Starting the journey thread 2

[squirrelnutkins1]

So we're nearly at 1000 posts.... setting this up ready for round 2 when the other is full.

I've tagged all the regulars I think (please forgive me if not ❤️❤️❤️) and anyone else who has commented on the thread ever if you'd like to come back and fill us in!

Here's to support and success 🎉💐

@2fingers22018
@VenusStarr
@Kelly199
@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF
@CloudSway
@GreyC
@veeboo
@mrsmch123

@bump2be
@ells0204
@claudie86
@nataliejayne26
@trying81
@sl85
@pinkroseuk
@chloeh99
@daisymay25

@finallytakingtheplungewithivf you are pregnant!! That is so amazing. Congratulations again.

@veeboo thank you so much xx

Congratulations @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF
I am so so happy for you. I hope I get mine too when we commence our IVF soon 💕❤️

Yay great news... officially!! Xxx

@GreyC thankyou! I have my fingers and toes crossed for you all!! Xx

@squirrelnutkins1 thanks!! Xx

Woohoo! It's official @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF congratulations!! 🎉🎉🎉

Thanks @VenusStarr!! Slept a bit better last night!

How is everyone else doing? @Kelly199 how is your doggy I hope she is ok? Xx

@Kelly199 yes how is your dog?? Poor little thing ☹️

@veeboo OH is a bit better thank you. A few bits in other areas of our life seem to be moving forward a little so that's good and is helping brighten our spirits a little.

I felt quite low yesterday out of no where and told OH I don't want to dtd anymore this month 🙈 I just need a break and he was fine with that (unless we actually want to I mean). Yep we might miss our chance if I ovulate late but I felt like my head was going to explode with the pressure of dtd so much. I feel a bit guilty but just making that decision has taken quite a bit of pressure off already.

Sorry for the download of thoughts there!!

How is everyone today? @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF @VenusStarr @GreyC @2fingers22018 @CloudSway @KH87 @BumpyRoad84 sorry if I've missed anyone xx

@squirrelnutkins1 if you feel better that's the right thing to do. As much as we all want this we shouldn't force ourselves to have sex to the detriment of our mental health or when we dont want to. I also felt relieved when we had a month off after my hsg.

@kelly199 as others have said hope your dog is okay?

Hope everyone okay today. Symptom spotting has commenced. I woke up today with the itchiness boob ever. I'm only 2dpo so I'm sure it's nothing but its driven me crazy!!

Hi guys, it's been a long time for a couple of reasons, but mostly because everytime I logged onto mumsnet it told me I had to agree to a privacy thing but wouldn't let me click accept!
So I have a ton of catching up to do, but huge congratulations @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF!! I'm so delighted it worked for you, I feel like all I've seen recently were unsuccessful stories so it cheers me up no end to see someone get a good result - you deserve it, I'm so pleased for you 😁🤗

While I've been off I got a great letter from the clinic summarising our meeting, they have confirmed my egg reserve is on the low side, but been really clear about what's next. DH is taking his lifestyle change super seriously and he has always struggled with food and his weight but he's list 6 pounds each week and packing in all the recommended foods and supplements, and we're both feeling really positive.

However, I also had a wobbly week. My best friend started ttc because she has known literally from the start of us ttc, and saw how we were struggling, then awkwardly got bfp after 3 cycles. Yes I cried, she didn't take it personally. It's put a strain on our relationship but we worked through it, both overshare and she is really good with me, but we chat about her pregnancy and my troubles all the time. Hadn't seen her in a while and when we met up she has ballooned, and it massively hit me. It's fine talking by phone, but seeing it really upset me. I should have just told her but I powered through then felt like shit for 2 weeks because it's so horrible knowing you feel angry and insanely jealous of someone you're supposed to be happy for. Im pretty good natured but i find myself thinking they dont deserve it, which is just awful. I feel better this week, the jealousy is less but I still feel like a terrible person 😞

Hope everyone else is okay, I'll try to catch up with all the news

@veeboo def got to look after ourselves. I think we're all so far along in this now that we really have got to take that extra care because we've all got big things ahead. It'll all be worth it as we've seen from our very own lil miracle from @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF but all the injections etc have sounded hard, so I just feel like being in a good head space prior to that (whatever that is, Letrazole, IUI, IVF etc etc) would really help.

I'm in a babbling mood today, just writing whatever pops into my brain! X

@squirrelnutkins1 I completely agree, it's not good for anyone or anything when we're in a bad headspace, so whatever you have to do to feel more 'normal' or just more like ourselves is the right thing to do.
I am one of those nutters who has told a lot of people about our situation in a serious but low key way, I've regularly been told that's a bad idea but I've made it clear to everyone that it's not something they should ask me about unless I offer up info, and for me it stops me feeling like I have this big dirty secret as a burden. To each their own way of dealing!

@squirrelnutkins1 ur not babbling makes perfect sense. We ve not been actively tryin either tryin to take the pressure off my oh and just not bring it up for a while but its really hard @CloudSway mumsnet wouldnt let me log in for a while few wks ago soo annoyin! Glad to c ur back. Im in a similiar situation with my sister its soo shit isnt it?! Dnt feel guilty i know its easier said than done i feel the same i feel guilty and ive been avoiding her it literally makes me feel sick to my stomach cause we re soo close i know she feels it too. I dnt think we re jealous(or maybe im just kidding myself on) more hurt that all this heartache is bein rubbed in our faces..not that theyr doin it on purpose obvs theyr happy and talk bout it all the time but its a hard pill to swallow. I feel like family and friends were my safe place to meet up and distract from all this but when someone so close to u is pregnant its all everyone talks bout 24/7 and she got pregnant on her 1st cycle tryin how is it that fair? X

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF congrats ur givin us all hope it might work🍾

@CloudSway big hugs to you. So sorry you're in that hard situation. I think you are SO brave to admit you've had those thoughts. I've had some mean thoughts, which has surprised me then I've felt so ashamed I've felt like that but I've not been brave enough to admit that before. That's what I love about this forum, it's a safe, anonymous space to share and vent and no one will judge xx
Well done to OH for losing weight and being healthy that's great!! My OH has finally started this week he's been to the gym 4 times and eating no rubbish 🎉

@2fingers22018 big hugs. Must be super hard with it being your sister 💔 hope your OH doesn't have to wait too long for his counselling.
Mines today 😳

@squirrelnutkins1 im sure we ve all felt it at 1point and as u said do u know what we re only human we re not nasty ppl its just hard, your right no one is judging thats why all u ladies are soo great💜Gd luck with ur counselling it honestly gets easier x

@Kelly199 r u ok? I hope ur little dogs alrite x

Wow, I've missed a lot!!
Firstly, big congratulations @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF for the official bfp!!! So so happy for you, honestly!! Gives us all hope and I really hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. Keep us up to date with everything. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for next cycle for me now 🤞🏼 hope you're feeling xx

@veeboo feeling a bit weird about it to be honest because I hope that she isn't going to be funny that I've stayed on the nhs list for this appt before I've finished the clomid! I've read somewhere though that they say if it hasn't worked in 2-3 cycles, possibly look at moving on to something else, so we'll see! I paid privately when I last saw her, but entitled to nhs one so I'm just going to go it's only to discuss what's next!
How are you?
I would've also assumed ovulation was Monday if you had +opk Sunday? I think you can get ewcm during your fertile period anyway, so wouldn't worry. I don't normally have ewcm, but noticed it last month and it was before my +opk, so think it's just the fertile period.
It's hard not to symptom spot!! I can't help but do it in the 2ww xx

@2fingers22018 sorry your oh is stressed out and obviously you too! It is hard when you know you have to dtd!!
Sorry about your sister. That's so hard.
My sisters partner has said for a long time he's not ready for children etc. and has said if she gets pregnant they're getting rid even though she says she wouldn't do it as she previously had an abortion as a teen, but as soon as they found out we were ttc, she came off the pill after years because she was "feeling horrible on it" and every single month now is saying aww I was late this month and felt so bad for you thinking I was pregnant. It's really annoying me because there's obviously isn't a one off accident when it's every month. It's their lives if that's what they want and obviously not doing anything to stop and use contraception so please stop pretending you're feeling bad for me. If she was I'd be happy for her, but obviously upset too especially given the circumstances 🙄 rant over lol. I know I sound bitter, but just doesn't seem fair does it?
Hope you're ok xx

@squirrelnutkins1 sorry you felt low. I don't blame you, I think if this month isn't successful, I'm going to take a break - see how I'll feel. Although, I'll be seeing the gyn/FS on the 11th so see what she says too. Hope you'll be ok. Good luck on your counselling!! Let us know how it goes xx

@CloudSway good that your oh is doing good with his weight etc.
Glad you're both feeling positive. Fingers crossed for you.
So sorry about your best friend. So hard for you.
Sending hugs xx

Dog doing much better today thank you. There was so much blood I was panicking!! Antibiotics have worked though thankfully!!

Hope everyone else is ok sorry if I've missed anyone.

After about half an hour of the session she said, "I do have to be honest, I'm expecting". Now I'm just crying in the car ☹️

@squirrelnutkins1 omg!!!! So unfair!! Sending so much love and hugs ❤️❤️

She said she'd mentioned it to her team leader but because I may not have turned up or may not have been appropriate for counselling they kept me with her! Turns out I am suitable so I've opted to be transferred to another counsellor. I got on well with her up until that point. She was really nice and easy to speak to 🙄 urgh. @Kelly199

@squirrelnutkins1 it's so shitty! They should've put you with someone else regardless of whether they thought you'd turn up or not. Should've been in place just in case. So unfair. I'm so so sorry.
I really hope the person you speak to next time is really nice too. ❤️💫

Thanks hun xxx just been to the gym so I wouldn't end up going to a too dark place! Always makes me feel a bit better @Kelly199

@squirrelnutkins1 I understand how you feel!
TTC is so hard on our mental health as it is literally consuming.
I’ve started Tai Chi and have my first acupuncture come Monday so I am trying to make positive life changes and enjoy it.
We only dtd once in my fertile week as we both just needed a break tbh and I’ve been really grumpy! I think once you’ve been through GP etc it’s even harder as you know you won’t be like every 6 couple who just get it done 4 months in. So mentally you have to prepare yourself every month.
I find it really hard being a teach to little ones too as I see so many things and often wonder how fair it all is.
Also well done for going and changing as I know I’d be all ‘oh it doesn’t matter’ when it actually really does matter!

Oh @squirrelnutkins1 what a bloody nightmare. Well done for going to the gym and not wallowing. Hope there is no delay for a new counsellor.

@2fingers22018 I had missed that your sister was pregnant. That must be particularly tricky. I think your emotions are understandable. My friend had an abortion last week and that was a weird one to navigate.

@cloudsway I am in the same camp as you...told loads of people but chosen them carefully. I find since I have I get far fewer stupid questions and feel much more in control. All have been discreet and kind.