IVF warriors - the journey continues 2

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@Spin101
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@KLM25
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Hi everyone, hope you’re all well!
I’m 29 weeks now so the time is flying by. It turns out I’ve got a low lying placenta which had actually got closer to my cervix on this latest scan, rather than moving away. They’re going to check again at 32 weeks and if it’s not moved up, then they’re talking about a c section at 37-38 weeks rather than 39. I’m fine with the c section, I was just a bit shocked that the timing might move forward. Feel completely disorganised as we haven’t bought a thing for the baby yet.
They’ve been doing internal scans to check, so if I thought I had seen the end of dildo cam, then I was wrong ☺️
How’s everyone else doing?
Hope things are going well for anyone in the middle of treatment ❤️ x

lovely to hear from you ladies!

@seekingbabyk and @Honeybunie I hope you’re well! Thinking of you both xx

@KLM25 time flies doesn’t it!

My baby girl is a month old already! I had an emergency c section and am recovering well but do overdo it at times.

sending you all lots of love x

Aw, huge congratulations @Spin101, that’s lovely news, I’m over the moon for you.
Glad to hear you’re recovering well.

Same from me to @Honeybunie and @seekingbabyk, I often think of you both, hope all going ok x

Hi everyone. nice to hear from you lot. How are you doing @Decaffe ?

@Spin101 aawww huge congratulations. your wonderful news gave me goose bumps 💞so happy for you. and a little girl. it's a miracle what can come off the thinnest lining isn't it 😅 just wonderful ❤ glad you're recovering well from the emergency c section. Hope it wasn't too bad! emergency sounds a bit stressful..

@KLM25 wow 29 weeks already. mad. not long at all now. I can't believe you haven't bought anything for the baby yet 😂that's funny! I guess you might still have a lot of stuff from your little boy anyway won't you. so what does a low lying placenta mean? do you have to take it slow because of it? dildo cam haha love it.

I just took some time off mentally while we were away. Left on 27 March to go home to Germany for Easter. On 1 April we flew from Berlin to Phuket for a holiday, which I really enjoyed. Then Singapore for work from 10 April. And we got back two weeks ago now, straight back into work here. It's been quite nice to have a bit of a mental break from it all, but of course it is always there anyway. We had a consultation over the phone on 28 March. That was quite good, i got to ask him a lot of questions. I asked him about the endo tests and he said he would not recommend it at this point. and if any then only the microbiome one. but he said the test has side effects like it could change your implantation window? i was like wow no i don't want to mess with anything down there. then if you remember the nurses last time told me i would have to do a long medicated FET cycle again, which i was upset about. the consultant basically said bullshit to that, he wants me to do a short one again, with the same dose patches as my lining was perfect on them last time. the issue was the growing follicle. So we has prescribed me an added injection for next time, one we'd take before egg collection, that stops follicles from popping and releasing an egg. it's as simple as that! i was very happy about that. and he said again i need to have an earlier scan on Day 6, where we check if a follicle is growing and then start the added injections. don't know if you remember but he already wanted me to have earlier scans on our last attempt, and i told him the nurse on the phone bullshitted me that they don't do anything earlier than Day 10, because there's nothing to see. he confirmed he wanted me to have an earlier scan and the nurse was wrong. she just blagged it. how bad it that. i mean maybe she is still new, but then wouldn't you go and at least check with someone else? she had me doubting myself about what the doctor had said to me. stupid c...w. anyway the doctor now put it firmly in my folder that when i arrange my next appts that i get the early scan! and i have it in writing too should anyone try and bullshit me again. i also think we might be able to do the next cycle in June. the way my cycle falls atm should allow me to start just after the hen do end of May, and I'd have my pregnancy test just before my friend's wedding early July. that's the plan atm. just gotta see when my period starts next week so I can make an estimation for next month, then get my meds ordered :) xx

Also hope everyone is happy and doing well. Also hope things are going well for you @seekingbabyk xx

@Honeybunie Ah that’s great, it sounds like you’ve had a lovely break and some changes of scenery. Phuket sounds amazing and you know I love Singapore. I know it’s always there in the back of your mind, but I bet it’s done you the world of good to get away for a bit.

It sounds like the appt with your consultant was really informative, that’s good to hear. For what it’s worth, I wouldn’t recommend the ERA test either as my results said I needed to move the progesterone timing forward, which I did and then it still didn’t work. For this successful transfer, I’d moved it back to the original timing and ignored the ERA results.

I’m so glad you got the correct info about the length of cycle and the follicle problem. It’s great that there’s such a simple solution. So frustrating though about the duff information from the nurse regarding the scans 😤 I’d be really annoyed about that as well as it’s so difficult to argue with them. Anyway now you’ve got it in writing, there’ll be no problem so that’s good. Your consultant sounds on the ball and easy to communicate with, that’s fab.

Sounds like your period is due just at the right time to fit in with the hen do and the wedding. Fantastic - that’s half the battle isn’t it. And June will be here in no time. Keeping everything crossed for you, as you know.

Ha ha, I know, I don’t think I’ve quite been able to believe it is happening, but I started buying some stuff this weekend and it’s opened the floodgates. I feel quite relieved to know I’ve ticked some things off the list and you’re quite right, we’ve got stuff in the loft from when our little boy was a baby. Need to get it down really.
The low lying placenta just means it’s too close to my cervix. Not completely covering it like placenta praevia but there’s still a danger I could go into labour early naturally, and if the placenta is delivered first, then it’s dangerous for the baby. That’s how I understand it anyway. They’ve said not to over exert myself and if there’s any bleeding, I need to ring the urgent number straightaway x

@KLM25 @Honeybunie thank you so much 🥰I did an online hypnobirthing course so tried to mentally prepare myself for all eventualities. Even though it was an emergency, knowing you’re going to see your baby very soon is a lovely feeling

@KLM25 i hope they’re monitoring you closely and make sure you try to stay calm!

@Honeybunie im glad you took a break! Phuket and Singapore sound amazing. I’m thinking of both of those places for later in the year. If you have any tips, please let me know ☺️
I’m glad you’ve got clarity on your treatment. I am hoping for the best for you. You’ve been through so much ❤️

Hi everyone- sorry I have Mumsnet muted on my phone so haven't been checking in!

@Spin101 awwww congratulations that's amazing news!

@KLM25 nog long now. It sounds like you are in good hands and they are keeping an eye on you which is great!

@Honeybunie great news that you have a plan now and it's really soon too. Your travels sound amazing!

@MinBins @Imisscoffee2021 @decaffe i hope you're both well too!

No progress at all here. Taking supplements every day but our clinic massively increased prices this year so thinking we're going to get a second opinion. We were with London Women's clinic but they have quite a few celebrity clients now so I'm thinking that's allowed them to almost double their prices! In the meantime we are trying to get house finished and things keep coming up like fences falling down or drains blocking so obviously the money goes on that! But yes I want to do another round this year just not sure if that's July or autumn to be honest.

Hello ladies. So sorry I've been off grid again for a while. Been meaning to message all this time but I've just been so incredibly busy in work. May is always a killer. But an end is in sight now :)

@seekingbabyk good to hear from you! So sorry to hear about the price increases! That's the last thing you need isn't it. I dread to check by how much it has increased for us if we had to go private. Last time I checked it was not much, but with everything going on I think they might have increased a lot more by now. I do wonder if it is the cost of living or the celebrities for your clinic? that would be outrageous! with second opinion do you mean you are checking out other clinics?

@KLM25 aawww bless you for welling up starting to buy stuff for the baby. It must be a relief to finally allow yourself to believe it and it is nearly time ❤you must be a lot closer now since we last messaged? did you have your next check up scan already re the low placenta? how is the nursery and every coming along? are you ready to welcome your little princess? hope you've been taking it easy as recommended and everything is going well at the moment. bet you're getting to the stage where you can't wait to get it over and done with now 😅

@Spin101 thanks so much that's so sweet of you ❤you are my thin lining hero too 😅 yes if you're thinking of going to phuket i can actually recommend our hotel. it's been amazing. it wasn't a too busy area, so no clubs or anything, which made it quite chilled. hotel was right at the beach. delicious food court and massage parlour just across the street. it was on Kata beach and called 'beyond kata'. lovely sea view rooms with balcony and not too expensive either. we loved it. singapore is amazing anywhere you stay I think, just super expensive. You're planning on going for a baby holiday over there? I have friends who did that while she was on maternity leave. I think they stayed for 2 months or so wow

So I had a few things happening recently. Just no time to share with you until now unfortunately. So I had a smear test on 29 April. And I've been having BV/thrush symptoms quite a lot recently, but also in general, it seems to pop up every 2 months or so. And OH got symptoms too. more recently it was even that he had skin irritation down there before I even knew it was coming. i asked the consultant about that too over the phone last time and he said whenever i have symptoms i should go to the GPs and have it checked so we know exactly what it is. it so happened that I had symptoms when I went for my smear test and i asked the nurse and so she tested me for BV/thrush/STIs and all that. the results came back a week later and i was called into the practice. I took OH with me as I thought whatever it is he probs needs treatment too. the GP said I had tested positive for BV. so i got a course of antibiotics for 7 days. i told her that he has symptoms too. i don't think that could be down to BV so she suspected that we might have thrush and pass it back and forth to each other too! so she gave us both a treatment for that too. just a cream for OH for 10 days and no sex. He was not happy! 😂funny for me though 😂anyway his skin was soooo much better after just a few days. I think we must've had it for such a long time that it seemed to have become normal to us. it feels like everything is brand new and working as it should again and obvs no horrible symptoms anymore. I do wonder if that had played a part or impaired our fertility too. it can't have helped. I always thought that if my microbiome down there is not right, surely it must kill the sperm straight way, if it's not a friendly environment like. and I'm hoping being 'clean' will help with our fertility treatment now too. fingers crossed anyway. I'm being hopeful.
i also just rang the clinic to order my medication for the next FET cycle, which starts in two weeks time. the nurse was very unprofessional again. very rushed and got things wrong. she said they'd ring us when we can pick up the prescription. i said how does it work because we live further away. she put me on hold, during which i remembered the last nurse i spoke to said they'd post it to us. the nurse today then came back and said that too, i was just a little annoyed she didn't offer it straight away, as it was promised to me before. you have to be on the ball or they strew you over! then she asked if we had been using barrier contraception this months?? i was like why?? without saying anything she put me on hold again. then came back to tell me oh no that's for next month. I'm like yes it is! i should know by now. don't know what was going on with her. she also just talked over me half the time, put me on hold a few times, and then abruptly ended the phone call. i was like wow. this whole thing is stressful enough as it is, i don't need to be treated like that. So i thought I'd write all my phone call experiences down from now on, and remember the name of the nurse. This lady might just have been the same as the one that told me i could not have an early scan as the doctor asked! if I get her again and she's being unprofessional, I'll speak to someone in the clinic. really not on..

xx

@Honeybunie blimey I'm surprised they haven't asked about that before but I'm glad you are getting it all sorted and fingers crossed it makes a big difference and you get your BFP in the next couple of months!

Quick check in to say hope everyone is well and @KLM25 your due date must be close right? Thinking of you all x x

Morning everyone, hope you’ve all had a good weekend!

@Honeybunie That’s really good news that they’ve diagnosed the BV - that could be a massive breakthrough! I wouldn’t be at all surprised if that has been having an impact on everything. It’s so easily solved as well so that’s so positive that you’ve got that sorted out.
Sorry to hear about your experiences with the clinic 🙄 It doesn’t inspire much confidence does it, and it’s exhausting having to keep arguing things all the while. You’re on the ball with it all by now though and I’d definitely follow it up, there’s no need for it, like you say, it’s all stressful enough.
Sounds like Phuket was lovely and relaxing anyway, so that’s great that you managed to make it there.

Everything is fine with me. No, not long @MinBins, due date is July 19th although I’m having another c section so it’ll be about a week before that, if all goes to plan.
I’m 34 weeks later this week and had the 32 week growth scan last week. They did an internal to check the placenta and to our surprise, it has moved up and out of the way. Apparently it’s 2.5cm away from my cervix now, so as long as it’s over 2cm, they’re happy with that.
All her measurements were in the high 90s percentiles, just like her brother ☺️ They estimated her weight at 5lb 8oz already but apparently she’s just going up the graph as she should do. The sonographer actually asked me if I was having a c section when she measured the size of her head ☺️, which was exactly what they said during a scan with our son, so I feel even more justified in that decision 😂
I passed the gestational diabetes test so hopefully she’s just a big baby! I think half the time, these measurements aren’t completely accurate anyway.
I’m just waiting for a phone call appt with the consultant this morning, so I’ll see what she says, but I’m really hoping she can book me in and give me a date for the c section, just so we’ve got a bit of an idea. Apparently they can book you in over the phone and then you can sign all the consent forms etc next time you go in.

We’re still decorating our bedroom (well Chris is, between his shifts bless him) so hopefully we’ll get that done, as we’re all squashed into the spare bedroom with two lots of bedroom furniture in there! It’s causing me a small amount of anxiety but we’re nearly finished and I just figure we’ll manage, whatever happens.

Hope everyone is really well and all’s going ok for anyone in treatment x

Hey @KLM25 I'm so glad to hear that everything is going well with you and the baby. Great news that the 32 weeks scan went well and that the placenta has moved up! Awww lovely that her measurements are perfect too if on the big side😅 That is so reassuring isn't it 💞good job you're having a c section 😂have you got your date yet? nice to have her birthday in the summer ☀
Aahh I hear you with having furniture all over the house. Have you got everything sorted by now or getting close to it? We've had a double bed in our kitchen extension for months now lol as I'm still not finished painting my office/guest bedroom and still need to book in the carpet guys. But soon now.
I'm a bit in limbo at the moment and can't plan/book anything. I told you I was going to do our FET between the hen do and wedding, as it seemed to fit perfectly with my cycle. I had my meds delivered and am ready to go. Usually my period is bang on every 27 days. Was meant to start last Friday/Saturday. It still hasn't arrived. I think it's delayed because I was ill the past two weeks. I had a terrible cough and cold. I didn't sleep properly for a week, including during the hen do, which was super annoying. I kept myself and my friends up all night 🙁when i had covid in 2021 my period was late for about 5 days that cycle. maybe i even had covid, but I didn't have a temperature and I only felt weak the first 2-3 days. Other than that I just carried on with life. anyway i read when you're poorly your period may be delayed because the body is busy getting better first. OH is getting excited I may miraculously be pregnant. if it was for him we'd to a test but I'm just gonna wait and see when my period arrives. because i know the chances are too slim, I've been ill and think it is just a delay, and if i did one and it's negative I'd just feel stupid and deflated for even believing I may have been. so the FET this month is therefore out of the window because of the delay, as I would not have the pregnancy test date before the wedding. i always said I'd be happy not drinking at my friend's wedding if I knew i was pregnant. but I wouldn't do the TWW over the wedding. I'd rather enjoy myself and join the party with all my friends. So we'll just start the FET cycle with my next period in July. no harm done.
I think I also told you I've kinda been shielding myself from getting upset by avoiding pregnant people and babies since my last unsuccessful transfer before Christmas. I'm still having a hard time when I hear news of pregnancies and babies. And I haven't been in touch with some friends because of it. I'm trying to work on that. One of my friends just had a baby girl last week. We are terrible at meeting up anyway even though she lives 2min up the road lol. but i felt terrible i wasn't there for her recently. i just messaged her when i heard the news and I don't think she took it the wrong way at all and we arranged to meet up soon when she's ready for visitors. She knows about the IVF so I think she probably knows why i haven't been in touch earlier. anyway I'm glad she replied lol. I just felt like shielding myself these past few months and always thought I'd get back in touch with people when I'm ready. I'm sure a good friend will understand.
The hen do was super nice. just 5 of us in a private villa with pool in Paxos overlooking the sea. it was heavenly. more like a proper ladies trip than a hen do lol. the only girl I didn't know before had only just officially gotten pregnant literally the day we flew out. She had done IUI. They had been trying to get pregnant for 7 years. 4 years trying without knowing what's wrong, 3 years of investigations until they found he has zero sperm. So then they went private and did IUI and were successful with the first try. So she did her pregnancy test the day she flew out. it was nice to have someone on the trip to talk to about the whole thing. and hopefully she'll make it to 12 weeks and have her happily ever after . i think she might even have twins or more as they stimulate the ovaries to produce more eggs oops haha. I'll interrogate her when I see her at the wedding :)
anyway sorry for rambling! Work is getting quieter again thank god and so my thoughts are turning more to myself and the treatment again.. hope everyone is doing well xx

Lovely to hear from you @Honeybunie and hear all your news. Paxos sounds like it was wonderful ☀️🕶️ plus so nice to be able to talk to someone who has been in a similar situation.

Definitely don’t feel bad about avoiding pregnant friends. Like you say, a true friend will understand. You have to protect yourself as everything can be so hard already without all of those complicated feelings on top. I think it’s maybe easier once the actual baby arrives than when they’re pregnant, I don’t know.

Did your period start? It’s annoying having to wait for it, but like you say, I think illness can definitely delay it. July is no time away and like you say, better to be able to enjoy your friend’s wedding and let your hair down. We have to put so much on hold.

All fine here. I’m 36 weeks tomorrow. I had to go for another gestational diabetes test this morning just in case they’d missed it first time round ☺️ When I had the phone call with the doctor, she said they’d prefer me to do another one as the baby was measuring so big on the 32 week scan. Our son was the same and my Mum said my brother and me were also big, but I suppose it does no harm to double check. It wasn’t too bad and I should find out by Friday. If I do have it, then they’ll still bring fwd the c section to 37-38 weeks. If not, I did get a date on the phone to say I was booked in for Fri 12th when I’m 39+1, but I’ve since had a letter saying it’s Mon 15th, 39+4. I would have preferred the earlier date as I just want her to get here safe and sound asap, but I suppose who knows what might happen and they might bring it forward anyway. Plus my brother is over from the US with his family and flying back on the 15th so I would get to spend some more time with them, if I made it to the 15th.
We’ve also not finished the decorating so I don’t feel completely prepared 🤦‍♀️😂 Our room is almost done, just need to put the skirting boards back on, fit the lights and finish a bit of painting where some cracks have been filled, so it might be ok!
I’ll feel happier when I’ve been able to put all the baby clothes in drawers etc and feel organised! I’m sure we’ll manage whatever happens.

Keep me posted anyway, with any luck you’ll be able to fix a date to start again in July, and it sounds like you’ll be in a really good place now you’ve had those antibiotics and sorted all of that out 👍😊 x

Hey @KLM25
You’re nearly there now! Must be so nice to have a date in the diary with the c section so you can mentally prepare yourself. Do you know yet whether it’ll be the 12th or 15th? What did the diabetes test say? All good?
That is some last minute decorating 😅 but like you said you’ll be fine. Just little bits and bobs isn’t it. And yes you’ll feel on top of things once baby’s clothes are all sorted 😃
So yes my period started 5 days late in the end. It’s astonishing what a bad cold/cough can do to your body. And annoying lol. But yeah time does fly anyway doesn’t it. Half way through my cycle already so we can start in two weeks time. I hope everything will go to plan once we do start, ie that we do get to transfer this time. Because we couldn’t start in June I booked a last minute holiday in the end. I thought we can’t go away in July now, so we may as well have our summer holiday now before the school holidays. So We’ve just been to Mallorca again for a week. Just coming back. The hotel/area was awful lol but we made the best out of it. Good to have a proper mental break from work. I needed it.
Yeah I was wondering if it’s just about avoiding pregnant friends and if I’ll be ok once they have their babies. I think in the first instance I feel more ready again to get in touch with people because we were about to continue with the treatment again. It feels better to be doing something about it, like I’m more on track to get to the stage they’re at and may have a chance of joining the club myself, if that makes sense. While things are on ice it all feels like worlds away and I try not to think about things too much, hence stay away from others. Another one of my friend’s just had her second baby last week and she messaged me to let me know. We hadn’t been in contact for ages. I think she definitely knows why I’ve been silent and does understand and it made me feel better so that was nice. Her little baby boy is super cute too. Crazy how all my friends are having babies all of a sudden and having them at the same times as well. But then I also get sad thinking we could’ve already had a two year old like them if it had worked when we started trying. Oh well 🤷‍♀️
Anyway I hope you’re feeling okay on the last leg and wish you all the very best for the delivery in case we don’t speak before❤️ and enjoy the time with your brother and family xx

Hi @Honeybunie, lovely to hear from you.
You must be ready to start again soon?
I completely understand about the friends thing. It’s so hard when you just feel stuck in a limbo, but I know they would understand. Glad you got a holiday in and had a sunny break even if the hotel wasn’t good!

I passed the gestational diabetes test again a few weeks ago.
My c section is booked for Mon 15th but I actually spent last night in hospital 🤦‍♀️ I had some fluid leaking ystdy and it was kind of straw coloured so they told me to come in. I thought they’d send me home but once I was on the monitor, it sounded like the c section was imminent 😳 They thought I was having contractions as there were 3 tightenings every 10 mins. No pain though. Chris’ Mum came to our house to babysit and Chris came in with the bags. Anyway after 6 hours on the monitor in the labour suite and a speculum, they said my cervix was closed and they just wanted to monitor me overnight on the ward. Decided it was best if Chris went home and I’m glad he did.

I tell you what, people are so inconsiderate. There’s a young couple next to me, he was snoring so so loud from 3am and this was after playing videos on his phone with no earphones from about 1-2am and then talking.There aren’t any babies yet on this bay so no need really for him to be here and disturb the other three women too. I was furious in the night but then a midwife brought me some earplugs at nearly 5am and I did get a few hours sleep then.

I also had some lovely chats with the midwife on the labour suite last night as she told me she had turned 50 in June, 2 weeks after me and she had had IVF on her own with donor sperm at 37 and now has a 13 year old ❤️ I felt quite sad to say goodbye to her ☺️ It was lovely to talk to someone about the IVF and know they understood.

Anyway, hope you’re ok and everything is going to plan. Do you need to have a baseline scan before you start? Xx

@KLM25 I had the same experience in antenatal and post natal! Bloody loud blokes watching sports or reels, I hate that at the best of times but not languishing in induction hell and then shell-shocked after the horrendous birth! I checked myself out the day after my emergency section cos I just couldn't sleep there, hope you have a better experience. My friend in the North east had a private room all through induction, labour and the 5 days they stayed in after trying to breastfeed, crazy how different it is. They must think curtains are sound proof 🤷‍♀️

Exciting not long now for you, and keeping up with all you ladies journeys too :) it's Reuben's 1st birthday on 26th, can't quite believe it. Keep in touch ladies:)

Hiya @KLM25 been thinking about you and wondering how you are getting on. uuuhhhhh that is some exciting news. Not about the lack of sleep but that there is movement already 😃I so feel for you about being disturbed all night. You must be shattered! That is sooooo inconsiderate. I would have probably told him where to go. I mean snoring is one thing, but playing videos loudly at night is just disgusting.
Are you still in hospital now? Let's see if you'll make it to your c section on Monday or if the contractions start sooner.. I hope everything will go well either way ❤
Aw that is a lovely story about the midwife too. Good on her. Amazing age to be doing it too. Gives me hope :)
I just got my period today so we can start yay. put my patch on and taking the additional oestrogen tablets this time around. I didn't expect it to start yet, but I'm glad it's early. Seems my body is trying to catch itself up since it was late last time haha. After our holiday or during it my horrible cough returned again full force. I was again coughing my guts up at night for a week and it took me over a week to get over it. recovered just in time for the wedding thank god. That made we worry a bit that my period might be delayed again, but luckily it wasn't :)
Had some trouble getting through to the clinic today to let them know, but I finally managed to get through. So now I'm just waiting for a phone call to arrange my day 6 scan. Well day 6 is Sunday and I asked, they don't do scans on Sundays so will have to be Saturday or Monday. Let's see. Good feeling being able to start again :) Time did fly as well which was good. We just got back from the wedding weekend last night. We had the most amazing weekend and wedding. Both bride and groom are my best mates so it was really special. OH was a groomsman and I a bridesmaid. My friend from Corfu too and her boyfriend was best man so it was really close to home. We all balled our eyes out at the ceremony hahaha. So much love going around ❤
keeping every crossed for a straight forward delivery for you xx not long now 😃💞

Hope everything went well @KLM25 thinking of you and the little one. Hope everyone else is okay too!

@Honeybunie @Imisscoffee2021 @MinBins Thank you so much and I’m sorry for my slow reply. I meant to post last week but I ended up going into the hospital 3 more times for monitoring, requested by them as they still thought they might be contractions (they weren’t 😊), so with everything else it was a crazy busy week.
A big relief to make it to Monday and the section, (although we thought it might be postponed after one of the surgeons came to warn us that theatres were at critical level apparently and we might have to come back! Luckily an hour later they said it would be ok).
So our little Lara Abigail arrived at 12.30pm, 9lb 9oz, so they weren’t far wrong with the growth scans! She’s perfect, we are over the moon and honestly can’t believe how lucky we are. All of those failed transfers were absolutely worth it to have her here safe and sound.

Only just got home yesterday teatime. They had to give me a general anaesthetic after they’d got her out as there was some uncontrolled bleeding, it was taking longer than expected and the spinal was starting to wear off. I was a little bit scared at one point, I have to say. I was comparing it to my c section with my son and things seemed to be going quite differently, but it all worked out and it wasn’t long until I’d woken up, they’d got it under control and stitched me up, plus we got a private room until 9pm that night so it wasn’t all bad. They then moved us up to the antenatal ward where I ended up staying 3 nights. @Imisscoffee2021 you made me laugh with your post - it’s unbelievable isn’t it, how some people behave. I could not get over it when I had to stay that single night last week. I told everyone who would listen once I got home 😂
This time, I actually ended up in the very same bedspace as a week previously! Neighbours were more considerate but it was still almost impossible to sleep so I was a bit delirious with it by Wed and I cried my eyes out for over an hour that teatime when I realised we’d be staying another night 🤦‍♀️ I just couldn’t stop! I think it coincided with my milk coming in so I’ll use that excuse 😂
I was very interested to read that you’d discharged yourself, I was googling that ystdy but then we got home so it all worked out 😊
I wouldn’t say I’ve had much more sleep since ha ha, but it’s much more comfortable.

@Honeybunie I’m so pleased that you’ve been able to start again! Was day 6 last Sunday? So you’ve been able to have your scan? I’ve lost track of time a little bit. Hopefully it’s all under way and it’s going well. Let me know won’t you. The wedding sounds amazing, it’s so lovely when it’s people that you’re really close to ❤️

Sorry it’s a saga as usual. Hope everyone is doing well and I just wanted to say a big thank you for everyone’s support through this. I’d love to hang around on the thread if that’s ok and don’t worry, I will keep the baby chat to a minimum! Xx

@KLM25 congratulations! What a beautiful name and what a big girl! So glad you're home and healthy, both of you :)

I didn't discharge myself so much as badger the staff to do all the checks needed to let me go, and tbh they were desperate for people to leave as there were so many stuck in the wards before waiting for people to go, bless you managing 3 nights there after that general anaesthetic and a section! Xx

@KLM25 huge congratulations on the arrival of your baby girl!!!!! 💞❤❤I am so happy for you!! so glad everything went well as well. I've been waiting to hear from you too and praying for good news. so happy for you. you finally got what you wanted for such a long time, a perfect little family ❤glad you were in good hands and that they managed to get the bleeding under control and you are fine! and wow that is one big baby 😂good job you had a c section hehe. I love the name! My sister's best friend is called Lara too. such a lovely name :) nice that you are home now. Did you get the rooms sorted in time for the arrival hehe?

Yes Sunday was my Day 6. So we went to have a scan on Saturday and it was very positive news. OH and I could not believe it when the guy said the lining was 7.5mm already 😳we were so happy. I only ever made it to 6.9-7.0mm on Day 11 before. I was very happy as it seems like we have finally cracked the meds riddle and found the right dosage for me. Also the ovaries were quiet and no follicle was growing. perfect. today is Day 11 and we are going again for a scan at 2pm. I am very curious to see where we are at today. I'll let you know. they still had me start on the injections to suppress an egg from popping as a precaution. I guess if there still is no follicle in sight today, if we had another FET cycle, we'll probs know now that I'm fine on the current oestrogen dose only, so that's nice. Esp since we'd need to go private after this attempt. so I'm glad we got it all figured out in the end. Well let's see what today brings first I guess.

Enjoy your time at home with Lara and congratulations again for graduating from here 😉😄❤xx

@KLM25 ha spoke too soon. We cannot believe it but my lining has gotten thinner again! 5.7mm today! So we had to abandon again. Cannot make sense of it at all. We now got the earliest possible consultation on 22 August to see what the doc suggests going forward.

Thank you so much @Imisscoffee2021 and @Honeybunie ❤️ We really do feel incredibly fortunate.
Ha ha, I know! When they pulled her out of me, the doctors were saying ‘she’s a toddler, not a baby’ 🤦‍♀️☺️
She’s being weighed for the first time tmrw so I’m sure she’ll have lost weight, but she seems quite content and the feeding is going better this time round, so I’m not too worried.
More self justification for having a c section!
@Imisscoffee2021 Yes I completely get it. You have to be a bit pushy don’t you? Glad they let you go, I do feel that you recover better at home in a lot of ways.

@Honeybunie Thank you so much. Ah that’s lovely that your sister’s best friend is called Lara.
Ha! We almost finished the bedroom. We’ve got a cast iron reclaimed fireplace that we want to attach to the chimney breast at some point, plus it needs pictures etc, and shutters (coming in Aug) so we’ve got black out blinds velcroed up at the windows! Not that I’ve slept in there since we got home, I’ve been downstairs or in the back bedroom. It’s still painful to get out of bed and our bed is quite high!

I was so sorry to read your update 😔 I have to say that it brought a tear to my eye when I read your first post yesterday morning about your lining doing so well, I was just so happy for you, so I know how gutted you must have been for this latest scan. It’s such a bloody unfair rollercoaster. Like you say, it makes no sense. I’m just wondering if they need to tweak things very slightly and you’re almost there if your lining had got to a good level for the first time. I know it’s a nightmare to wait another month but at least it’s the earliest possible consultation and if/when you do go private, you’re going to have so much information for them regarding everything, I think it will really speed things up. You sound incredibly positive as usual which is wonderful, I hope you’re ok and I’m sending lots of love x

@KLM25 awwww congratulations to you my lovely what a beautiful name! Glad you are home now!

@Honeybunie oh no that's awful news. I wonder what would cause it to go back down again as it was doing so well! I'm really sorry!

@Imisscoffee2021 omg a year already how quickly has that gone! Is Reuben up and walking around now?

We have completely abandoned everything for now. Would love to go again with 3 rounds next year but just don't have the funds. Looked into the access and Gaia options and decided it wasn't for us. Just enjoying some time off of it all for now and putting some money away for if we decide to go again. In the meantime I've got massively into nutrition - clean eating, no UPFs, growing our own vegetables, etc so hoping all of that will help a bit if we do decide to go for more ivf at some point. If we don't I'm coming round to the idea of adopting too so who knows what will happen 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks so much @seekingbabyk ❤️
Glad to hear that you’re taking a break, it’s all so exhausting, it sounds like that’s just what you need.
Must feel good to be eating so healthily as well, great for the body and the spirit too.
Hope your house renovations are going really well, so nice to get settled in a new place and I love the sound of growing your own vegetables 😊 x