Weight loss for IVF 2021/2022

[WeightlossKin]

I need to lose three stone to qualify for IVF. I've got one to lose for my referral and two more after that for treatment.
Creating this for myself and for others who might want to buddy up!

It is ALWAYS jeans 😂 laying on the bed feeling like a bloody sausage was the moment I broke.
Yeah, he's been great thankfully. He knows how to reassure me without adding too much pressure. Mainly cause he knows if he puts pressure on me I go the opposite way and eat crap 🤦🏼‍♀️ but we're gunna sit down tomorrow and have a proper chat about it all. Get a plan of action and get started from there. Hopefully it'll help get me in the right mind set again.

I hate people who think they're helping but really aren't. My friends always offer me crisps and cakes, knowing full well I'm trying to eat better and be healthier. He probably means well but doesn't realise how much it can wind you up. Especially if to him, eating healthy is the breakfast muffin option (man, what I'd give for a muffin right now 😂).
People who can eat why they want and not gain weight are bastards 😜 my mates husband was telling me the other day how he eats a whole jar of Nutella every week - like straight out of the jar with a spoon, not even on anything or in recipes. And he is so bloody skinny, yet he eats absolute crap. So unfair!

Honestly when I was gaining weight I stopped wearing jeans and it's the worst thing I did. My whole eventual maintenance plan is to always have a pair of jeans that only just fit so I have that warning when they're too tight and get it under control again! So whilst it's rubbish to get so upset because jeans are evil, it's a good kick up the butt?? Not that we really need that. It's not really a lack of motivation is it, just a case of coping with slow and steady.
Aw he sounds lovely bless him! Just what you need 😊 it's fab that you're going to sit down together and create a plan. I love a good plan, it can just help realign your mindset. You know you can do this!
People who can eat really in a really gluttonous way and get away with it...ugh. so unfair!

My poor husband 😂 I'm very lucky to have him really. He just has a good metabolism but also isn't a person who would ever eat like a whole bag of chocolate buttons or pack of biscuits. He can very much just have one and be satisfied. But also no shits given if he has two meals out and a takeaway and gains 2lbs as the following week it'll be gone where as to me that's a whole week of emotional turmoil. He does weigh in with me every week though 🥰 and doesn't tell me if he's lost anything unless I have so I don't get jealous 😂

Hey both ☺️

Sorry to hear you’ve both been having a really tough time. It is so frustrating when people don’t understand it or think they’re being supportive but it’s misguided. It usually does come from a good place though but that doesn’t make it easier.

The weight loss you’ve achieved to date is still massive and it will help your health in the future! Just a struggle to keep motivated.

Also we all have our low moments and we do need to get out how we’re feeling, if not anywhere else on here. Sending you both huge hugs 🤗

Hi @Hjklasdfg how are you feeling now? How's your week been?
I'm sure people do mean well. It's like with anything infertility related, if they've not been there they have no idea what it's like and can't relate!
I hope your sinusitis is better now?

@WeightlossKin I’m still unwell but getting better thank you. The sinusitis has flared up my asthma so I didn’t go to PT or do any exercise this week. I’m late as well but it’s like I don’t want to do a test as it will be crushing etc and it’s probably just cos I’ve been unwell.

Yeah it’s such a hard topic with people who don’t quite understand just how much it impacts everything. How are you? How’s your week been?

I'm sorry to hear you're still a bit under the weather @Hjklasdfg! I was going to ask about PT sessions but understandable if you're not well to not have any. Are you ever usually late? 🤞 When will you test if you do?

I'm okay thank you. Had a dip obviously but feeling a bit more positive today I guess!
My week has felt really really long! Not sure I've done as much exercise as I had hoped but it's more about what I eat. All the effort I've put in this week better pay off as it's been a bit torturous not to have any chocolate or anything! Surprised at how hard I've found it.

@WeightlossKin yeah if I’m completely honest with you I think I realised the other day I’m so drained and down from all the pressure the last few months maybe I just need a break from all the worrying and trying to lose weight and focus on getting my mental health back on track.

Erm so it’s weird, since I took the clomid I was clockwork every 30 days but before clomid they would vary from 28-40 days so it’s hard to judge. Last time I was late I got excited then was heartbroken when it was negative so I almost want to leave it as long as the 40 days before I do a test. Too much info but because I’ve been so unwell I don’t think we would be pregnant as we only had sex once and I wasn’t checking ovulation sticks because I thought it’s time to stop for now as I wasn’t ovulating pre clomid.

Glad you’re feeling a bit more positive! It is really hard but your body does adjust pretty quickly if you keep it up. We had a bit of cake on valentines and I haven’t had any chocolate since. What’s your food plans for the week? Hope you’re weekend is going well ☺️

Sometimes we all need a break. It can be so all consuming it's easy to get swallowed by it. I hope a break gives you what you need.
I would be the same leaving it as long as your longest cycle before testing. I'm CD21 today I think and haven't ovulated yet as far as I can work out. Once is all it takes though, would be lovely if it happened for you now.
Can't help but hope it happens for all of us before we get to IVF!
Well done not having any chocolate since valentine's day 😊
I've not got very far planning lunches this week which goes against my new years resolution but never mind! I always have something light on a Monday but haven't planned that either 😂 so tomorrow will be fun. Rest of the week dinners include delights such as bacon carbonara and salad, soup, pork loin steaks and veg oh and homemade curry with rice!
SIL has gone into labour so I've not done much today other than be a weird mopey sort of excited???

Hope you start feeling properly better this week and look after yourself by doing whatever you need to @Hjklasdfg ❤️

@WeightlossKin it is so consuming I don’t think I realised how much it was getting me down until I stopped the clomid and stopped monitoring. It is so hard isn’t it? As they say to relax but it’s always there in the back of your mind.

Yeah I just can’t cope with the disappointment it honestly crushed me every time my period came when I was on clomid. I’m on CD37 now so 3 more days and that’s the latest my period has ever been. I really want to be hopeful but feel like I can’t just in case you know?

At least the dinners are planned though! That’s a start, I’m sure you’ll think of something ☺️

Aren’t resolutions made to be broken? 😅

Oh bless her! Hope she has a quick labour and everyone’s healthy 🤞 how are you feeling though overall?

Thank you, I appreciate that so much. Hope you have a better more positive week too ☺️

I don't think it's naturally a very relaxing process. After month six of TTC there is no relaxing at all I don't think. I don't actually know who I'll be when I don't have weight loss, TTC and IVF to think about? 😂 it completely owns me.
Yes I know what you mean about being hopeful, sometimes just better to protect yourself and not bother. If I do ever test I do it when I'm in a hurry so that I don't have time to dwell on it being negative.
I'm feeling weirdly okay actually. Excited to meet the new baby? Obviously had some sort of personality transplant overnight about it.
I think it helps that I know I'll be getting my referral in four weeks or so, as that's half the battle mentally of coping.
Hope your Monday is a lovely one 🥰

@Lakyta1717 how did you get on over the weekend? I hope a chat with your husband helped and you're feeling a bit better today!

@WeightlossKin omg isn’t that just true? It is all consuming, I’m the same I’m like when we do get pregnant what will I even do with my thoughts? Nothing else has been at the centre on my mind for months 😅

I’m glad you’re excited ☺️ Hopefully it will stay that way? But if it doesn’t let yourself feel how you feel it’s all valid.

Ah that’s exciting! A step in the right direction ☺️ Thank you! Hope you have a good Monday too!

@Lakyta1717 hope everything’s okay!

Hey both - sorry for being MIA. Needed the weekend to decompress and plan things out. After my meltdown, we've come up with a plan of action which we're going to stick to as much as possible:

1. Exercise at least 3 times a week (preferably 30 mins on my exercise bike)
2. Stick to the meal plan and prep like a boss every weekend (did that yesterday and have a week of meals good to go!)
3. At least 1 piece of fruit and 3 veg portions a day
4. Put less pressure on myself.

Number 4 is the biggest one. I feel like I'm letting people down by not losing weight quicker and o have to stop thinking that. Or I'll get nowhere. So I'm not giving myself a numbers goal, just going to keep working on the 4 things above and go from there 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Lakyta1717 that sounds like a good plan! It’s so hard to get overwhelmed by the pressure but putting less pressure on yourself will definitely help. You’re doing this for you and you’ve already got this far, you will get there ☺️

@Hjklasdfg thank you. I need to remember that this is for me and my husband, not for anyone else. So when people mention it, I'm going to shut it down. This weekend has made me realise how bad certain comments and scenarios are for my mental health. So I'm not going to share things as much with people and there's also certain people I'm going to spend less time with. I think that's what triggered me this week, I went to visit a friend and her baby. She's also the friend that makes comments without realising how much they upset me. I even quoted some stuff she'd said to me back at her and her response was "I can't believe some people would say that to you! That's awful" while I'm sat there thinking, it was you, you said it! She honestly has no idea and I just can't take it anymore. So I'm going to distance myself from her for a while.

Today I've managed to stick to my meal plan - porridge, mini roast for lunch and dinner (we had so much leftover yesterday 😂 my husband cannot portion control!) with so much veg. No snacks either which is good for me at work!

And thanks @WeightlossKin for checking in on me. I really appreciate you both being here to talk to ❤️

I feel a bit flat now 😂 that joy didn't last long! I think I'm still struggling with not having sugary treats but on the other hand I'm enjoying blaming everything I feel on the lack of sugar! I think I will struggle with that everyday for the rest of my life!

I think my mind will just implode @Hjklasdfg! I think when I get to that stage I'll have to find something else to obsess over!

@Lakyta1717 that's a very sensible plan! Hopefully not setting a number goal will naturally help with number 4? I think "not setting number goals" might be your number 5 as it's so hard not to always have that in the back of your mind in my experience I hate that feeling of letting people down, especially as in our situations as long as we don't give up we're not failing anyone, most importantly ourselves 💪 😊 Well done doing your weekly prep!

It takes so much strength to put your mental health and emotional health before everything else, life should encourage that more rather than being a numbers game.

@Lakyta1717 of course, you’re the most important person and rightly so to shut them down. I’ve had a few friends I’ve had to distance myself from as they don’t mean anything in a malicious way but they make small comments like your friend does and don’t quite realise the impact of their words. I think you have to sometimes take a step back and see the people around you and if you are feeling drained and upset after seeing them some distance will do you the world of good. But also on the opposite hand I have a friend who’s like a cheerleader about everything and it’s nice but also draining for her not acknowledging the hurt etc. you have to do what’s right for both your mental and physical health. Sending you a big hug 🤗

Good start on the meal plan for today and it’s good you have the week planned!

@WeightlossKin bless you, it was bound to have some effect. Oh for sugar is like an addiction that’s so hard to kick and because it gives us that little surge of happiness when we stop it’s only natural our mood drops. I hope it starts getting easier. Have you tried having healthier alternatives? Like maybe a mejool date?

Honestly I’ll be the same 😂 like you said it’s become such a centre of our life it’s going to be strange when we don’t have to worry about it.

Oh @Lakyta1717 I'd taken so long replying (I was having a very long bath) I didn't refresh before replying and missed your message!
Distancing yourself from people like that sounds a good idea, people are ridiculously ignorant sometimes. Top points for sticking to your food plan today! Great way to start the week ⭐

@Hjklasdfg I refuse to pay the price of those dates they're so dear 😂 but I bet they're delicious! I've not had any alternatives but will keep healthy alternatives in mind when I'm really struggling 😊 thank you for the suggestion!

@WeightlossKin hahaha ah they are expensive, I usually get them in bulk they’re stupidly overpriced in the supermarkets. My other thing at the moment seems to be popcorn. But I think if you can think of something sweet you may be able to trick your body into thinking it’s having sugar but it’s a healthier alternative. If you find something that works please tell me!

Oh those freakin jeans! I'm laughing so hard with all the mental images of all those times I'm rolling around the bed in spasms trying to fit just another inch of me inside those damn things 😂😂

I ordered a "goal tracker notebook" that I found on Instagram and it is supposed to be adapted for losing weight, it should arrive by Friday, I will let you know if it's actually helpful

I love popcorn @Hjklasdfg there are lots of low calorie versions and a portion is quite a lot 😊 I used to love poshcorn I think it was? An almond butter one! Will definitely let you know if I stumble across anything that works!

@IsabelHerna I'm intrigued by the goal tracker notebook, look forward to hearing what it's like 😊 how are you? How have things been going? I think you were taking IVF meds last time you posted?

It is always jeans that don't fit 😂 I've hidden them at the back of my wardrobe now. Had someone in work (who I've not seen for a while) comment on how much weight I've lost, so that gave me a boost.
Have stuck to my plan today - lots of veg (for the hubby to put tons in the lasagne and turkey meatball meals) and my fruit too, no snacks again and done half an hour on my exercise bike. Had to watch a YouTube video to distract myself - I really can't stand doing exercise (do feel good now though which is good!).
Hope everyone is doing okay ❤️
I also agree about what I'll focus on when I do get to the ivf and pregnant. Will have to find something for a new focus 😂 it's so all consuming right now.

Hey ladies,

I’m feeling slightly guilty to say this but also extremely excited/nervous, I did a test and it’s come back positive. So did another three and it’s positive too. Can’t quite believe it - we came off the clomid so it was the first month without it and wasn’t even tracking ovulation so I’m in disbelief.

I’ll probably go quiet but thank you for all your support and I know you’ll all get there 🥰

@Hjklasdfg congratulations ❤️❤️ I hope you have the most perfect pregnancy. Make sure you continue to look after yourself and your mental health! You definitely don't need to feel guilty about it 😊

@Lakyta1717 that's amazing that someone at work commented and you felt good about it! 😊 That's something I strive for. Yesterday someone said I was looking so "trim" and I said "who cares how I look?! Certainly not my GP!" 😂 That'll teach them for being nice!
Amazing well done on the exercise and sticking to plan! 💪
I know I moan about it being consuming but actually in the past when I've not been obsessed with my weight, I've struggled to lose anything. I'm not sure I know how to find a middle ground!

@Hjklasdfg that's amazing news! Congratulations! I hope everything goes swimmingly for you ❤️ no need to feel guilty - I'm over the moon for you!

@WeightlossKin I did respond to someone today with something along those lines 😂 so you're not the only one! I never find middle ground - I either don't care at all or obsess over it all... neither of which seems to work particularly well right now but hey ho 🤷🏼‍♀️