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Infertility investigations/IVF in Scotland - thread 2

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Kitekat81 · 17/01/2021 20:41

A thread for those who are undergoing infertility investigations / IVF in Scotland 🙂

OP posts:
conall · 01/02/2021 13:05

@willithappen aww sorry to hear your going through that as well. I think men like to keep their feelings in and I'm like you where I just keep him up to date on what's going on. I think he feels guilt because it's male infertility that's the problem but I don't blame him at all - I know it's a journey and lots of people struggle and I'd hate for him to think I 'blame' him because if I was the one who had the issue, I wouldn't want him to resent me for that either. I think we all struggle or deal with things in our own way. I like to just keep going and research things - I've found some great YouTube videos that I've watched but I like the more community aspect or one-on-one conversations as well. Hopefully this will be the year for us all though!

jonrik · 01/02/2021 13:09

Soooo, I'm officially housing a wee embryo Grin of our 9 fertilised eggs we had 2 top quality blastocysts, 1 transferred, 1 for the freezer. Another 3 are at the stage just before blastocyst and they're giving them another day to come on. With a bit of luck we get another few to freeze tomorrow. Well chuffed with this. Thanks for all the positive thoughts everyone!

LabradorMum · 01/02/2021 13:17

Awww @jonrik I’m so chuffed for you that’s amazing news what a brilliant outcome you have had 😁

@conall it’s so hard not to get sucked into researching and and analysing everything isn’t it. Yes 2021 has to be a good year come on 😳

willithappen · 01/02/2021 13:49

Amazing @jonrik congrats on being PUPO! I have everything crossed for a sticky for you!!
When is test day?

jonrik · 01/02/2021 13:54

Friday in a week. No way I'm waiting to that though! I got a bunch of tests at home

willithappen · 01/02/2021 13:55

Ahh that's not too long! What day are you going to do a home test?

jonrik · 01/02/2021 13:58

Probably this weekend I reckon. Might be a bit early but I got a handful of them so might as well :) plus I didn't get an hcg shot with transfer so no chance of false positives

conall · 01/02/2021 14:22

@jonrik sending you positive vibes! It must be so exciting and nerve wracking!

Kamiros · 01/02/2021 14:27

Congrats @jonrik- so pleased for you.

pixelflower · 01/02/2021 15:22

@florafoxtrot glad it made someone else smile. I started a new account on Instagram to follow infertility accounts and think that, along with here, helps. Also, unless I actually know different, I've told myself that everyone I know getting pregnant has had problems, just they're like me and haven't mentioned it.

@willithappen sorry you had a tough weekend. I know our partners have their own worries and feelings but it's frustrating that they can't seem to understand ours. As for side effects I'm only on day 3 but nothing obvious.

@LabradorMum sounds like you made the right decision for you. Sorry to hear you've got added stress and worries.

@conall Welcome to the thread 😊

@jonrik so glad everything went well and fingers crossed for tomorrow. So excited for you, you're PUPO!

unknownscot · 01/02/2021 16:08

For those at Glasgow Royal - does anyone know who is getting their ART appointments just now? We were added to IVF list in March 2020

Tofu35 · 01/02/2021 17:25

Yay @jonrik glad it went well today :)

jonrik · 02/02/2021 09:43

I just received my day 6 call. On day 5 we had 1 transferred, 1 frozen and 3 were left for another day. Of those 3, one more made it so we got two in the freezer in total today. That's great news, very happy with that Smile

willithappen · 02/02/2021 09:54

Aww amazing news @jonrik what a good feeling that just be knowing you have in the freezer! So chuffed for you!

theotherfossilsister · 02/02/2021 11:44

Hello, please can I join? Been on threads with a few of you already and it's good to see familiar names.

We had our initial appointment in Edinburgh last month, and were transferred for ICSI right away which was a surprise. The lovely consultant also said that with dp's results it isn't at all likely to happen naturally, although there is a tiny chance. We should be starting treatment at EFREC in the autumn when we will both be thirty six.

Just waiting on my first period since appointment and feeling really down. A good friend bus pregnant with her second and when she told me she said she knows how I feel because this time she had to try three months to conceive. Three months! She's one of my oldest friends to the point where we have had weird telepathy like things in the past, ie. I have dreams if she's struggling with something and vice versa wherever in the world we both are. I know that sounds a bit woo but it's true so don't want to throw the friendship away. I just feel so angry everytime I think of it and so sad that she has no understanding of IVF or infertility.

I'm terrified ICSI won't work as dp is making so few lifestyle changes. He thinks he is healthy but only exercises once a week, and is nearly obese. Sometimes I get irrationality angry with him for putting me through two years of trying and the hell that entails. I couldn't sleep last night for worry.

Sorry if this is whingy. It's good to see people here.

@Jonrik amazing news and I hope she/he stays.

conall · 02/02/2021 12:46

Hi @theotherfossilsister I'm waiting to get referred to ERI. How long did it take from when you got referred to Edinburgh to the point you seen someone at the clinic?
I know what you mean about your DH mine is just the same - I'm having to do all these different lifestyle changes and it's hard when he's not having to do anything. I'm on quite a strict diet right now to lower my BMI before we get referred to ERI and he's enjoying pizzas and all the fun stuff every night, it's hard not to get angry over that.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend - that must be really hard for you especially coming from someone you are so close too but hopefully your friendship will get better, it's hard because sometimes people think they are trying to be helpful or understanding but it's not like that for you. I don't think people who haven't or aren't on this journey know how hard it is physically, emotionally, mentally and sometimes financially and they end up saying stupid stuff.

theotherfossilsister · 02/02/2021 12:58

Hi @conall

We were originally referefed in August then dp needed two sperm analysis, I had had my progesterone done in march pre Covid. I then had to have Chlamydia test and smear and find dates of stuff like mmri injection and send off a form and this all took until November. They don't make the referral live until they have the form. It was then about two months from then.

It is hard to see partner not trying. I'm hoping mine will make an effort now.

conall · 02/02/2021 13:19

@theotherfossilsister thanks for the info! My DH has had two SA but they were done in 2019 so I don't know if he'll have to do them again now, I didn't have to do progesterone and I've done a lot of bloods, I had to take urine samples for 8 weeks to check if I was ovulating, etc so I'm hoping when we do get referred then we won't need to go through that process again. Is the forms you mentioned for funding?

Hopefully he will make more of an effort now that it's getting closer for the both of you! My DH has to give up vaping so I'm hoping once I have my appointment with the gyno then he will just quit then, I've said he needs to go down on his strength now though.

pixelflower · 03/02/2021 20:59

How is everyone doing? I'm feeling excited, week today and I'll have been for my baseline scan. Husband keeps asking/checking what days he needs off work but can't tell him the only one he really needs 🤦

willithappen · 03/02/2021 23:43

All good here! A week Friday will be mine! Super excited

jonrik · 04/02/2021 07:55

I'm doing alright so far. Today is a good day. I finished my cyclogest package 1 of 2! Yay, half way through.
3dp5dt today. So far I've had no symptoms whatsoever. I thought I may have felt a twitch or two yesterday but it's more than likely I'm starting to imagine things due to severe concentration on any sensation.

jonrik · 04/02/2021 07:57

Oops, wasn't finished yet. How are you guys doing? Not too many things happening at the moment it seems.
I do appreciate the booking time off when you don't know when for is hard. I really struggled with that also. Hopefully that's only once or twice. I went to ET myself and that was totally fine but for EC there's just no option

florafoxtrot · 04/02/2021 11:14

Just catching up!

Welcome @conall and @theotherfossilsister. I'm sorry you've found yourselves here but it is totally invaluable to get support (particularly if friends in real life really do not get it!) Hope neither of you are waiting too long to progress.

Great news on the frosties @jonrik! Fingers crossed for you for testing if you decide to do so this weekend.

That is a great attitude towards baby bombs @pixelflower! I think a bit of a struggle really is more common than we think. I've acknowledged it on more than one occasion online and in real life and there is usually someone that will sympathize having been there too.
Absolutely nothing happening here, we knew we'd have a couple of months after the referral was made so trying naturally I suppose Hmm we are both trying to be a bit more aware of lifestyle changes so at least feels like we are doing something. I'm quite up and down at the moment just generally. Bloody lockdown!

Tofu35 · 04/02/2021 11:40

Hey folks, husband going for his next SA test today- then next month we're getting a phonecall with the fertility clinic (with both of us there) to talk about options in relation to the tests we've had done already.
Last time his morphology was 2% so he's hoping this has improved. Fingers crossed!

pixelflower · 04/02/2021 13:38

@willithappen It's weird, exciting, but not really anything to talk about 🤣 Feel like it's the run up to Christmas or something.

@jonrik halfway! Glad you're doing ok so far. You finding things to distract you?
I actually got really lucky and only one appointment was going to be a problem with work but I got a swap so all good. He's spoken to his boss and just said I have a procedure under anaesthetic and can't drive so he'll need a day off, but I don't have a date yet. One benefit of Covid is he can't really ask if someone else can take me.

@florafoxtrot yeah, think there's quite a lot of things that people don't talk about till they're out of it, or someone else brings it up. Lockdown definitely makes for loads of ups and downs.

@Tofu35 fingers crossed for an improvement 🤞🤞🤞