To ask if you've regretted surrogacy/struggled to bond?

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Posting for traffic the other forums do not get much response.

This is not a thread about the ethics of surrogacy so I'm hoping it doesn't become that.

I'm posting because starting a family myself is becoming a very unlikely route for me and I may have to consider surrogacy.

I'm just concerned about bonding with the child/having regrets so I'd like to know if anyone has had this experience experience?

Thanks in advance

@HowcanIhelp123 yet many, many women are cheated on during pregnancy and don’t feel embarrassed about telling their family they’re pregnant or it affecting the bond they have with their child. This is just another huge issue that surrogacy throws up.

I did, first marriage, I was a teenager and found out he had been sleeping with someone else for months. They slept together in our new marital home the night before the wedding. I was humiliated and I have still never discussed it face to face with anyone, even my now husband. It didn't affect my bond with the baby but it did affect me in pregnancy and I stayed with him for years as I felt stupid and wanted to pretend it never happened. When we did break up all blame was on me as he was so popular and such a lovely man. Even my family sided with him. I felt stupid for getting pregnant with him, stupid for staying with him but to ashamed to leave him and explain why.