Starting the journey thread 2

[squirrelnutkins1]

So we're nearly at 1000 posts.... setting this up ready for round 2 when the other is full.

I've tagged all the regulars I think (please forgive me if not ❤️❤️❤️) and anyone else who has commented on the thread ever if you'd like to come back and fill us in!

Here's to support and success 🎉💐

@2fingers22018
@VenusStarr
@Kelly199
@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF
@CloudSway
@GreyC
@veeboo
@mrsmch123

@bump2be
@ells0204
@claudie86
@nataliejayne26
@trying81
@sl85
@pinkroseuk
@chloeh99
@daisymay25

Hi everyone!

@squirrelnutkins1 sorry your feeling pressured about dtd you should deffo take a break from it if that’s what you need to do! Am glad other things are moving forward for you! The whole process is tough but I’m just trying to stay positive that I have a sticky bean and that we’ve got this far! 6 week scan is 2 weeks tomorrow so counting down to that now!!

@CloudSway welcome back and thankyou!! Sounds like you are both moving on the right direction and you sound positive about it so that’s good! I am sorry that you got upset about seeing your friend pregnant must be tough!

@2fingers22018 thankyou! How are you feeling?

@Kelly199 glad your doggy is ok!! Thankyou I’m trying to take it one day at a time next count down is scan in 2 weeks tomorrow so am hoping I make it to then and that everything is fine as it’s also the day we go away! I’m feeling exhausted I mean absolutely drained can’t remember feeling like this with dd but that was ages ago!

I have my fingers crossed for all of you and I hope you don’t mind me sticking around to see your journeys aswell? Xx

Ps sorry if I’ve missed anyone am trying to catchup still so will go back through

@squirrelnutkins1 seriously?! Thats ridiculous that they put u with her id complain they need to b more compassionate @Kelly199 glad ur dogs on the mend soo stressful. Wow cant believe ur sister puts u through that i know shes ur sis and u love her regardless but thats not fair. Wonder what she d do if she actually became pregnant? My sister is supportive and asks if im k but i feel bad she even has to think bout that, she should b enjoyin her moment not worryin bout me ugggh

Thanks girls 😘 glad I can rant to you guys. I nearly said oh it's ok cus I liked her but then thought no, this is for me and seeing her bump get bigger every session isn't going to help me.

Wow you're with little ones every day. That must be tough and I can imagine some of the parents you see aren't exactly... well... yno! Glad you're enjoying tai chi 👍🏻@GreyC

@veeboo well I had a mini wallow 🤣 I'm doing slimming world and normally save my naught treats til nighttime but I just had a huge stuff my face urgh so had a little pig out, then gym 🙈
Oh my life, poor thing having to face your friend having an abortion 😳

Thank you 😘 @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF yes stay with us! I want updates!! We're all headed there, we're just a little behind you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@2fingers22018 I might do yno. It really wasn't very fair ☹️

@Kelly199 how awful of your sis being like that ☹️☹️☹️ big hugs xxx I wish we didn't all have such crappy things to bear x

@squirrelnutkins1 i seriously feel annoyed for u! As u said this is for u its bout helpin u shouldnt have been put in that position plenty of counsellors they could have put u with..the fact she said to her boss shows u she felt awkward and knew it wasnt right hugs

@veeboo tried to skim read wow seein ur friend go through an abortion thats rough x

Thanks girls. This situation is all very complicated isnt it. @kelly199 I'm sorry your sister is like that. It doesn't sound right at all.

@squirrelnutkins1 Oh my god, that is pretty awful of them. It's different if you are being referred for something and they don't realise, but why on earth would they arrange for you to have that lady when they know your situation?! They normally do feedback forms when you leave so if you haven't by then, I would definitely point out the insensitivity in case they do it to someone else!😡
Also thanks, I really do value this chat room, I def couldn't admit out loud everything I feel about my friend/other people I find out are pregnant, all I could say to DH about why I was having a tough time was just that it was hard seeing her. Luckily I feel all these weird angry emotions for a while and so far it has always settled down, I'm now feeling more like I should for her again thank god!

@veeboo are you pleased you've told people? By and large I am, I think I might struggle if it should all go pear shaped because I'll have to gradually update so many people, but at the moment im the same, 99% of people that know have been incredibly understanding. Well done for navigating through an abortion situation, that must bring some pretty complicated feelings x

@2fingers22018 I'm sorry you have the same thing with your sister, that must make it even worse! You're right, I get caught up thinking about how much I want to be involved in her amazing journey, but if I spend too much time I get upset, it's so unfair for her that I can't be there for her like I should.

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF of course you can hang around to see how we get on! There won't be a ceremonial kicking out lol, you'll just have to have the awkward job of censoring yourself a bit so as not to upset anyone, which i know you would do anyway. Don't let us rain on your parade too much though, I hope you are living it large in the newly pregnant chat threads!!

@Kelly199 I'm sorry about your sister, congratulations on not killing her yet.... !

@squirrelnutkins1 glad the gym helped. Such a horrible situation when you're trying to get help! They should've known better. Not good enough. Hope you're feeling better today xx

@GreyC hope you're ok. Must be really hard for you to work with children.
Hope you're enjoying tai chi. I've never actually heard of it before, I'll have a nose now.
I'm trying to book in for acupuncture too, but the person is like a slug with emails back and forth! Suppose they're busy and I'm just impatient 😂 xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF exciting for scan! Bet it can't come quick enough. Loads of people say the tiredness is horrible don't they?! Hope you're ok today and of course you can stay with us! We've all been together for w long time for this result, so we will continue the journey together xx

@2fingers22018 I know I obviously love her to bits and we're quite close really, but it's really getting on my nerves now. The disappointment every month and then that's just the icing on the cake every month!!
Honestly, I don't know. I suppose it would put a strain on their relationship because he's so against it, but it will be what it'll be I suppose xx

@veeboo Sorry to see your friend go through an abortion!! World is unfair! Sending hugs xx

@CloudSway Tell me about it! How are you? Hope you're ok xx

Hope everyone else is ok too

Hi @CloudSway yes I am pleased. Its helped at work and I don't think any of my friends expect an update. People did ask questions early on and I was just really honest that it was unhelpful. They let me lead and if I didnt want to go into detail I dont think they would expect it. I don't know if i will tell them when we start IUI for example. That said I have been really careful in choosing who I tell...I don't have a mum and havent told brothers/dad yet and I havent told any friends who I thought might ask too many questions or tell others. Fx it's working out okay.

@veeboo its a hard thing for men especially to understand i think, glad uve got sum ppl u can confide in tho

@2fingers22018 @Kelly199 @CloudSway Thanks girls. Nice to feel supported and that it's not just me being sensitive.
I think I will complain/give feedback. The nature of the service is to make people feel better and that certainly didn't make me feel good.

How are you feeling @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF

I've come on today, cd27. I'm glad I've decided to go with the Letrazole because my cycles def aren't regular. I feel a bit angry that I've come on but also feel excited to start Letrazole.

How is everyone? It's meant to be super hot today xx

@squirrelnutkins1 just trying to catch up with everything!! Sorry af came but at least you can’t start in the letrazole! Exciting!! I’m ok feeling exhausted but am anxious so anxious in fact I have booked another blood test to check that my hcg is going up as in my initial excitement forgot to ask what the number was and when I did it seemed low to me so want a bit of reassurance I guess. i did two tests this morning and got nice stronger then before lines so trying to be hopeful!!

Thankyou for saying I can stay I will obviously be mindful of everyone I know everyone is going through a lot of tough times but want to see all of your progress and offer support where I can ❤️

Hope you all enjoy the nice weather today!! Xx

@squirrelnutkins1 sorry u got ur af i feel angry when i get mine aswell its just soo frustrating! Def complain itl make u feel better knowin they might not do it to someone else. Ive pulled a muscle in my back and the past few days ive been on LOADS of painkillers thatv been makin me sick im convinced im jinxed or sumones put a curse on me lol headin over to my cousins tonight for a catch up fx it feels a bit better by then!

Hello ladies

@Kelly199 it’s ok most of the time it’s the endless looking at pregnant mums who are younger than me and on their second and third child!
I love my job so it’s ok usually- although I think for ivf appointments I’m going to have to take some unpaid days which annoys me as it’s seen as ‘elective’ and a choice. Which gets my back up.

Weather looking fantastic today - garden and bbq day at last!!

@GreyC contact ur union to make sure because i dnt see how infertility problems are by choice, who the hell would select that. Sum workplaces really get my goat! Sorry theyr not bein helpful

Im up north not soo sunny here just hot lol

@2fingers - ooogreat idea! I will contact them on Monday. Exactly who would ever want to do this through choice!?

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF glad you're doing ok. Let us know how your blood test result goes, I can totally imagine the anxiety, especially with what a journey you've had! Of course, we're all in this together ❤️

@2fingers22018 oh no! Hope your back feels better soon!!! Have a lovely evening catching up with your cousin 😊

@GreyC it's crazy isn't it. The policy at my work is that it's down to manager discretion how you're handled with regards fertility treatment!! She's away on hol at the mo and had to cancel our 121 before she went off so I've not got an answer yet as to how things will be. I'm hoping she'll be reasonable. Enjoy your bbq!

Hope everyone else is ok and not too hot! The car temp said 25 degrees but it feels more like 40! X

@GreyC gd luck x @squirrelnutkins1 decided to head over to hers instead my backs too sore to tidy up before she came over lol

Sat at the bbq with family friends and have been told you’ll be next to have a baby; when are you having a baby you’ve been together longer than x y z and they have a baby- they don’t know the struggle we are having.. My DP just said ‘we have two dogs Instead’

☹️ Hugs xxx glad DH managed to say something to deflect. Still hurts tho. Lots of love @GreyC