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IVF August/September cycle buddies

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foodiefil · 01/06/2021 17:46

Starting this thread early!

We've just booked for our second round to start August 2nd with egg collection September 8th.

I was on the Jan/Feb thread earlier this year.

Come join me :)

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MollyVanDer · 07/09/2021 19:55

Unfortunately we did a test this evening and it confirm BFN. Gutted.

Gensola · 07/09/2021 20:12

@MollyVanDer oh no, I’m so so sorry. Was it an FET? It’s worth testing tomorrow just in case. Sending so much love, I have been there twice with my two embryos from cycle 1 and it was just so shit. Take care of yourself x

MollyVanDer · 07/09/2021 20:21

Thanks @Gensola fresh embryo transfer I'm day 29 and my period usually comes day 24-28 so I took a test that you take when you are late the digital clear blue ones that give you weeks and it flashed for 3 mins and said not pregnant. It's a test you can take anytime of day if your period is late.

I started to get a bad feeling when I started spotting 3 days ago...unfortunately not meant to be for me this time.

I hope everyone else is okay

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foodiefil · 07/09/2021 20:44

Really sorry @MollyVanDer

I know that feeling. Take time to look after yourself and grieve for what could have been. This is a hard time and you need to look after yourself and then think about next steps later.

Lots of love xxxx

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MollyVanDer · 07/09/2021 21:44

Does anyone know how long you wait between cycles? I didn't get any frozen embryos so I'd be starting from scratch x

Gensola · 07/09/2021 21:51

@MollyVanDer my clinic make you wait the bleed after the transfer and then one further bleed, so they’d be happy to start you again in October, I think all clinics are slightly different.
I hope you have some nice treats/distractions lined up and that your DW can be with you for support Flowers

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foodiefil · 07/09/2021 21:59

@MollyVanDer same as @Gensola

My clinic said they’d want me to have one “normal” period before starting another cycle.

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MollyVanDer · 07/09/2021 22:10

Thank you @Gensola and @foodiefil we hope to start this side of Christmas. A day at the beach planned tomorrow to clear the head. Both me and DW have the day off. Thanks for your support x

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foodiefil · 07/09/2021 22:18

That sounds lovely. Chips and ice cream. If it was me anyway! Hope you’re both ok @MollyVanDer

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beachbum85 · 07/09/2021 23:25

I'm so, so sorry @MollyVanDer - it's just really hard :( sending you lots of love - enjoy your day at the beach and take care of each other xx

Our clinic asked us to wait for the withdrawal bleed and 2 periods, but it was between 2 fresh cycles. I really hope you can get started again this year!

KatRee · 08/09/2021 06:24

I'm sorry @MollyVanDer
I did the same as you and tested yesterday evening. Then again with FRER just now to be sure. Both BFN

It really sucks

@Hansoo - really hope that you get good news today xx

SerendipitySunshine · 08/09/2021 06:36

Sorry to hear that @Katree - sending lots of love.

Gensola · 08/09/2021 06:42

@KatRee I’m so sorry Sad this process is so cruel and unfair. So much love and sympathy x

MollyVanDer · 08/09/2021 06:54

I'm so sorry @KatRee it's heart breaking. Sending you a lot of love today. Our time will come x

99pctpractice · 08/09/2021 07:34

@KatRee and @MollyVanDer I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending you lots of hugs and hoping you don’t feel too demoralised. It’s such a hard process to go through physically and emotionally. I hope you can give yourself some time to feel sad about it. Good luck @hansoo all fingers crossed for you this morning

Hansoo · 08/09/2021 07:58

I'm so sorry to hear your news.

KatRee · 08/09/2021 08:12

Thanks for the virtual hugs all.
Demoralised is exactly the word.
I feel like I need a really good cry but the tears won't come.
Yesterday a colleague confided in me that she was pregnant with her first child. She is 38, so just a few months older than me, just got married for the 2nd time in May and was worried she might be too late to have children. She must have caught the very first month they tried. I'm really happy for her, she genuinely deserves it as she's been through a lot of crap in the past. But I just found it so hard to process how it can be so easy for some people and yet so impossible for others. It just doesn't make sense.

I really hope we get lots more BFPs on this thread - I wish it was simple for all of us

2mumsandason · 08/09/2021 08:31

I'm so sorry @KatRee and @MollyVanDer. I hope you are both ok - sending you lots of love xx

MollyVanDer · 08/09/2021 08:59

Sending @Hansoo lots of positivity today x

beachbum85 · 08/09/2021 09:44

I'm so, so sorry @KatRee - it really is so tough, especially when you see how easy it comes to others. I totally empathise and send lots of love and a huge hug too. Take all the time you need to grieve and take care of yourself xx

beachbum85 · 08/09/2021 09:45

Thinking of you @Hansoo xx

ngy21 · 08/09/2021 09:46

@KatRee @MollyVanDer i'm so sorry. Thinking of you both and sending lots of love.
@Hansoo good luck for you today

MollyVanDer · 08/09/2021 10:26

Thanks for all the messages of support it's really appreciated. Hoping those on other stages of their journey are doing okay today x

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foodiefil · 08/09/2021 12:38

@KatRee so sorry to hear this. I remember that bfn feeling. You kind of don’t want to believe it’s real at first then it sinks in.

It’s so much worse than someone who is trying naturally and gets a bfn because of all the work we’ve put in to that point.

Go easy for a bit but your time will come. Lots of love

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Goldilocks2528 · 08/09/2021 12:59

I am so sorry @MollyVanDer and @KatRee Sad Sad Sending you both lots of love x