IVF April 2023

[charja100]

Hi all,

I'm about to start my first IVF ICSI cycle. I expect to start my stims next week and all being well will have a fresh transfer in April.

Looking for buddies to come on this journey with me.

Thanks, that's great advice re checking what time they do the scans, I'm not far from the clinic so hopefully I'll be able to do on the way in.
Luckily my boss doesn't work in the same building which definitely affords me some more "sneaking time" but he does come over occasionally. It just feels a shame, I got made redundant at the beginning of the year and had told my boss about the situation because I know she would have been supportive, but I just don't think I can do it here!

@Flower356 That's understandable in a new job and you should do what feels less stressful for you. You can always tell them later if it gets too much. All my appointments were before 9 so you may be ok 🤞🏼

Thanks for the advice!

Did you all go back to work the day after egg transfer?
I have my egg collection on Thursday, so nervous, keep having nightmares there are no eggs to collect! does it hurt?

@Ksangha I went back to work the same day of embryo transfer. I took my egg collection off work which was a Friday and took the weekend easy to recover. I was back in at work on the Monday. I work remotely most of the time though so it was easier for me than some.

@Ksangha I took a few days off for egg collection but embryo transfer was easy. Had mine yesterday afternoon and back in work today. I couldn't have gone back to work the day after egg collection but everyone and every procedure is different and I've read that lots of people are fine the next day. If I did it again I would personally plan to be off for a couple of days again just in case.

How is everyone doing in 2ww? I've tested again 8dp5dt and BFN! Do I hold on to hope or accept that its not happening this time?
I'm devastated as I really didn't want to do egg collection again. We had a poor collection last time so will be max dose stims this time round which I'm not looking forward to as I had side effects from the lower dose!
Any positive stories after bfn on 8dp5dt?

Also my clinic don't do the beta test they just ask you to do HPT on day 11 and then if positive a transvaginal ultrasound 3 to 4 weeks later

Thanks @April623 i have to go back to work the day after egg collection, as my colleague is off for an operation! Hopefully il just take it slightly easy 🤞🏼
last day of injections today 🙌🏼🙌🏼

@Flower356 I told my manager prior to me starting IVF, purely because my colleague was going off on mat leave around the time I was due to start and I wanted this to encourage them to get cover for her instead of leaving it all to me! She has been super understanding and the only time I used holidays for was egg collection and transfer as full days off, she was fine with me taking time for appointments.

@Ksangha all the very best for collection on Thursday! I took the full day off for collections, they recommend it at my clinic and its nice to be able to rest and nap later on. But I was fine for working the next day, albeit from home. Just take it easy :) Embryo transfer was totally fine although I had the day off as we drove home straight after (6 hour drive).

@MRSLMF i'm really sorry to hear you are still getting negatives :( I would test again on your OTD of 11dp transfer as that's still a few days away. Really hope things turn around for you xxx

@MRSLMF I am in 2ww aswell but only had my transfer yesterday so I have a long way to go! Getting lots of cramps which I know is to be expected but is still a bit worrying.

Sorry you are testing negative, perhaps it's a bit soon? My clinic advised to test 14 days after transfer but I won't be able to wait that long. I am the same as you, no blood test just at home pregnancy test followed by scan 2-3 weeks later. I have no prior experience to share as this is my first try.

Hi all, sorry I've been MIA for the past week, my mental heath has been rock bottom. I had to step away from socials and just focus on getting through each day.

I know it's 'quality over qty' with embryos but we are the other way around, producing poor quality and miscarrying them. So I just needed to step away for a bit as I've been finding it incredibly difficult with the PGT-A wait and hating my body for not working 😔 AF arrived yesterday and I've got mega PMS too, I'm crying one minute and shouting the next 😫

Sorry I've not been here to support you all, I hope you're all OK and I will read back on what I've missed soon. Sending love ❤️

@VioletCookie feel for you. I am going to have to do the pgta wait too and i can imagine i will be the same. Its so hard all of it. Keep strong x

@MRSLMF my clinic also don't do Beta, I have a HPT to do on my OTD which is May 2nd.

@Ksangha I think I could have gone back to work the day after egg collection. As you say, just make sure to take it easy.

@MRSLMF everything I've read, from posts on here and stories online on other forums says you're definitely not out until OTD. And in fact most people don't get a BFN until at least 9dp5dt so you're definitely not out! Implantation can happen 1-5 days after transfer so if you had late implantation then you wouldn't be producing enough HCG right now to get a BFP. Don't lose hope. You're definitely not out yet.

@VioletCookie sending you hugs, I've been wondering if you were okay. No need to apologise you need to do what's best for you in this emotional journey. We're here for you when you need it though so don't worry about being away and then popping back if that's what you need 🤗💕

@everyone Sorry I've also been a bit quiet the last couple of days I've been a bit anxious too tbh. I'm now 6dp5dt and I have been spotting and bleeding for 2 days now. It got so much heavier today and instead of being dark brown has switched to being more red. I wasn't initially too worried as was thinking it's old blood and could possibly be implantation bleeding. But as today it became much heavier and more red I called the clinic. They didn't seem too worried and just told me bleeding is common and they told me to try inserting my pessaries rectally instead of vaginally in case it's causing irritation. They said it isn't a sign either way and that I need to be patient... so hard!!! I'm also finding it hard not to lose hope as it feels like AF is coming. But trying to stay positive as it just seems way to early for that!

@VioletCookie i have been thinking about u... Soo sorry to hear that 😞. It's soo tough. I'm sure your emotions are all over the place... Are u in work at the moment??. Iv been finding it difficult being back in work putting on a brave face. We are always all here for a virtual chat and support whenever u need it xxx

@charja100 that's very stressful for u.... But fingers crossed it is just implantation bleeding as wud be around the right time.... Bit early for Ur period ?? 🙏🤞🤞🤞

@VioletCookie no need to apologise at all, we all I'm sure understand the need to step away, I definitely do ❤️ we are all here for you when and if you want to chat, look after yourself, sending love xxx

@charja100 I'm sorry that sounds incredibly stressful. I'm glad you called the clinic and I hope they were able to reassure you a little with them saying they weren't too worried. Patience is the hardest thing in the tww! But not long now until your OTD! I know it's hard but try and keep the hope, and I hope that changing your pessaries to rectally will help 🤞🏻 thinking of you and have everything crossed xxx

Thanks ladies. Definitely had a bad night last night: feeling a little more composed today. I've woken to to red flow and an almost full pad this morning so that's me out this transfer.

Now I just want to know why I didn't even get towards the end of the TWW. Nurses calling at some point today so let's see what they say.

@charja100 Really sorry to hear you are going through this. I have no experience to speak of being my first time but is it definitely game over? The notes my clinic gave me say that some women bleed heavily and it still works out but I understand you probably don't want to hold too much hope when things are not looking good. Hopefully the nurse will be able to give you some advice when they call. It's natural to want some sort of explanation, I would be exactly the same. Thinking of you x

@April623 also my first time with everything so it's all quite raw. It's definitely game over AF came in force last night. Just waiting for the nurse to call to discuss next steps. I'm just gutted we didn't even get to OTD. It was only 6dp5dt and it was my very best embryo and was hatching. I'm gutted and today is hubbies birthday and I just want to crawl into bed and cry. So bloody hard.

@charja100 So sorry 😞 be kind to yourself the next couple of days x

@charja100 I'm so sorry, my reply first thing was very badly timed 😞 I'm absolutely gutted for you, and send so much love ❤️ and I'm also really sorry it's your hubby's birthday whilst you are both dealing with this. I hope the nurse calls soon. Look after yourself xxx

@Jx3303 that's okay. Thank you for taking the time to reply and for being here to listen. It helps just to be able to talk to you wonderful ladies about it all. It's hard, but I'll be okay. Just so typical it had to fall today isn't it. Life can be cruel. Xx

I'm sorry @charja100 ☹️ it's such a tough journey x