Hopingforno2in2023 it's understandable to have sadness in waves. That's how any grief happens. I hope you're looking after yourself and good that you're trying to be positive in between but it's okay to let yourself feel sad about it now and then. I'm glad you've got your next appointment booked in and hopefully you'll be off to a great start to 2024! 🤞🤞

Was it an internal scan @LuckyPineapple ? That wait is so long even if it actually isn't. I was told by the early pregnancy unit nurse yesterday that days = pixels. So if they measure 1-2 pixels out you end up 2-4 days ahead or behind! Such tiny tiny measurements. Just millimeters. I think with NHS scans as well their equipment is so old it's not going to be accurate when it's so little so I'd expect our dates to be all over the shop for future scans!

I know it's impossible not to worry but try to take each day as it comes. Baby had a heart beat which is fantastic and a good sign at this stage. My clinic when they did my viability scan didn't give a hoot about how fast it was beating! They said they don't even check when it's that early. Which was interesting.

Finally (sorry for banging on) I referred to the midwife service immediately after my viability scan and STILL haven't heard back and their deadline to contact me was Sunday. You could try to contact the community midwives associated with your local hospital to ask what they'd recommend so you get your scan on time? The ones in my area were super helpful. They also told me the dating scan can happen anytime between 11 weeks 4 days and 14 weeks 2 days and not to panic if it wasn't at 12 weeks.

Glad you saw a heartbeat @LuckyPineapple. measurements seems to vary so much in the first weeks so try not to worry too much.

Good luck for tomorrow @Millie89xx!

Thanks @IVFKinster, you are right that it is ok to be sad sometimes. I am making sure to eat properly, exercise and do things I enjoy :)

@MoonIightDreamer @IVFKinster @Hopingforno2in2023 Thank you for your replies. It helps me feel a bit more reassured. I just felt that there was a cloud put on what was a beautiful thing... that we saw our baby and the heartbeat 💓

@IVFKinster It really is interesting that different clinics do different things re heart rate etc, and that the slightest change in measurements can mean such a date change. Hopefully midwife services get back to you soon. That is very frustrating.

@MoonIightDreamer I've found a form online from my hospital Trust area, so I'm going to ring them tomorrow to see if they can help with me being inbewteen GP's. It asks for GP details so hopefully they can shed some light on that.

@Hopingforno2in2023 That's great you have a date. Fingers crossed for Jan/Feb 24 🤞🏻

@Millie89xx Good luck for you scan tomorrow 🤞🏻

@LuckyPineapple I think were going to just pay for a private scan around Christmas so we don't have to rush registering for a few more days.
The main dilemma were facing is the hospital we would normally go to has staff shortages. They even suspended emergency surgeries and were worried should there be any complications, which given the fact ill be 38 when baby is born it raises the risk. I've heard fresh ivf babies are also usually premature. I worry they won't have the staff capable of dealing with such an event. They slashed their neo natal beds too.
The other hospital isn't where we would normally go , it's a blood nightmare to get to and it's really busy. If I went into labour I'd be walking miles just to bloody get to hospital as parking is atrocious. Its wards so means my partner can't stay the night whereas our hospital is all private rooms. They also don't have a birthing pool which our hospital does. Water birth is always how i envisioned giving birth. I think it would be a safer option tho with regards to complications and i know I'm being stupid and should put the safety of our baby first. I just find it really hard to think about something that seems to far away in the future. All I'm concentrating on right now is trying to get to 12 weeks and hope everything is OK. Planning beyond that is difficult but it's the fact we can't switch hospitals once registered. At my rate of going it'll probably be a roadside birth .I just can't seem to get myself together. I think I have brain fog. I struggle to concentrate on anything these days .I think you shouldn't have to decide on a hospital until you've had an appointment and been able to discuss your concerns with a midwife

@MoonIightDreamer completely agree. I'm just trying to get through the 1 trimester hopefully 🙏🏻 Absolutely terrified now after yesterday and measurements to be honest. It's played on my mind since then which has really annoyed me. I phoned today my local hospital just to see how it would work with my issue of GP's but in fairness to the person I spoke to, she give me a contact number for early pregnancy advice in my area because I explained my anxiety. I just wish I could settle. I feel the anxiety is not helping me or baby. Which is a vicious cycle!

Hey girls hope everyone is keeping well! Scan went well last night seen little bean and a flickering heartbeat all in the right place couldn’t explain the relief ! I was 6.2 yday but measuring 5.6 which was random but apparently that’s common with ivf? I have my viability scan next Thursday so hopefully measuring back on track! The tiredness has hit an all time high now I am absolutely drained all day long I live for getting into bed anyone else ???

@LuckyPineapple I'm sorry you're still feeling really anxious. It's understandable. Your anxiety absolutely cannot hurt the baby. I found talking to an early pregnancy nurse really eased my anxiety even though she told me things I already knew, so give that a number a call as it could really help. Saying over and over again to myself "right now I am pregnant" and saying little positive things to the baby. It just distracts and grounds me.

@Millie89xx congratulations on your positive scan. I've seen people who have been off kilter on the dates until their dating scan! I thought my tiredness couldn't get any worse but since getting to 8 weeks I have felt so dead I've been crying at night from being so tired! Surprisingly brutal!

@IVFKinster I got speaking with an early pregnancy nurse yesterday and explained it all to her and my anxiety around the scan. She was lovely and also told me not to be concerned with it. It has definitely helped. I'm actually quite annoyed with my clinic because I feel 'some' of the nurses have caused this anxiety and its not even the nurse that did the scan! I would say I'm being over sensitive as well, but sometimes I don't think they realise that patients can literally hang off their every word.

I also do little affirmations every morning. I feel it helps as well. It's good to keep some positive focus.

Great news @Millie89xx! My worst symptom with my DS was the bone crushing tiredness. It was gone by 12 weeks :)

@Hopingforno2in2023 oh that’s a light at the end of the tunnel … the last couple of weeks have been a whirlwind I don’t know if I’m coming or going ha ha how u feeling ?

I’m ok thanks @Millie89xx. Has been a bit of a difficult week with the sadness but am feeling a bit better today. So nervous that the FET won’t work but also excited that it might!

@Hopingforno2in2023 thinking everything positive for you and your next transfer. Hope you manage to enjoy Christmas to relax and reset 🤞🏻

@LuckyPineapple I do the positivity adirmations a bit too! My reflexologist is very spirtual and told me to talk to my womb... absolutely bonkers but I was willing to do everything. So every night when I get into bed I hold my stomach and talk to it in my head (if it was out loud I think my husband would think I had lost the plot 🤪)

@Millie89xx wonderful news on the scan, congratulations 🥰
I was quite far behind on my first one too, and still this one, I'm sure it will all catch up 🙂

We had our second scan yesterday 7+1 and initially it was a nightmare, one was perfect and clear as anything, the second they couldn't find it properly, then couldn't find a heartbeat so was really upsetting. After 25 mins and 2 different doctors.. randomly it just popped right up next to the other with a healthy heartbeat 🥰 I have no idea why or anything.. but so thankful all was well.
One is measuring 6+5 and the other 6+6, they are happy with that so we have graduated from the clinic now 🙂
I was very emotional leaving there yesterday 😭 it's brilliant news but all feels a bit scary!
I've booked a private scan for 2 weeks time and done an online referral for the midwives ☺️

Hope everyone is all ok and Happy Friday ❤️

@User491 That's great news that all is well and you've graduated from your clinic 🎉.
I'm sure that was very difficult waiting for them to find both babies. It's such a nerve wracking thing. I think I went into shock while waiting. The initial waiting to find baby didn't help either I or my partner. Just hope things are good for our next scan 🙏🏻

@Millie89xx Also great news that your scan went well! I'm finding myself very tired too. Definitely need a nap most days when i come home from work and the nausea is worse this week. Particularly bad when I'm really tired. Its bad mid morning, finishing work, and in the evening. Also I'm getting vivid dreams... unreal ones!

@LuckyPineapple thank you 🥰
It's a scary time isn't it, your just waiting for them to say something is wrong 😭
So sorry, I've just flicked back and see your post, I wouldn't let it worry you about the sizes, I'm sure all will be fine 🤞🏻 at least on the 19th you will get the reassurance you need. I read you can't hear the heart beat until after week 8, so it's perfectly normal. I think clinics may measure differently too you know!
Honestly you would think things would get easier, but there's always something else to worry about.

I actually woke up this morning, with a dreadful headache and felt so sick and I said to myself why do I do this to myself... i must have still been half asleep because I thought I was hungover 🙈😂 then I was thinking you idiot 😂😂 I can confirm no alcohol has been consumed 🤣

I went to the gym and come back and ate 2 breakfasts, one was not enough 😂
I'm sickly when hungry, then I eat and it settles it, then I feel sick again... and it's a vicious circle like that on and off all day 🙃
I also haven't cooked a proper meal all week, I can't face it. I'm going to try and make a roast dinner tomorrow with lots of vegetables as I'm eating a lot of beige food 😅

I'm trying not to let the measurements worry me so I stopped googling, and my clinic sent me scan images and a video of our baby so I can see the wee heart beat which really helps me 🥰

I just never know what I want to eat anymore 🙈 My partner always asks me and I never feel like anything but hungry at the same time. I've been really trying to eat my 5 a day. Some days better than others. But I find if I start of with a few fruit things before lunch it starts the day better.

I used to work night shift years ago and I used to get this awful sickly feeling after working all night from tiredness. Now I feel like that during the day and I'm sleeping pretty well at night. So odd. The vivid dreams are pretty intense... some I'd describe more like nightmares!

Hey girls how is everyone ??? @Kitt86 you all set for your scan tommoro ?
how’s everyone feeling I’m not going to lie this is a whirlwind of worry , emosh, happy, scared 😱

Hope the scan went well @Kitt86!

I had my appointment where I signed the paperwork for my FET today. Now just to wait for a letter with medication and dates. Going to try to forget about it until after Christmas.

Hope everyone is well.

@Hopingforno2in2024 ah well that’s nice and positive to concentrate on isn’t it ❤️ how have you been

Has anyone noticed breast soreness dip one day then high the next ? Mine are up and down like a yo yo 🤦‍♀️

Yes @Millie89xx Mine fluctuate throughout the day and night. Worse at night, mainly. I think it's normal for all symptoms to fluctuate.

Hi all.

I hope you're doing well!

Had my FET treatment consultation today and hoping to have it done in January. I asked about Embryo glue and I've been advised it's my choice if I want to go for it.
Did anyone on this thread have this added on? Wanting to weigh up the pros and cons! TIA!

Hi everyone,

How are you all getting on?

@Millie89xx mine are the same, seem worse on a night and my nipples are soooo itchy too 🙈😂

@Kitt86 hope your scan went well 🤞🏻

Scan went well. I have one healthy baby measuring at the correct size and saw it's heartbeat which was incredible. Been referred to midwife.
Hope your all doing good
Apologies for being off the radar I started to have horrendous mental health which isn't something I normally suffer with so it's been super challenging