Hi @Unicorn9 you've really tried so much, you must be at the end of your tether. All I can say about not hearing from your consultant is don't let that be the end of it - call in and ask for an appointment. If I didn't contact my clinic I don't think I would hear from them, either. When you're paying you expect a level of attention but in my experience you still have to be the one driving everything forward. Even if you have a great consultant, no one is going to care more about the outcome of your treatment than you so though you shouldn't have to push, I personally feel you have to be your own advocate.
I really didn't have a good day yesterday. I did have an embryo transferred, a 4AB, so there is some hope, I guess, but I walked out of the clinic feeling really disappointed and deflated which is never a good start.
When I went into the room for transfer, the embryologist came and told me that the first embryo they thawed (a 5BB) didn't survive. My clinic has a 98% success rate with thawing so it's rotten luck that I fell in the 2%. It was a blow, but I knew it could happen. But it got worse... I only got two blasts from my first round last year, a 5AA I transferred fresh and one that was frozen. They told me yesterday that the second should never have been frozen. It's what's called triploid, when two sperm get to the egg at the same time. That makes it totally non-viable (it will have two sets of chromosomes). It was their mistake, as they missed it, and froze the blast.
So I went in thinking I had four blasts, one to be transferred yesterday and three remaining. After a five minute conversation that halved to two in total. The thaw issue was a shock though you know it can happen, but at this point you really don't expect to hear that one of your blasts is not viable. You go through so much from the no of eggs collected to fertilised to day 5 that once you get blasts, you think that every one is a real chance.
I also paid to have that blast frozen last year (it was the only one as I said) for nothing. But more than that it's the mental distress and also, all further treatment was based on the 'fact' I got two blasts. As it happens, I actually got more on my second round, but perhaps only getting one should or would have changed the advice of what I did next.
I know mistakes happen, and they admit it's their mistake, but it's crap and has really knocked my confidence. Because not only was it missed when it was frozen, I've since had several FETs when they've reviewed all blasts to chose the best and it's been missed on those reviews too.
There's a 4AB on board and I should be focusing on that but instead I feel really down about the fact that I now only have this plus one more (my lowest grade) left, before I have to make a difficult decision about whether to go again, when I thought that was three more transfers away.
I then got a massive headache last night, so all in all it's not the best start to the 2WW! It feels like the pressure is really on now, which is never helpful.
Sorry for the ramble, hope you are faring ok with your wait @Anxiousbuthopeful