New year, new 'starting the journey' thread

[CloudSway]

I know there are a lot of threads about people starting out, but they were all started a while ago and everyone seems a lot further ahead these days.

So.... newbies unite?

DH and I have been ttc for 2yrs. Saw our gp who ordered blood tests and sperm tests. He gave us a boat load of info..... jokes, he was pants. Told me I was 'fine' and husband was 'not fine', only detail was that DH has 4mil out of a necessary 16mil sperm, mentioned ivf and referred us to a specialist. That's all the info we got. Today I had a transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound. It was not the most fun 20 mins of my life but it was fine, now I'm trying to play Sherlock and figure out what the random numbers the radiologist was shouting about my ovaries meant. How about you?

Because I'm early stages, I avoided forums/Google etc because I'm prone to anxiety and didn't want to panic unnecessarily. Therefore apologies but I'm still trying to figure out all the abbreviations and lingo! Also sorry, I'm naturally sarcastic and a bit sweary, but that doesn't mean I'm insensitive - it would be great to share stories and support each other here

@sl85 they did an internal scan during my hycosy..has anyone else had the same ladies?

@squirrelnutkins1 it's Thursday which I'm hoping works well as I'm due to ovulate Sat or Sunday. I agree it's good to hear other people's stories anyhow every one is managing. It makes it feel a bit more manageable. They said they should be able to tell me the results straight away on Thursday so I'm hoping if they find something they will advise what that means for next steps.

@veeboo when I had HSG they could tell straight away if it was good news or bad news - but that's all they would say. It might be worth bearing in mind that the HSG is performed by a radiologist (not a fertility expert so they may not be able to tell you much). When I had mine the radiologist said my tubes were blocked but that my fertility consultant would discuss the results further and let me know options.

@2fingers22018 hmm I don't know then...I had the scan at a different time to you. Is it worth googling?! I'll have a look in that book I mentioned to see if it's mentioned

@2fingers22018 just had a quick look on google and it says an ovary can be enlarged due to an egg maturing ready for release - so depending on the stage of your cycle when you had HSG, maybe that's why?

@sl85 thanks for checking maybe..just they said oh wow its really large dont worry tho u dnt have cysts i was kind of taken aback it wasnt until a couple of days later i started worrying x

Thanks @sl85. The nurse in the fertility clinic who talked me through my ultrasound results said that she will be there when I have the procedure and usually she can discuss the results. She did say though that we come back in to see the consultant after this anyway to discuss whether IUI still the right way forward. I was really surprised but glad she said she would be there, I think it's reassuring.

@veeboo ah that's really good. I wish that had been the case for me. The radiologist was very abrupt, told me it was bad news, tubes were blocked and to speak to my consultant. I had to wait 6 weeks for an appt with my consultant and I had a meltdown in the meantime. I was in limbo for 6 weeks not knowing what everything meant and it really took its toll. I would rather him have told me nothing and that my results would be explained by my consultant!

@sl85 that sounds like a terrible approach! Im so sorry that happened. I can't believe they would think that's the right way to deal with that.

@veeboo all the very best for tomorro. Let us know how you go ❤️

Hi x 20 to cover all the newbies!

It's really lovely to hear people say we are all very understanding... having said that, I don't understand what a hycosy is lol, is it the same as a transvaginal ultra sound? Both my gp and radiologist have been very tight lipped which is frustrating but hearing your stories maybe for the best... all I know is based on blood and sperm the go basically threw the blame at my husband. Very professional!

Hope everyone having/booking holidays enjoys them. We've booked new york for May, I just feel like life is too short to not make plans, if all I'm doing is waiting a completely unknown amount of time for tests, ivf etc then I will go bonkers. At least this way I know I'll have some good experiences this year even if I get a ton of bad news too 😬

@CloudSway I had a HyCoSy (short term for Hysterosalpingo Contrast Sonography). It's basically the dye test. I'm pretty sure (although I may be wrong) it's the same as HSG. They do the transvaginal during the procedure to have a look once dye is injected (I think).

Yes, hope you all enjoy your hols!!
New York sounds amazing!! I'd love to go! Hope you'll have a lovely time xx

@CloudSway i think @Kelly199 described the hycosy better than i could lol theyr basically checking for blockages in your tubes. Everyone enjoy any upcoming hols! I think itl b day trips or weekends away for us this summer im keeping my savings for back up private ivf, not to mention we need new windows fitted not exactly a fun way to spend our money but needs must eh?

I think the only difference is one uses ultrasound and one uses X-ray to see any blockages. There must be something special in the solution to show up on X-ray. I had HSG which uses x-ray.
You're welcome for my very technical answer.... not 🤪🤪🤪🤣🤣🤣

@2fingers22018 lol. Makes a change, I'm usually clueless with it all. Learning along the way.
Yeah, me too. Prob just have few weekends away instead. Skip this year for abroad and see how it pans out with everything. May need one next year!! Lol xx

@squirrelnutkins1 aaahh i did not know that lol you feel as if you need a degree half the time with all this stuff😂@Kelly199 the only stuff i know is through dr google lol everydays a school day with ttc x

@2fingers22018 🤣🤣🤣

No hols booked for us either. I'd normally be itching to have something booked by now!! Got stuff to sort house wise as well 😏 hard being a grown up 😝

@squirrelnutkins i cant c that emoji my fone is rubbish lol i know adulting 😂

My OH was sayin the same thing the other day he said cant wait until the weekend to paint my shed paused n said oh my god im turning into my dad😂

@squirrelnutkins1 there we are. At least someone knows 🤣
@2fingers22018 yeah I always use google too! Too much terminology for my liking 🤣
I wish my OH would volunteer himself to paint the shed, instead I have to nag for ANYTHING to be done in the house 😂

@Kelly199 oh he wnt clean the toilet or anything just diy 😂

@2fingers22018 I usually do all the cleaning, his job is to load the dishwasher 😂 he will help clean if people are coming over or the Tesco man comes to the house ? 🤔😂 that's as far as it goes. Doesn't like to do any diy. I have to nag and nag. He'd never volunteer himself for any diy 😂😂 so I'd never here "I can't wait to paint the shed" hahaha!

Hear*

@Kelly199 haha men eh? Hows he coping with ttc? Men dont open up like we do do they? It makes it harder i was speaking to my OH about it all and he says he doesnt want to tel me hes upset because ive got enough to worry about i get it but it sometimes comes across as he doesnt think about it x