IVF Nov/Dec cycle buddies - part 2

[BrandyM]

@ivfhope3
@MF1981
@81Poppy
@Jane1284
@lucymills1234
@Roo45
@dragonfly1978
@EasterBunny7
@Emmalouise11
@Gensola
@IslandStars
@Luludarty

Congrats @BrandyM and @MrsF1989 xx

@BrandyM thank you. Oh im so worried, I havent fully accepted it yet. I think I'm going to try not to get overly excited until the scan... which will be hard and will feel long. My lines aren't as dark as yours, so am very much still questioning if its going to stick around... but will test again tomorrow which will be 13dp5dt. The clinic didn't tell me how far along, however, as I understand it, its from the first day of your last period, so I'd be 4 weeks. Eekk. What an emotional rollercoaster thjs week has been after thinking on Monday it had failed and spending the whole day crying. Just goes to show, testing too early, js definitely not a good idea 🙈. Do your clinic do a blood test? Xx

@MrsF1989 ahhh lovely news! Congratulations!

@Gensola thank you... still a long long way to go 🙏 xx

Thanks so much @Roo45. How are you doing? Did you hear from your clinic on next steps or are you taking a break for now xxx

Congratulations @MrsF1989 & @BrandyM xx

@Emmalouise11 exciting to have someone doing an FET at the same time! What drugs will you be on? It looks like I’ll have fyremadel and progynova to start with. Can’t wait to get going!

@Roo45 I'm keen to just get on with it if I can, I'm naturally quite an anxious person and I think waiting will make things worse. My consultant told me about a week ago they would speak to the embryologist first and get back to me, might contact the clinic if I don't hear anything in the next few days xx

Sorry @BrandyM !! (🤦)

@Gensola I think I’ll just be on progynova, don’t think I’m injecting with it, not sure why not.. will ask on Tuesday when I call to order medication.

@Gensola we're going to be cycle buddies by the looks of it aswell. How are you feeling xx

@Mancbear88 I’m so sorry about your BFN. I know it’s not a consolation right now but you have some fantastic Frosties waiting for you. Hope you’re doing ok x

@BrandyM @MrsF1989 wowwwww massive congratulations! So happy for you both. Let us know how you get on with scans and so on x

@ivftake3 I’m impatient mostly I was devastated when they cancelled my fresh transfer and I just really want to get on with it. Waiting for the prescription to come on Monday so I can order my drugs. Then the next thing will be hoping AF comes on time! I’m worried it will come early before the clinic have organised the drugs.

@BrandyM do you find our clinic poor for admin? I can’t fault the medical care but feel it’s always a huge struggle to get information/start a cycle/get things sorted and if I didn’t chase and hassle nothing would happen!

@ShiMo thank you, I’m surprisingly ok I think, I’m just hoping I can go again soon and the next one is our sticky bean. My husband is quite upset, I think after the year we’ve had (miscarriage, 1 cycle cancelled 1 before transfer due to Covid and 1 cancelled due to a clinic miscommunication) he felt that maybe it was time for a bit of luck!!

I was reading Izzy Jude’s book and she says after they lost their first IVF baby her husband said to her ‘worse case scenario it’s just me and you and that’s great too’ which is a nice way to look at it.

Also the FET itself even on 4x the oestrogen dose is really easy compared to the IVF I can easily do that again! Fingers crossed I can transfer again in Jan/Feb!

@Gensola There had been a couple of minor instances (where they got confused and gave misleading information when we asked for something they didn’t routinely do, e.g. DHEA blood test) but for the routine stuff we thought they were spot on.

It might be that we’re comparing them to another clinic that we nearly went with but decided not to as they drove us nuts with their lack of response, talked down at us and took forever to answer calls (as they used call centres). It was refreshing when we switched to Oxf Fert.

Because we switched to Oxf Fert late in my cycle with my day 21 fast approaching, they expedited my drug orders with amazing speed (despite me asking them to change the prescription twice, once for the progesterone and a second time for the down-regulation one).

I wonder if my experience would’ve been different if I had to do freeze all as well? Or did you have the same issue even with the fresh cycle?

If it continues to be an issue, I’d ask to speak to the manager. It’s really frustrating when they add unnecessary stress to an already stressful process.

Hope it gets easier from for you from here on xxx

@ShiMo thanks very much😊 Tested again today and it's still positive which is reassuring. Hope it'll still be positive tomorrow (OTD).

How are you doing? Did you do a 3 day transfer in the end or going or day 5? Sorry had a busy week at work last week and haven't been keeping up. Xxx

@MrsF1989 my clinic don't routinely do blood tests. I'm going to ask for it tomorrow though and 48 hours later to see if the HCG is doubling as it should.

How did your test go this morning and how are you feeling in general? I feel unbelievably fatigued. Can't rest and sleep enough! I'm glad I'm off work from Friday till the new year.

Also, I thought having a BFP means I'd stop stressing. I was so wrong! The worry just never stops does it? I'm now worried that it'll be chemical pregnancy or something will go wrong before or at the 6 week scan. What a rollercoaster it all is. I think the only time I can relax might be at the 12 week mark (if I make it there). Xxx

@BrandyM yes, definitely still feel on edge, especially as I have zero symptoms other than slight fatigue. I did another two tests this morning (different brands) and the lines were definitely darker than Thurs/Friday, so that's made me feel a lot better. I'm not going to test anymore now and have decided not to ask for a blood test, because I think that will be another thing to obsess about. Going to accept i am pregnant and there's no reason why mine shouldn't develop as a natural pregnancy would. I can also get too obsessive 🤣🙈. I've also been dreaming of this for a couple of years, so don't want to ruin it...So I am taking the mindset of being super grateful that I'm at this point and praying he/she makes it! 🙏 xxx

Did everyone experience really bad an I mean bad mood swings!!

@Mancbear88 ah I’m sorry your hubby has taken it so hard. I’m so impressed by your outlook on all this, it’s very inspiring!

@BrandyM thanks, well it’s a long story....! I am currently 2dp3dt. Unfortunately, all 3 of my embryos were poor quality on day 3, I actually sobbed when they rang. What are the chances all of them would be poor?!

They gave me the option to transfer 2 on day 3 or leave them until day 5 but warned it was unlikely they’d get to blastocyst and we’d lose them all. So hubby and I decided to transfer the two and the third would be left to see if it would develop more in the lab. They wouldn’t normally transfer 2 at my age (I’m 34) and when I called back to confirm that’s how we would like to proceed, they said it was probably the better choice.

I was still visibly upset by the time I got there for transfer and the staff were so, so lovely. They said all the right things and tried their best to make me feel better, saying they have seen poor quality day 3 ones go on to become healthy babies, but I just know it’s very, very unlikely. DH has suggested we should be getting used to the idea that this round has failed so that we aren’t too upset on OTD. I know what he means.

Our third embryo hasn’t made it to blast yet and today is day 5, the lab are going to leave it one more day and let me know tomorrow which will be day 6. That’s looking like it might not make it but it was still developing very slowly. At least that one hadn’t arrested yet which is what I was certain would happen, so that was a slightly positive spin on all this!

Sorry I sound so miserable, it’s been a tough few days! Xx

I'm so sorry @ShiMo and I hope that these stick! I ended up in a similar situation at day 5 with only 2 poor quality embryos and I was so upset. I ended up posting a thread asking about success stories of poor quality embryos and got quite a few positive responses! Thinking of you xx

@Roo45 Ooh yes, I will have a search. Thanks so much, hope all is well with you xx

Morning girls

So happy to see your news @BrandyM and @MrsF1989 - gives me hope that I might get there at some point if I keep trying. Sending all the luck for your first scans in a couple of weeks.

So sorry you have had a tough few days @ShiMo - I really hope your 2 stick!

I'm not doing great. I've had a weekend off the internet after feeling like my mental health was on a knife edge end of last week. Had a bit of a breakdown yesterday after a friend let me down. Was in tears after being relatively good at holding it together through this journey. I think at some point it all just got too much. My OTD is Wednesday but I can feel inside that I am not pregnant. I have zero symptoms anymore. Not even tender breasts or slight stomach cramps. Part of me is tempted to test tomorrow just to put myself out of my misery. It is my birthday on Sunday so I am hoping to celebrate with a glass or two of wine but even that is struggling to perk me up. This year has been a massive turd. Sorry to be so down. I know I will pick myself back up and do it all again next year.

I hope everyone is feeling good. Sending lots of love xx

@Jane1284 sorry you're feeling so down, it really is such a hard process. But I really do urge you not to test early, I did that because I didn't "feel" pregnant, my boobs stopped hurting, I then tested it was negative, I then started bleeding (although very lightly), had week of feeling broken hearted, then wheen it came to test day, I was actually pregnant. I am no 14 days since transfer (4 weeks and 2 days pregnant) and zero symptoms, aside from maybe slight fatigue. So try not to read too much into it xxx