IVF warriors - the journey continues 2

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@Decaffe
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@MinBins
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@MammyandAva
@Spin101
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@KLM25
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Omg @Honeybunie soooo happy for you! Keeping everything crossed for you x x

Such wonderful news @Decaffe enjoy the newborn stage - what lovely news day today!

thank you so much @MinBins 🥰🥰

@KLM25 the past few days have been interesting. I was really calm and didn’t want to test early. And it was okay. Kept myself busy. I was dreading today tbh because I was worried to be ripped out of my hopeful little bubble again and to have to start all over. I wasn’t expecting it but I was a lot more positive because the transfer day went so well. you know I did actually think I might be pregnant the last few days. Not that I was sure or would’ve told OH but there were a few small signs. In every normal cycle my boobs hurt a week before my period. They did exactly the same again this time, last week. It got better towards the weekend but they still felt a bit sensitive and swollen which made me wonder. I also started taking my temperature in the mornings and it had been going up and the last three days it had been relatively high and consistent. And you know I have to take one oestrogen tablet vaginaly. I noticed 2-3 days ago that the tissue had gotten all soft and my cervix had moved!
Obvs it could’ve just all changed back today and period started but I did think the last few days it was possible 😊 funny eh?! I had no cramps or any other symptoms down there. Tbh and tmi but I have been very constipated since starting the meds so I wouldn’t even know what it was it if I had a cramp down there 😂😂
Yes we’re going away around the same time 😊 that’ll be so nice for you. I’ve got a big rucksack I need never use anymore I wish I could just give it to you 😅 yeah I agree you need clever packing and to think everything through to make it as easy and manageable as possible for you 😊 sure you’re a packing pro. Just a new kinda challenge for you 😁
God I can’t tell my mum we’re going away next week. She’d lose her …. She thinks there’s x rays flying through planes and it will damage the baby 🙄 she’s been telling me after every transfer 🙄🙄 so I won’t tell her now 😂 bless her.
We’re just in the clinic picking up meds. I managed to speak to the nurse in person and ask her what I need to do in terms of registering my pregnancy. She said to ring my local antenatal ward or gp if they need a referral first. She said I can do that right away and may as well to be on the system and get my week 12 scan booked it. How exciting 🤩 she said I might also get offered tests and stuff which I might want to take up 😊 so that was nice 😊
Oh I can’t wait to start feeling sick 🤭🤭😂😂😂 xx

@Honeybunie oh no, the stress of the meds and having enough stocks 🤦‍♀️😂 Glad you’ve seen the pharmacist and they’ve reassured you. I’m sure it wouldn’t have made any difference as you’ve built up a level of it already but we can’t help but worry ha ha.
It sounds like your clinic are on top of things with getting your supplies in, that’s brilliant. I’m really so pleased for you ❤️😊
No, no, don’t listen to me, I think it’s the exception rather than the rule to have a blood test, it was only my clinic in Prague that ever needed one (a real kick in the teeth having to pay for that, when you’d had a negative test and already knew you weren’t pregnant 🤦‍♀️). The Spanish clinic just went by the home pregnancy test and I get the impression that most UK ones do too. They’re so accurate that I don’t think there’s any real need for a blood test, that’s what the GP would say anyway.
I signed up with the midwife at this stage first time round and then with Lara, I waited until I’d had the 7 week scan, I don’t think it really matters. So exciting!
Really glad you’re feeling relaxed, that’s the best way to be, such a lovely special time 🥰😊 x

@Honeybunie omg I am sooooooooo happy for you!! You’ve had a whirlwind of a journey and I have thought about you recently even though I haven’t kept in contact! ❤️

I hope they’ve prescribed you all the progesterone you need!

Sorry it was so stressful with the blood thinners! Hope you have everything you need now and can find time to relax and enjoy it all.

@Decaffecongratulations!!! I hope you’re loving motherhood ❤️

@KLM25 how are you??? How is your elder one loving having a sibling?

DD is 6 months. I don’t know where the time has gone!!

Completely feel this.

I have PCOS and likewise have been actively approaching my GPs since 32 trying to get further info about fertility situ.

Knowing what I do now I find it incredible how blasé the attitude is – oh well, if it’s not causing issues right now then never mind – infrequent periods?? Enjoy!

Thank you so much @Spin101 ❤️❤️ means a lot 🤗
yes I got all my meds sorted yesterday. Got three weeks worth to get me to the scan on 30 October. I am so happy and excited. I did not sleep until half 2 😳in my head I'm planning everything through. I'm terrible. But then I'm also having thoughts of what if I lose it before. The rate atm is like 25% isn't it. that's one in four. I know I can't think like that but you do whether you want to or not don't you. maybe I shouldn't be so happy in case it goes wrong. maybe I'd jinx it. I'm sure you all know the thoughts and feelings that go through your head at this point... must try and put it aside and stay positive. which I am, but you do have some bad thoughts whether you want to or not.
Oh I'm so happy your little one is 6 months already. I bet you're loving every minute after the journey you've had ❤️

@KLM25 yes the home tests are so good these days they don't need to do a blood test anymore. pretty amazing isn't it.
I've just got the number for the midwifes. but I'm wondering when to call. I don't think they do anything until week 8 anyway. So wondering if there's any point calling now in case things go wrong. The only thing I'm wondering about is a flu jab. I think I'd like to have one asap. Did you get one? Wondering how to go about that.
Oh also can I ask your advice about taking meds in hand luggage please? I obvs need to take my needles and Lubion to Corfu. I read it is okay to take these in the hand luggage, but I'm just wondering how that works in reality. Are security staff likely going to be nice or arsy about carrying needles? Just thinking I don't want to have to worry about this when we fly out. maybe I should just buy a check in bag to ease my mind.. thank you 🤗xx

@Honeybunie Really glad you got all your meds sorted 🙌😊
I never had any trouble with Lubion/Clexane and needles at airport security and this was Heathrow, Prague and Barcelona so hopefully that should be representative. I just put them in a separate clear plastic bag and told them before they went through the x ray machine. I had a letter from my clinic but no one ever asked to see it, they didn’t bat an eyelid tbh.

I didn’t have a flu jab in the end, but only because it was March by the time I found myself getting round to it. The midwife just told me to ring the GP surgery and make an appt for it (and a Covid jab too, I think you’re eligible for that if you want it). So I don’t think it matters if you’ve not registered with the midwife yet, you could just tell the receptionist you’re pregnant and have the jabs first. You might wait a while for a midwife appt, I think I was almost 12 weeks before they fitted me in. I think they were quite busy, I suppose it depends on your area.

It’s great that you’re feeling excited ❤️😊 You should be. I know the negative thoughts can creep in but every day is taking you closer! I used to watch these videos on YouTube called Channel Mum as every week passed and it always felt like a little milestone each time ❤️ I would look forward to it on a Thursday ☺️ x

@KLM25 thank you for the advice! I haven't got a letter from the clinic.. not sure I can be bothered with the hotline hassle to get one.. I might just buy a small suitcase for peace of mind. We only have one small hand luggage suitcase between us anyway. And then I don't have to worry, which I think I would 😅
It does sound easy to get a flu jab on the NHS website, but they don't make it easy.. the bloody receptionist at the GPs really annoyed me yesterday. First I rang to see if they can refer me to the local midwifes and she gave me their phone number. then i also asked about a flu jab. It sounded like the lady was just looking at an info poster or something and said yes yes you can get a flu jab when you're pregnant. but said she wasn't sure at what week. She said I should ask the midwife... i already thought to myself the internet said anytime during your pregnancy and that it is recommended. re registering with the midwife i already thought i might wait until after my week 7 scan, because there is no point in case that scan goes wrong. but i did want to know about the flu jab. so i had OH ring the midwife and ask. She said yes they recommend it and as soon as possible. so i rang the receptionist again to tell her what the midwife said. She said okay.. and then asked me what week I am??!! I said week 4 and I properly had the feeling she was judging me for why the hell I was asking for a flu jab already that early on. I felt like a proper second class pregnant person. god i was annoyed. and then she turns around and offers me the first possible appointment for in 3 weeks time???!!! I could not believe it! Why even ask me what week I'm in when you have to wait three weeks anyway? you may as well have had your baby by then 😠 god i was fuming. these receptionists are a law to themselves or think they know it all. but didn't have a clue obvs. it annoys me so much that they can play the gatekeeper to services that you are entitled to! so i thought f it, I'm going to the pharmacy and pay for one, so that's what I did today. not feeling fluy yet, hope it stays that way. yeah i would get the covid one too, but not keen on ringing in again and be treated like a second class citizen again. and they are way more expensive i think. so I'll wait for that one or ask OH to ring in for me. he's way better with people haha.
My head has calmed down again after the news and i could sleep again last night lol. still have to pinch myself though. proper happy 😊proud that my body got to that stage ❤️ I was getting worried if I would ever get an implantation so it's nice to have the confirmation that things do work 😊yeah you're totally right and I'm now trying to remind myself that every day that passes I'm heading in the right direction and to enjoy every day at the same time, not just wish the time away to Week 7. I can't change whatever will be anyway. so got to be grateful for where I am. and hopefully I'll get some symptoms soon for reassurance ❤️
yes I've also discovered a website that i really like that tells you what's going on each week. what to expect. i like their due date calculator as it includes ivf. and yes I'm obsessed with reading what's going on in each week 😄
I hope you have a lovely weekend. have you got anything nice planned? you're probably packing for your trip? I'm planning to start packing a few things already over the weekend, which I usually don't do. but i want to be prepared esp with my meds lol. before the positive test i wasn't too strict with my meds and timing but now I'm on it 😄xx

@Honeybunie ah so exciting you have a trip planned! Hope you get to relax and the needles get through fine! GP receptionists can be so useless at times. I’m always grateful when I speak to nice ones!!! Glad you’ve got the flu vaccine now. I declined the covid vaccine 🙈 as I didn’t know much about it and the impact but it’s probably best to have it. Good apps I used were what to expect and Emma’s diary

@Spin101 thank you for the reassurance 😊 I saw they have sharps bins in plane toilets so it mustn’t be a problem. Yeah I think the long weekend away comes just at the right time. I thought the weekend would take my mind off things a bit but it hasn’t really. I’m googling way too much 🤦‍♀️ so the trip will help pass a few days I hope. Thanks for the app tips I’ve downloaded the Emma one now too. Think what to expect is my favourite so far 😊 hope you’re well too and had a nice weekend xx

@Spin101 Just realised I never replied! All good thanks. She’s 3 months now, lots of smiles and some very cute baby noises which have started in the last week or two. It feels like she’s trying to communicate with us, which is so nice ❤️ Her brother is very sweet with her so that’s been a big relief. He’s not shown any negativity at all. He’s just very protective over his toys and is even claiming ownership over the very few that she has 🤦‍♀️ So we need to work on that 😆

@Honeybunie How are you doing? How was Corfu?! Friends of mine have just flown back from there today and the photos looked amazing so I’m sure you had a great time.
Sorry I never replied before, it was all a bit crazy in the run up with packing etc. I was so worried that we’d be able to carry everything but also worried we’d forgotten something!
We left at 4am to get to LHR and 15 mins into the journey I suddenly said - ‘Babycarrier’!!! We’d left it in the house. So we turned round and when we got back there, our little boy said ‘I want my shoes’ - we’d left those at home too 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😂😂 We’d put him in the car in his pyjamas straight from bed 🤦‍♀️😆
So it turned out that I did need to worry about forgetting something 😝
Anyway, things went more smoothly after that - the kids were little angels on the flights there and back. We got the train ok with a bit of rushing, and the appt was nice and spacious. The weather could have been better, but we had about a day and a half of sun out of 4 days and it was warmer than here. All in all, it went quite well and we made some lovely happy holiday memories.

Hope all went well with your meds and the travelling etc and you had a lovely relaxing time x

@KLM25 helloooo :) glad you had a lovely little holiday and made precious memories. forgetting the baby carrier and not putting shoes on your little boy is just hilarious 😂love that he let you know after you had to return home for the carrier haha. that's a great story haha. I guess you can try and prepare as much as you like, but packing for two little ones and leaving in the middle of the night you're bound to forget something 😂yeah we had the same with the weather - it could have been better which was a shame! We had overcast for the three full days we were there. only managed to go to the beach on the Thursday and lounge a bit and have A swim - that was it. I thought I had packed enough warm stuff, but I could have done with more lol. We also got ill during our trip, or OH was ill already. So he got ill Monday last week, nothing too crazy, but sore throat and weak and sweaty. Because of that he didn't cope very well in my friends' flat, because of their dog. The dog wasn't there and my friend cleaned everything, but it's always there anyway. Had he been fit, he would have survived it better with his inhalers and anti histamine. but because he was already ill he got worse. He went to the doctors this Wednesday, and he has a chest infection as always. so he's on antibiotics and steroids. And I caught whatever he had last week on the Thursday night (last week). sore throat, then a cold and cough. And i didn't sleep very well in Corfu which did not help. So coming back the cough got worse as always. not slept much at night this week as I'm keeping myself up all night. so I'm just groggy as hell. it's getting better now but it's taking it's time.. OH forced me to the doctors yesterday too. i have no chest infection! just a viral infection which I need to sit out. I could have told OH that, but there we go. guess we were both a bit worried about the baba too. it says coughs don't harm them at all, but you do worry don't you. I also naively didn't think to realise that I can't have any cold and flu meds. I've been using my nasal spray since starting the meds every night since my nose blocked as soon as I lay down! so i stopped that now. I also took a decongestant on Monday and only afterward read the info saying not for pregnant women. We both had a minor meltdown and i tried to make myself sick which did not work 😂what drama. OH called the midwife and she said not to worry! 😂so since then I'm on copious amounts of tea, inhale with olbas oil several times a day, two pillows to sleep, nasal rinse 😫and manuka honey. so I'm slowly getting better now thank god. some nights I only slept like 5hrs and was up for 2.5hrs which was pure torture.
apart from that the wait has been a bit of a rollercoaster too of course. My only symptom so far has been sore boobs, which comes and goes. it is quite reassuring when it's there. but then when it isn't I start worrying. like my boobs didn't hurt over the weekend and I was very worried by Monday. So i decided to do another test. I wasn't gonna do any and wait, but what the heck. luckily it was very reassuring. the test line is very dark now and the control line very faint and i didn't even use my morning urine. so that put my mind at ease big time. the sore boobs came back as well the next day. And they are definitely a little bigger and feel heavy when they are sore. i also had super sensitive nips the other day, felt like razors. no other symptoms than that otherwise. not long until our scan next week now. I'll probs be an emotional wreck whichever way it goes. trying to prepare myself for the worse but am hoping and praying for the best 🙏xx

@KLM25 Hello 🙋
We had our week 7 scan yesterday and everything went perfectly well ❤I was so glad the wait was finally over. I felt like I had been holding my breath for days and was quite nervous just before the scan. I couldn't even talk properly with the staff. I just needed to see what was going on down there 😅and luckily we did not have to wait long for the good news. Everything is perfect. Baby is settled in perfectly, everything is in its place and the heart was beating like crazy 😍I just broke into tears at the relief. And OH cried because I was crying haha. Beautiful haha. Baby is measuring spot on as well. We were 7+2 yesterday and baby measured 7+3 😊The staff was so sweet as well. The chaperone was happy for us as she recognised us from many earlier and more disappointing visits 😊
I didn't quite allow myself to speak of myself as pregnant in the past 3 weeks or to dream too much. I think OH was the same. Now I feel like I can actually say it out loud and OH too which is lovely 😊I just rung and registered with the midwife too. So it's all the more real and exciting. I know we have a few more weeks to wait and a few tests to sit out now, but I'm feeling positive and very happy ❤We just went to tell OH's mum. She was a blubbering mess and probably will be for the rest of the day 😅
Hope everyone else is happy and well too xx

@Honeybunie I am so so happy to hear that ❤️😊 That’s absolutely wonderful news. I was the same with the scan for our little girl, I burst into tears with the relief. It’s a massive milestone and it sounds like everything is going perfectly. Lovely that you could tell your OH’s Mum too, I’m sure the whole family will be over the moon for you ❤️
Hope you’re feeling better from the virus - it’s hard when you just can’t take a lemsip! All worth it though and I’m sure you don’t care.
All ok here just a bit hectic. We’ve got a water leak in the kitchen coming from the mains pipe apparently so that’s been a bit stressful. The joys of buying a house that needs renovating!
My brother’s over from the US at the minute so that’s lovely as my Dad’s really not too well.
When’s your midwife appt? And did you get your flu jab sorted in the end? Let me know how it all goes. I’m really so happy for you both ❤️🥰 x

@KLM25 thank you for much for your lovely words and support 😊❤️ means a lot. I am so so sorry to hear that your dad is not well. How is he doing? I hope you're still having a nice time with your brother despite your dad being unwell.
It was lovely to tell OH's mum. She is very excited. We also told OH's eldest daughter, as she lives with OH's mum, and OH's mum needs someone she can talk to about it 😂his daughter was also super excited. We haven't told his other two daughters yet. I didn't want to tell them yet, as I'm worried they'll tell their mum, and then she tells everybody out of spite or something like that. And I don't want it going around before we get a chance to tell people. but we drilled it into his eldest daughter to keep it quiet! I think we can trust her lol. the other two live further away anyway (uni and with their mum) so we don't see them much. we'll tell them after the week 12 scan / before Christmas.
I had my midwife appointment pretty quickly. She rang on Saturday and we had the appointment on Monday 😊she is super nice and chatty. she took both our medical history and gave us loads of info. I guess it would have been the same at your first appt. We will get a letter in the post with our Week 12 scan date in the hospital. Week 12 starts on 2 December, so not that far away. That's also the day I can stop all my medication yay 😃And then I have another appointment with the midwife on 30 December where she'll give me all the results from the tests at the Week 12 scan. Everything seems to go and progress quite quickly all of the sudden, it's mad 😊8+4 today 😊
Just got over my cough too. and only just started to sleep better again and through the night. I think the tiredness is kicking in now. I slept nearly 9hrs the past few nights and I have naps in the afternoon. I had to go into work Tuesday and Wednesday for meetings. I managed to nap on three chairs put together on Tuesday afternoon 😂I do not have any nausea which I'm grateful about. let's hope it stays that way. I haven't really got food aversions or cravings, but I do fancy very plain foods atm. and my energy levels seem pretty low at the moment. and I feel dizzy a lot. but yeah overall I can't complain 😊
Had a friend and her 5 months old baby girl visit on Sunday. I hadn't seen her in years even tho she lives two minutes up the road. We are both hermits really lol. It's so nice seeing friends and babies and not feeling down about it. I told her as well and she was so happy for us. And I bought her baby girl the cutest navy corduroy dress 😍reversible with a checked pattern on the inside. my friend loved it. Her baby can wear that for Christmas hehe. I also have an old school friend in Germany who's due in February around our 40th birthdays. It's so crazy that we are pregnant at the same time. Never thought I'd be in that situation. I always thought we'd have to go again and again and I'd be 42/3 before I get pregnant if I'm lucky. And all of a sudden I am and I'm praying to god everything will go well and then I'll have it by the time I'm 40.
Do you remember in spring when I was tested for BV and thrush after asking about it at my smear test. then we both had treatment for both and we haven't had any symptoms again, whereas before we'd have flare ups every 2 months or so. We both wonder if that prevented us from getting pregnant with the first 4 transfers. I guess we'll never know, but it sounds plausible. That would have been a shame for the other 4 embryos, but everything happens for a reason doesn't it.
Yes yes I did have my fly jab in Week 4 straight after the pregnancy test. Went to the pharmacy and paid for it. So baba and I all covered for flu and covid now 😊
hope everything is well on your end too and that you're having loads of fun with Lara 😊❤️ xx

Absolutely wonderful news @Honeybunie, what a fabulous update.

Aww thank you @Decaffe 🥰🥰 I hope everything is going well with you and baby too 🥰❤️
Just had my scan letter in the post as well. It'll be on Monday 9th December. That'll be the first day of Week 13 😊

Just checking in after ages, and @Honeybunie so happy to hear of your scan news. I had a few tears with you in celebration.

I remember when we all started our journey and it's wonderful to hear the good news stories.

Good luck for the 9th!

Aawww thank you @MinBins that’s so sweet of you 🥹🥹🥹 I know 🥹 it’s been so nice to have this forum and go through it all together ❤️
Happy to report that baby is still there and doing well 😊 I started worrying as I don’t have any crazy symptoms like nausea or crazy tiredness. Two weeks ago I feel exhausted but then last week I felt normal again so I started worrying… so I booked a private scan for reassurance last Wednesday and baby was doing perfectly. Measuring bang on 9+2 and moving a loooot 🥰 felt so relieved and reassured 😊 amazing how it seems to develop so perfectly. Fingers crossed it carries on like this 🤞🤞 10 weeks today 😊 and I might just be able to wait until our scan on 9th December now 😊

Ahh I understand @Honeybunie - I also had no symptoms just tiredness (if that). I was always googling when I'd get morning sickness. Maybe it's the gender of child related, as some friends had it and others didn't.

@MinBins oh that's interesting, what gender was your baby? 😃 (sorry I can't remember) I've just decided that I'm one of the lucky ones that do not get morning sickness hehe. It 'only' hits about 75% anyway I read. I mean I have symptoms like my sore boobs and they got bigger and am easily out of breath, constipation lol, but nothing horrible, so that's nice 😊I just got scared when all of a sudden I felt better at the beginning of week 9, when I thought surely weeks 9-12 must the most difficult ones. But I guess the body also gets used to all these high doses of hormones floating around 😊
stopping my meds on 2 December too, which I'm very excited about. that will be 12 weeks exactly. was it the same for you?

Ah we had a girl ☺️ I've read boys carry different hormones and are a little weaker so our body builds nausea to protect them more (so that we don't eat anything dodgy) something along those lines (don't quote me I read months ago in the book 'matrescence' but it was along those lines 🤣)

Yes my meds I ended on week 12 too x x

Aw thanks @MinBins I’ll let you know what we’re having when I know 🥰 xx