IVF Scotland - thread 4

[2mumlife]

Hi everyone,

Started a new thread for the Scotish ladies

@LouScot
@Scirocco
@MrsTMcB
@florafoxtro
@Hopewishprayer
@ScottishRach
@Kamiros
@LT103
@itsmschanandlerbong
@connal

Please @ anyone I missed!

@Kamiros How are you feeling today? I'm like you - I bled before OTD on all my cycles, other than my chemical pregnancy and my BFP, so my aim was always just to get to OTD. Keeping everything crossed for you.

@HJen22 Its great the clinic are already thinking ahead to your next cycle - I've alwasy found is takes ages between cycles because of clinics being so full / busy. I told a few friends before we started IUI as I thought it would be straight forward. I actually talked about it less and less the more cycles we did, as I felt more and more that it wasn't going to work to be honest and I didn't want people to know we'd tried and failed. I think it is useful to have 1 or 2 people you can talk about it with, but who you feel comfortable knowing your pain if it doesn't work out. I definitely did share particulars in terms of when we were doing egg collections or transfers. We actually still haven't told our parents I'm pregnant yet, because they will have the attitude that a pregnancy ends in a baby, and we're still in a place of caution. Have said I'll bite the bullet and tell my parents at the weekend if everything looks ok with cervix scan on Thursday. The cervix scan is another internal scan, so its really not for checking fetus - was speaking to someone else who had it done who said you could see the head and if you're lucky a hand if fetus wants to behave and flash you a bit of themselves above your cervix, but they don't routinely do an abdominal scan at the same time :(

@LT103 Sounds like there is lots of promise for good numbers for you, your scan and Estradiol are very good. Try not to worry about things, they know what they're doing :)

@HJen22 Sorry that should say DIDN'T share particulars

@LT103 Great news, so pleased for you.

@HJen22 I've talked about it to family and friends way less than I did at the start, I now hate having the it's not worked conversation so I just don't say anything. The only person who knows dates etc is my mum as we're pretty close. DH's parents know things are happening but no detail. I have 2 close friends that I talk to a little, but again no dates or details.

@2mumlife I am fully demented now, and still 6 days until OTD. Woke up at 4am this morning feeling sick again but it only lasts about 40 mins then I'm fine. Boobs very tender and swollen, but I feel that heavy feeling like I'm going to bleed. I know none of it means anything but it's impossible not to be aware of symptoms both positive and negative. I made DH take all the tests and hide them cos I'm desperate to test but I know it won't actually give me any certainty so there's no point. Luckily work is extremely busy so that's distracting me a little.

Thanks ladies. I just wasn't sure if I was doing the right thing but I think being a bit more open with "it's life" but absolutely no detail is the way forward for us. It's just hurt having to tell people it was the end of that cycle. Learnt from this cycle though and will know going forward that it's best we just keep it to us. And I hope next time I have news it's good news!

I went to spin class this morning and welled up when a song came on cos I felt proud i had forced myself to go. I've then had another cry at home about a friend telling me what her baby had for breakfast. I'm perhaps not quite as ok as I though but I guess there are going to be ok days and not so ok days.

@Kamiros you're doing so well; not long to go til OTD, hang in there! Good idea hiding the tests and I'm glad you're busy so it's a distraction! I really do have everything crossed that this is your time x

@2mumlife aw I hope you do get a wave! That would be so so lovely!! Hopefully all goes well and you can share your good news at the weekend, I'm sure both sets of grandparents will be absolutely over the moon!

@LT103 how are you feeling? Trigger tonight isn't it? Xx

@HJen22 it’s totally normal to not be ok about it all. Think it just takes time to process it all!! Good for you getting out to a spin class though!! I haven’t done any classes in a few weeks!!
I’m ok but really full and heavy feeling in my tummy today. Have done last injection this morning so just the trigger tonight to go.
I’m trying to stay calm. I mean it’s totally outwith my control so there really is no point stressing over it.

@Kamiros good on you for waiting. I like to think I’d be able to wait until OTD too. But yeah I’d need to get my oh to hide all the tests haha

@Kamiros I absolutely get the demented feeling. I've had to get DP to hide tests before as well. Just keep holding out - if its negative you'll feel crap even though there is time, and if its positive, all you'll want to do is obsess over line progression. Waiting is difficult, but you can do it!

@HJen22 Well done for going to spin :) Give yourself plenty of compassion - your hormones have been royally messed up the last few weeks as well remember, so everything is going to feel even more emotional at the moment. I found it took me awhile after both egg collections to feel stable again. Exercise is the best - I'm heading to a body pump class tonight :)

@LT103 Sounds like you're doing a fab job not stressing. That full feeling is all those lovely follicules just waiting for collection

@HJen22 It's definitely ok not to be ok about it. Hope you're taking care of yourself.

@LT103 Hope you're doing ok, good luck for tomorrow. @2mumlife Hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

I feel so sick today, it's actually getting worse as the day goes on - also none of my bras fit. Whatever is happening these hormones are wild :)

Hi all. I am having some spotting now. Is it too late for implantation bleeding- I'm 7dp5dt

Hi @Kamiros, I don't want to give you false hope but are you not bang on time for it? It occurs between 7 and 14 days after fertilisation no? So you'd be 13 days after fertilisation which would mean it could very well be implantation??

@LouScot I'm really not sure. I do hope so. Its just brown spotting but I've felt like my period was coming all day - more a heavy feeling than cramps, and it's much the same time I bled last time. I've just panicked and got all distraught without really knowing if I'm out.

@Kamiros oh, no wonder you're feeling distraught, but there's still hope yet. We've all got our fingers crossed for you xx

@LouScot Thank you. I think just knowing this was our last own egg try its harder than before.

@Kamiros oh I really hope it's not AF and it's implantation. We are all rooting for you and have everything crossed. There is still hope, try and hold on to that. Stay strong xxx

@HJen22 Thank you. Its still very light spotting and still brown so I'm trying to stay hopeful but being prepared for it to get heavier today.

@Kamiros It might not be implantation bleeding, but spotting is SO common in pregnancy. That being said, the only time I had 'implantation bleeding' was during my chemical pregnancy (I had brown watery discharge starting at 5dp5dt for a few days). I didn't have any spotting on my BFP, so I would say try not to read too much into it. It might be a good sign, it might not, and you've just got to find that inner reserve of patience until OTD to know xxx

@2mumlife Thanks. I'm not totally giving up but I'm pretty convinced it's period or a chemical. Just have to see how the next few days go. If it gets heavier then I'll call the clinic but otherwise not much point. x

Egg collection all done and I’m home in pjs on couch. It was all fine. Over and done with quick and I don’t remember any of it haha. Got 9 eggs and sperm looking good so just need to cross fingers now.
Embryologist came to chat to me. She said on average 60% fertilise and of that 40% make it to blast (obv some get better some get worse). So I’ll get a call tomorrow morning saying how many fertilised then an update on Monday (day 4) and a final call on Tuesday to say if any make it to freezer.

@LT103 Great news, so pleased for you. Fingers crossed for good fertilisation rate tomorrow.

My bleeding has got a little heavier but still not as heavy as a period. GCRM have told me to test at home on Saturday which at least means I don't need to wait it out all weekend. Rapidly losing hope now though.

@Kamiros I'd still see wait and see - your body seems prone to bleeding at odd times, just remember when you thought you wouldn't get to EC and you did. Keeping everything crossed for Saturday 🤞🤞🤞🤞

@LT103 9 eggs is great! Relax up today, and hoping for positive news for you tomorrow!

@LT103 congrats on your egg collection! A great amount of eggs. I have everything crossed for good fertilisation update tomorrow! Hope you are getting some rest.

@Kamiros I'm so sorry you're having such a worrying time. But as @2mumlife says, spotting is common and our bodies can be prone to bleeding at strange times. It's good you've spoken to the clinic, I hope they managed to put your mind at ease a little if anything. I really do hope that Saturday gives you happy news xx

Thank you both. We're trying hard to hold on but it does seem to be getting heavier as the day goes on.

@Kamiros I have been thinking of you, how are you doing? Xx

@2mumlife and how was your scan yesterday? X

@HJen22 Hi, thanks for asking. Not great though unfortunately. Bleeding is very heavy and I'm having bad pains in my stomach, not really cramps though, not sure how to describe it. Looking forward to testing tomorrow just so I know. How are you doing?

I’m so sorry @Kamiros. Must be so hard waiting. Still crossing everything for you tomorrow!!!