Weight loss for IVF 2021/2022

[WeightlossKin]

I need to lose three stone to qualify for IVF. I've got one to lose for my referral and two more after that for treatment.
Creating this for myself and for others who might want to buddy up!

@WeightlossKin yeah weekly not sure how many sessions she didn’t say guess we’ll see how it goes. I find it frustrating as I know my thoughts aren’t logical and there’s no evidence to support them but I still get down and anxious. Yeah I will see what the GP says next week, if it helps in the long run might be worth it.

Oh god it is so much harder! I want to go cold Turkey but it’s also my comfort at the moment 🤦🏽‍♀️ But that’s not going to help. I’ve kept up the squats and done yoga yesterday (nothing today though).

Haha I don’t remember what relaxing feels like if I’m honest! I feel like I’ve been a giant ball of stress for years.

🤦🏽‍♀️ I can never think of anything, I feel like all my energy is going into weight loss! What meals have you got planned for the week? How’s your week going? 😊

CBT tends to run in courses of 8 weeks I think? I suppose you'll find out as you go along. I really hope it's helpful for you. I think even just being able to express your irrational thoughts is so helpful. It's difficult to keep it all in as you can never really acknowledge it then.

Comfort food isn't going to help but hopefully you'll be able to conquer that a bit more as you work things through in CBT and if you do get some help from your GP that might all help with the weight loss.

Well done for squats and yoga yesterday! Just do what you feel happy doing. Too much pressure to do it more often than you want to isn't good for us.

My week is going okay...today hasn't been great as it's the first time this week I've actually felt like eating (although I obviously have been eating) I had a crumpet for breakfast and some cheese and a bread roll for lunch. As I've been unwell I've gone right off chocolate and sweet things and haven't had any all week so hopefully that balances out the bread today 🤦

Dinners this week: soup and crackers, risotto and salad, omelette and veg, haddock with potato 'scales' and roasted veg.

What have you guys been having? 😊

@WeightlossKin yeah I imagine it will be about that long, yeah that’s true. I have had hypnotherapy in the past and thought about trying it again but you really have to believe it will help for it to help if that makes sense? Yeah I keep giving into comfort food at the moment I think I am just going to need to go completely cold turkey on sugars and carbs and take it from there as I’m struggling to reduce it.

Thank you! I’ve managed to do squats daily it’s only 10 a day but it’s a start so thank you for suggesting it ☺️ I’m meeting with a personal trainer on Wednesday and hopefully I’ll like her 🤞 how have you been getting on with the exercise??

Ah but you just have to look after yourself and listen to your body when you’re ill and if the bread helps that’s what’s important. Really hope you start feeling better!

Ah you’re much more organised than me I think we had fish and veg, chicken and rice, chicken wrap and chicken wings and salad so far. Haven’t got anything planned for this weekend as we’re potentially going out. And yesterday was a disaster as I had a hospital procedure so fasted for half a day but then we had car troubles and got stuck at the hospital so by the time we got home I just wanted whatever was quick and easy so it ended up being more carb heavy than I intended.

Hope you have a good weekend! Have you got any plans? ☺️

Hey ladies!
Sorry I've been MIA, works been manic and we've actually had plans for once in our lives this week 😂
You guys sound much more organised that me this week! I haven't eaten terribly and have done exercise - lots of walking this week, but I didn't do a full week plan as we were much busier than normal.
I've also gone to visit family this weekend, so get treated to meals out and what have you so diet has gone out the window today 🤦🏼‍♀️
When I get back tomorrow I'm going to plan my week and get organised though.
Hope the CBT goes well @Hjklasdfg I know what you mean about quitting sugar being so hard, first time I started losing weight I just didn't eat chocolate or biscuits plain and simple, no I convince myself "just one won't hurt" and I cannot stop eating them for the life of me!
And hope you're feeling better @WeightlossKin I'm sure that eating the bread won't have done too much damage, especially if you've been off chocolate etc while you've felt unwell.

@Lakyta1717 that’s okay! Hope you’ve had a good week ☺️
But you’ve still been good and exercised and you’ve had a busy week so it’s okay. My weekend is probably going to be all the bad stuff as I’m so busy but did squeeze in a yoga session this morning so trying to focus on that rather than what I haven’t done.
Thank you. Yeah I’m the same, struggling this time round I think I just need to pick a day and be strict from them and also get rid of all the temptation in the house or have it out of sight at least. It’s just so much harder this time round isn’t it?

@WeightlossKin hope you’re feeling better today!

@Hjklasdfg it really is! Yeah, I think we have to just pick a day and start from there. We've done it before, so we can do it again! I've had a moment today of just realising that I've got to just crack on and do it. I don't want to find anymore excuses, so from Monday, I'm back on it 100%.
For me, it's going to be following the body coach food plan and doing the exercise - not half arsing both sides and getting nowhere!

@Lakyta1717 yeah I think so too! Yeah I’m the same, I keep saying I’ll do it when… but need to stop saying that and actually begin. Starting is always the hardest part! We can do it ☺️

Ah that sounds good! I’m hoping I like this PT and will probably do better having a set exercise in the week. I’m doing the yoga etc but I know it’s not enough.

Hope you have a good Sunday! ☺️

@Hjklasdfg I really hope you like this PT! I find it so much easier to be told what to do and not have to do my own thing. If I do my own thing, I do it half arsed 😂
Will you them set you a programme or workout with them a set number of times a week then?

Good morning! Sorry for not checking in. I knew my period was coming so I was feeling sorry for myself.
Well done @Hjklasdfg for continuing with the squats. I hope you like the PT, look forward to hearing how you get on 😊 I've only done exercise twice this last week due to being so unwell. Back on it today though! Busy days especially with appointments that don't allow access to fridges and home cooking don't help do they! It's hard to care as much after a long day.

@Lakyta1717 visiting family is difficult isn't it! Sounds like you've done your best under the circumstances with a busy week at work as well. Hopefully you see some weight loss this week!

The thing is, there's always going to be life going on. We're not going to be on plan 100% of the time every week, and we'll have better weeks than others. As long as the overall trend is good and weight trends on a downward course then we're doing well! Picking a day to start from is a good idea 😊 but realistically there will still be wobbles we have to let go and forgive and move on.

Weigh in day for me today - have lost 2lbs. Also we went out for breakfast yesterday. I wonder if it would have been 3lbs otherwise 😂 CD1 for me today as AF has started. So I have to be happy with my 2lbs as I would usually gain 1-3lbs on day 1. I want to lose 6lbs more then I'll be calling my GP to arrange my fertility referral appointment 😬 hopefully by the end of Feb I'll be there. Then I'll need to lose another 2 stone but can so that whilst waiting to get to IVF stage.

@WeightlossKin well done on 2lb loss, that's awesome! Especially as you've been unwell and just started your period. You can definitely get the 6lb loss (maybe even more!) to get to your goal for the referral. You're so close now, and then when you get referred it'll spur you on to lose that final chunk to get the ivf. You can totally do it!
I think if my dr referred us, I'd feel more spurred on and stick to it all.

Yeah, I agree that life will always get in the way and I'm never be 100% perfect but I think I'd convinced myself I was doing enough to see changes when actually I haven't been. So I've had a word with myself (a very strongly filled expletives word😂) and I've realised I've had enough of doing things half arsed. So no more! Next week brings my new fresh outlook of "quit pretending and just f*cking do it", and with it (fingers crossed 🤞🏻) a new downward and consistent trend of weight loss!

Thanks @Lakyta1717! It does really help. I think I'll feel a weight lifted quite literally when we've had our referral. It makes me sad it's not the same all around. I'm expecting we'll have to have extra tests etc. as well which will help the time pass and make me feel like things are happening at least!

For absolutely ages I felt like I was trying "as hard as possible" but came to the realisation that actually, I was still eating whatever I wanted, I was just torturing myself about the decision to do so - and the angst is what made me feel I was 'trying'. I think you need to go through the half-assed bit beforehand to give you a kick up the ass. So it's a good thing really and a great point to reach!

I'm excited for us all, we can definitely do this and will get there 💪

I'm not having a good diet day 😬
I've got a previous injury which had flared up making it painful to move about, and I've got terrible period cramps! I've eaten a piece of toast for brekkie and two pitta breads for lunch... With veg sticks, not that that takes away from the bread 😳 I'm not even going to be able to exercise this evening as I had planned.

Hey both

Sorry I haven’t messaged on here in ages have just been really low and tbh just avoiding everything. I’ve had a bad week with food and exercise, I didn’t end up having the PT session as I managed to catch sinusitis from when I visited the hospital. I spoke to the doctor about my mood and she did recommend starting sertraline but she said it can increase your appetite a lot which has put me off majorly. I have an appointment with my endocrinologist in a few weeks and he said there may be an injection I can try that might help with the weight loss - but if I take it I have to be strict on low carb and hardly any sugar etc which I plan to do anyway so will see after I’ve had a proper chat with him. I think I’m just allowing myself to feel down and saying to myself it’s okay we will start again. From Monday I’m going to try be strict again - I’ve been really good with lunches and dinners but I’ve been awful with snacking, have had way too much chocolate and biscuits lately.

@WeightlossKin you have to be kind to yourself, if you’re in pain and not feeling very well you have to have what your body needs and if it’s those carbs that’s okay, you’ll get back to it ☺️ we all have those days you’re not alone - I’ve had a whole week of it! And you’ve done amazing so far - always always remember how far you’ve come.

@Lakyta1717 I’m going to try follow you on the outlook! We can all do it I’m sure of it ☺️ It’s so nice to have you both around to just talk about all this

Hey @Hjklasdfg I don't blame you. I've also had a week like that. One thing after another this week and then the piece de resistance is getting bloody covid 🤦🏼‍♀️ sinusitis is awful, so don't blame you not doing PT sessions! I'm all for medication for mental health, but will say that a lot of them are linked to increased appetite or slower metabolism, so it's a tough decision to make.

We all need to look after ourselves if we need it, there's no shame in the biscuits or the carbs if that's what we feel we need. So long as we don't massively over do it, it's not that big a deal at the end of the day. We need to be gentle with ourselves and not forget how well we've done so far.

I'm always here if you need to chat, it's good to know people have got your back and understand what you're going through.

@Lakyta1717 oh bless you, not what you need! Hope the symptoms aren’t too bad and it clears quick 🤞 yeah I was just drained so didn’t want to do it and potentially have a bad experience. Yeah I’m put off by the tablets if I’m honest, just too many side effects that could mess with progress etc. I know I’ll be okay just hard to get out of the mood.

I think you’re completely right, we just need to be more kind to ourselves life gets in the way and that’s okay as long as we get back to being good. Plus too much restriction can end up wanting something more.

Thank you! Likewise to you ☺️

Sorry to hear you've both had difficult weeks and been poorly! I didn't know that was a side effect of sertraline. How counter productive for your situation! However, if you're doing a lot of emotional response eating (who are these people who claim to never do this?!) Then maybe it would balance out because your appetite would increase but your need to comfort eat would reduce and you'd be able to fill up on healthy choices?? Not sure if it would work that way but just to put another spin on it for you. Do you think knowing you have to stick to low carb because of the injection would make you stick to it?

The main thing is picking ourselves up and never giving up with trying to make progress. ❤️

I'm having a huge emotional wobble about a pregnancy announcement today + two more I am almost sure are on the way. Isn't it awful to just worry all the time about the next person who is going to ruin your day with their really happy news? I feel absolutely exhausted with it all and could cry all day. I'm so sad and feel so alone. I don't want to speak to anyone ever again right now. I'm so far away from a baby. Sometimes it really just squashes me. It feels so unfair.

@WeightlossKin pregnancy announcements are so hard. I dread them. And when people don't know/get what you're going through, it can be a hundred times harder.
Allow yourself to be upset, you're allowed to be jealous and angry about your situation, but don't let it fester. Speaking from experience, wallowing in it and letting it fester makes it so much harder to cope with - I spent the whole of last year getting irrationally angry at one of my closest friends and still struggle with her now. She's not aware of how I felt, but I know it's changed our friendship and makes me feel like a crappy person feeling how I did for so long.

I may have had a truly crappy week (I am so relieved it's Sunday and a new week tomorrow!) but by some miracle, I've lost 1.1kg this week! Which I'm over the moon about. I definitely feel crap with covid, so hoping it doesn't get worse because I'd like to try to do some exercise while I'm isolating. But I'm also going to rest when I need it and not push myself too much - made that mistake when I got covid last year and it took me months to recover. Don't want to go through that again!

Hope everyone's doing as okay as can be x

I meant jealous and angry about their situation not your 🤦🏼‍♀️ bloody covid confused brain!

@WeightlossKin I think I’m the opposite with emotions which is worse 🤦🏽‍♀️ I eat less which isn’t good for me either. I think cos I know what I need to do I just need to start doing it and stop caving in so much as something here and something there does add up.

Yeah I think I’m more likely to stick to it as the side effects are bad if I don’t and I’ve managed to for the most part get my IBS under control, last thing I’d want is to flare that up too - funnily enough low sugar and low carbs does wonders for my digestive system.

Oh bless you, you’re not alone you have us. It’s so so hard though, life can be so unfair, my mum was saying the same the other day she was like how come this person can have babies so easily but it’s not happened for you yet etc but she’s strongly religious so she’s all the more you pray the more chance it will happen and I’ll be honest I’m having a huge crisis of faith as it shouldn’t be this hard. But all those feelings your feeling are valid and it’s okay to feel that way, a lot of people don’t understand unfortunately but if you ever want to just rant or get it out the system comment on here or message us, we’re here for you. I hope you have a brighter day today and if you don’t that’s okay ☀️

@Lakyta1717 well done on the weight loss! But definitely take it easy and look after yourself. Really hope you’re feeling better soon.

I am officially the only non mother / non pregnant person I know IRL and have had an emotional breakdown for the last 24 hours. It's taken all day and a heart to heart with a lovely motherly colleague to get me to a point where I can acknowledge anything else.
Everything got worse after I messaged here and I turned my phone off for a day to cry.
Three pregnancy announcements in one weekend almost killed me off, not going to lie. But here I am, about to do 30/45 minutes of exercise after work. On the bright side there's no one else in my life that can surprise me with a baby? Unless people start having no.3... 😬

I do think that saying it'll happen when it's meant to etc. And it's all in God's hands is painful rather than helpful. I think it's only years later when you've got a child that you can look back and see why things have happened the way they did - that's why older people always say this, because they've got the experience and hindsight to see those things in their own experiences.

I have been emotionally broken but I'm still alive.

Thanks ladies for being there, I really appreciate it. It is really helpful to know I'm not alone ❤️
Really self indulgent post. I'll stop being so self obsessive.

@Lakyta1717 that's a fantastic weight loss well done! After a crappy week as well. You must be doing all the right things!

@Hjklasdfg I hope you get to try that injection, sometimes we do just need that extra push to help us. Having a crisis of faith is understandable in my opinion but must feel difficult and distressing. No words of wisdom but a big hug ❤️ how people keep their faith through such struggles is beyond me.

Hope you've both had a good start to the week.
Oh I lost half a pound this week, wish it had been more but by the time I weighed in I didn't care 😂 that's one upside I guess. Xx

@WeightlossKin I know exactly how you feel. Other than my two best friends from back home (who's adamant on no kids and her husband has had the snip. They're both very much not kid people, but have fur babies instead. The other couple are lesbians and also very much lot interested in having kids ever) everyone else I know has had/is having a kid. I feel like I now have a reprieve of announcements because there's literally no one else left unless they have another child. At this point I'm the only female on my department who isn't pregnant/has a kid. It bloody sucks and I don't blame you for having a break down (been there myself!). I'm glad you've come back and you're already prepared to just keep going. Hope the exercise helped you get out of some of the emotions too. You're a hella strong woman for picking yourself up and dusting yourself off ❤️

@Hjklasdfg I'm not religious at all, but my husband is. I know he felt the same as you at times. It's only after so long (and it has been so so, so long!) where he's come to terms with things. You're allowed to have a wobble and question things, that's what makes us human in my opinion. Know that this isn't a punishment, it's just something that we have to get through, and we all will one day soon.
We still look at other couples and wonder why they get to be pregnant and not us, but we know we'll have our family one day, one way or another. We accept it's not our fault, it just is what it is. I always think that I'm lucky that science has advanced enough that even if we can't conceive naturally, we can have a baby by science. Which is amazing, not so long ago, that wouldn't have been an option. My brother is an IVF baby and I constantly remind myself that without science, he wouldn't exist!

I'm on day 2 of isolation - going stir crazy, feel like crap and miss the outside world already 😂 on the plus side, I've done some arts and crafts to keep myself busy and I've enjoyed the much needed naps!

It's such an upsetting thing isn't it? With the way my life is right now I wouldnt be surprised if I knew a lesbian couple who managed to get pregnant without trying 😂 a reprieve from announcements sounds a bonus of the situation I guess.
I'm the youngest person at work. The next youngest is 37 and has just had her second baby. I try to use that in my head as a reminder that I'm not too old? I turn 32 in March and I don't want to celebrate. It feels like celebrating another year of not having a baby 🤦

I'm so grateful IVF is an option (or at least hopeful that it is anyway! Won't know until we really get there as we've only had basic tests done by GP). If science wasn't so amazing where would we be really? Buying sperm on the internet to try that instead 😂 lovely.
Ivf is probably a gift from God. Not that I am religious but I do believe in a "something". And IVF science is so amazing and magical.
I'm feeling much better today and more positive. Started the day with some vigorous exercise 💪 would be thrilled with a 2lb loss this week 🤞🤞
How many days of isolating is it now with covid?? I've lost track as it keeps changing. I hope you continue to manage it well with hobbies etc. Are you managing to keep food on track whilst in captivity? My boredom often results in eating!

Thank you both for keeping me going. I feel much stronger knowing you're there!

I did have one lesbians couple get pregnant before me - but via IVF obviously 😂 but they were lovely and never spoke in front of me, told me on my own so no one could see my reaction and stuff. So I coped with that just about. She also felt awful because she knew our situation and felt horrible that she'd gotten IVF before me, but that's the perks of being able to afford private!
My mum had my younger brother when she was 42 (natural conception, it was my dads son who was conceived via IVF), so you're definitely not too old turning 32!

It's 5 days, then tests on day 5/6 and if you get two negative, you can go out day 6. But I have to wait til the 2 days negative in a row. So earliest possible day of freedom is Friday. Thankfully, my husband did tons of meal prep on the weekend and he's been off this week, so we've actually eaten way better than normal! He's encouraged me to get into the habit of meal prepping on Sundays so it's done for the week and all we have to do is reheat or defrost food throughout the week.

Well done for starting your day with exercise, that's awesome and I don't know about you, but I'm loathe to ruin my day by eating off plan once I've exercised so it helps me food wise too.

Ah that's so difficult. I'm not sure I deal with any of these announcements well anymore 🙁 but on the other hand I hate that anyone has to go through this crap and wouldn't wish it on anyone. So I can't have it both ways! I'd love to be able to afford to go private.

Oh fingers crossed for Friday freedom for you! That's amazing you've been eating better at home 😊 that sounds like a good idea re. Planning and prepping for the week ahead. That sounds like a lot of work to do on a Sunday but great if you can manage it.

Exercise either works in a 'i can't ruin my effort' way or 'I have already burnt off this chocolate so it won't hurt' 😂 trying to aim for the first of the two!! 5 weeks ish until I'm 32 and would really like my referral appointment at least booked in by then so that's what I'll think about when I want chocolate.

Hey both, again been so terrible commenting.

Somehow that sinusitis I thought I got rid of has come back round and I’m really unwell again, can’t seem to catch a break and always feel like I’m complaining on here which I know isn’t healthy either.

@WeightlossKin it’s so hard when so many people are pregnant and it is that frustrating thing of why not us? I feel like every relative recently had either got pregnant or just had a baby and just finding it hard as south Asians have no filter when it comes to asking about children etc. I keep feeling like saying it’s not happened yet it’s obviously for a reason please stop asking!
Glad you’re feeling much better and more positive, sometimes we just need to breathe through those bad days to get to the other side and you’re not that old honestly you’ll get there I know you will. I have faith in all of us!!

@Lakyta1717 bless you, hope the isolation isn’t driving you too crazy! Glad you’ve been eating well it always helps ☺️ And yes I do still believe everything happens for a reason and sometimes we won’t know that reason until years to come. I’m trying to keep faith but I’ve always been wavered from it at hard times. It is so lucky that we have IVF now as an option and on the NHS if we meet criteria. I don’t know how people in other parts of the country cope, life is expensive as it is. Always appreciative of the NHS.

I think I’m going to stop pushing myself to eat healthy/exercise until I’ve had my appointment with the endocrinologist in two weeks and start from there. I have been eating well so that’s something I guess, just haven’t been moving much cos I’ve been so ill.

Hope you’re both having a good week we can do this